They were hurtful, controlling and down right mean. Now, I find myself feeling very lonely and unmotivated to do anything. Any suggestions as to how I can recreate the person I use to be and become independent in my activities to enjoy life more on my own. I don't do anything anymore except work, sleep, and answer questions on this site. Need a life!
2007-11-01 04:20:26 · 14 answers · asked by Ally S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow! so far you guys are great!!!!!
2007-11-01 04:28:55 · update #1
Good for you. I did the same about 4 years ago and I've never been happier. It just takes awhile to get used to the lighter load without the weight of their drama and misery.
Take a class at a local college or learning annex, join a club, volunteer. Reconnect with something you really enjoyed as a child and try it again -- as an adult! I volunteer at a local organic farm and I love it more than I thought I ever would. As soon as you start meeting some new people you'll be glad you're on a fresh path meeting new friends. Create a list of things you'd like to try, places you'd like to visit and make yourself follow though on completing them.
Good luck!
2007-11-01 04:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by slave2art 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...
It's a good thing to rid yourself of people who make life miserable, and who are not good for your emotional well-being. I've done it before, and when i think about it, i'm better of ALONE than being around people who are negative and who bring everyone around them down....
I am in a situation where i spend most of my time alone... i am an artist, and spend a lot of time painting. I also like to make cards, and do that... i have pets which take up some of my time, also.. we walk, and play together.
You could find yourself a hobby, something to keep you occupied in your spare time. You might also consider joining a gym or taking a class which helps you to focus, such as karate? You might try swimming a couple times a week, or perhaps you have an acquaintance or two you'd like to get to know better -- invite them to lunch or shopping.
Another thing you could do, is spend time with family if you have them close by.
I sure hope you get some good answers here... i know it's difficult being alone all of the time, but sometimes, it's better than the alternative! I hope it works out for you, and that you get some good answers here for help and advice... take care!
2007-11-01 04:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel lonely. Feel glad that you got rid of everything that brought you down. You could use a different username and go on a chatroom to see if you enjoy that - Yahoo has lots to choose from - or join an evening class in a leisure interest you haven't studied, meet new people and learn more about something you like.
2007-11-01 04:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by jenesuispasunnombre 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations! It's better to be alone than in bad company! Being alone doesn't automatically equal loneliness...become your own best friend! What do you like to do for fun? Go shopping, see a movie, visit a mueseum, take a drive or a small road trip----yes, girl, by yourself! You'd be surprised at how well you enjoy your own company, and by doing the things and the hobbies you enjoy you can meet people with similar interests and start forming new relationships....kudos to you for dropping the dead weight! :)
2007-11-01 04:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I had to kinda do the same thing. The people I deleted out of my life were not bad people per say, but they had made very very bad choices with their lives and we just had nothing in common anymore. You don't have to enjoy life on your own, go and meet people you have something in common with. Go take up a new hobby or sport and you will feel more refreshed.
2007-11-01 04:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I've NEVER been to the movies or eaten out at a restaurant by myself. I keep telling myself I need to do that, to enjoy myself and curb whatever insecurities I may have. Anyway... maybe you can try that sometimes. Also try to meet people with your same interests and likes. Couple dating is also fun.
2007-11-01 04:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by gatsgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you like to do??? Hobbies??? Places to go??? Do them and meet new friends doing it. You were right for dumping the negative people in your life...now the trick is to replace them with people that make you feel good.
2007-11-01 04:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by Older Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The definition of happiness is "being content fabric with one's self." It doesn't rely how far up the ladder-of-existence we've climbed, incredibly its how we taken care of others as we make the confusing climb to the coolest.
2016-10-03 02:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My philosophy is that you get one spin on this earth, so make sure you surround yourself with people that add value to your life and bring you joy. When you do, you will get back to the person that you were prior to being with the ones that added no value. You get what you give.
My other philosophy is that anyone that does not bring value to my life is flushable.
Harsh, but true.
2007-11-01 04:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Go out at least once a week.......shopping, eating out etc. Take a trip once or twice a year to exotic places. Take up yoga, pilates or bellydancing.
2007-11-01 04:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋