IE if someone is 30+ and hasn't found mister/Mrs right then there is something wrong with them! or at least that's the presumption most people make!
people don't think "well maybe marriage isn't for them" or " maybe they like there own company", people just expect that everyone should be married, its not a choice, its a thing you do in life!
2007-11-01 04:21:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
people should follow there own paths not what other people consider the "norm" for them..i i didn't listen to my heart i just went with the "flow" and ended up very unhappy , for quite a few years .... :)
2007-11-01 07:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by casha1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is definitely not forced on you. Just because you have friends who get drunk, do you have to? We all make choices in life and we are all different in some way. I think because most of us feel driven to find someone to share our life with, that we just don't understand what is not naturally part of our make-up. I don't believe that means that there is something wrong with you and I think most people would agree with me about that. But some people will make comments or ask questions when they run across something they can't relate to. Most of the time, they don't necessarily mean to be offensive or insulting. They just want to try to understand what it is that makes you a little bit different than most of us.
Whether it's because Mrs. Right just hasn't crossed your path or you just feel comfortable being on your own, or have a fear of commitment really doesn't matter. You shouldn't allow society to influence these personal choices because you are the one who would have to live with it.
It just may be that you are looking for a little more than the people around you and that what you are looking for isn't so easy to find!
If you are comfortable with your life the way it is, none of the reasons should matter any more than other people's opinions.
2007-11-01 05:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not forced. Marriage is what everybody wants but due to others lousy first marriage track records or an unstructured family life, there are those who expect unrealistic or are fine with just playing til they grow too old, get pregnant, or living together for years while having kids to see if it's a good fit. You can't ask for others to respect you when you don't respect yourself!
I'm 38 and just waiting for the right woman to marry. I know that's pretty bad considering all the women I've met but I refuse to lose my house, assets, savings, and full custody of my son to some good woman turned BIMBO lol! Yep, prenupt:))).
2007-11-01 05:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by Octoro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its true, even I wonder when I meet someone in their late forties thats never married " whats wrong with them" and that is very judgemental to do. But society keeps changing and people definitaly feel a lot less pressure to marry and many have children and live together and never marry. I didn't feel like society forced me, but it is the most accepted route if you are going to have children. Single parents are still judged very harshly.
2007-11-01 04:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the way it used to be but now I think you can be 50 and never married and no 1 bats an eye as long as you've dated all along and are a social person if your a recluse and don't date then yea your odd and there will be perceptions put on you
2007-11-01 04:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by Bow Hunter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because mankind has been around for more than many millions of years..and marriage has always been respected and good ones admired.. I would say that experience tells mankind that marriage is good for us as a people united in furthering learning about one another and being deeply ( rather than selfishly for the moment ( immaturity ) committed to one another.
Selfish and immature people jump from one sexual experience to another ..while mature people understand the value of human life.
It is the way it is because it works for mature people willing to respect and honor others. Fakers ( immature people, children or adults ) cannot grasp the importance of the feelings of others enough to learn how and why to take the time to love someone else for a lifetime.
2007-11-01 04:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa of America 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think marriage being forced by society is a thing of the past....More and more people are choosing to remain single or waiting longer to marry....There is nothing wrong with either....
2007-11-01 04:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think more and more people are doing what they want and not worrying about what society dictates. There are some people (several I know) that want to remain single. They are very career-oriented and strong willed people. they are also set in their ways. I don't think there's a thing wrong with it. If marriage isn't for them, why bother?
2007-11-01 04:24:55 · answer #8 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is better to respect the institution than to get married and divorced several times. Dont worry about what others think.
2007-11-01 04:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by eric l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why ruin one person's life when i can bring joy to so many others?
2007-11-01 04:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋