this lady who is homeless begged me for a dollar, so I gave her $2 and i saw her face she was actually pretty cute.. i am thinking about asking her out for dinner...
is this just completely crazy and wrong?
2007-11-01 04:48:09 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You should definitely ask her out! ANYONE can have circumstances bring them to her position. anyone.
However, please be careful. I say that because I do not know the woman. She does deserve our benifit of the doubt, but be cautious, nonetheless. It's a fact that many people who are homeless do have a mental illness, are alcoholics, or have a number of other completely treatable 'problems' that force them into the streets. There is nothing wrong with that, but just make sure she will be dateable. You don't want her to end up stalking you or something. So be careful.
However (again) it is very likely that there is nothing 'wrong' with her except that she has had some very bad luck. To her, you may be seen as a saviour, so be careful there to. Do you really want to drop her off in an alleyway while you go back to your bed? Probably not, if you have any human emotions. Just make sure you keep your intentions clear to her as well as yourself. Date or Helper??? If you try it right, I don't see why you can't be both....as long as she is willing to help herself as much as you are. No free hand outs.
But all that said...she sounds like she is a lovely woman who is down on her luck. Ask her out! I suggest dinner AND an activity...that way you know she's not just after a free meal. Mini golf is a great first date game! Movies suck though as you can't have decent conversation. Just be creative and remember to think ahead. Obviously she's special if you can see though the dirt. Oh, if I were her, I'd love it if you offered a shower at your place. That is, if you have been convinced she is no threat.
2007-11-01 05:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by Rainy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people are homeless because of a chain of events that forced them out of their home. IE: Layoff at work, inability to keep up mortgages, foreclosure.........Catastrophic medical expenses, etc........ So "There but the Grace of God Go I" it could happen to any of us.
I think it has got to be humiliating to be homeless (for most, anyway) and you tend to feel dehumanized as well. Women especially can feel like they are invisible and non-woman when they are grouped up in the homeless category, when in fact we all need love and caring. We all need to feel like we are special and worthy of being cared for. Everyone has something to offer and everyone needs the opportunity to give as well as take.
Having said that, I think it's says much about you to look deeper than the hand outstretched to beg. It means you see this hand attached to a human being, a woman. You might be amazed to hear her story and watch her blossom as a result of human kindness and compassion.
Long answer short: There is nothing wrong with asking her out to dinner.
2007-11-01 05:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by Mdme. Mango Keeps it Real 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take her out and in a nice way ask her if she has some place to freshen up or could you help her find a place to. I wouldn't take her back to my place right away a nice hotel room after you take her shopping for a few items clothes bath products and such then wait for her in the lobby while she gets ready carry her to eat and a night out and there you go wham Bam you have it in the bag. Even though it seems you are being nice to her for all the wrong reasons.
2007-11-01 04:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by John S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will be eternally grateful to you and never leave you!
lol
Are you going to buy her som rid x for the lice first or take her as is???
Edit
It looks like you hit a nerve with this question. I hope you are joking? Some people just cant take a joke....
2007-11-01 06:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by staymay 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yo man ... go do you!
She sounds like she's used to that 1 night thing also.
A Romeo with a strong Civic Conscience
Take her on a date ... make her whole year!
2007-11-01 04:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by Ronatnyu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a little out of the ordinary I would think. It is a little odd but not wrong. I guess there is nothing wrong with it. She could probably use a good meal.
2007-11-01 04:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by Betrdz 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I bet she'd love to go to dinner with you! Being homeless can happen to anyone of us...not just the ugly people.
2007-11-01 04:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by Grants a tractor luvr! 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Look on the positive side - you can take her to McDonalds and she will be impressed... and at the end of the date you can drop her off anywhere because she is homeless !
2007-11-01 04:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by Beast from the East 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'd like to see a picture of you too out on a date :P
She needs some loving too!
2007-11-01 04:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by evasive_eyes 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The key words might be..... "Motive" & "End Result"
A Note To All!
I sifted through this persons posts.....he's not what he seems to be! Read his earlier post!
2007-11-01 05:09:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋