My ex signed over his parental rights when my daughter was 2 and my husband adopted her. He has another daughter with a different woman (He and I were living together- he cheated on me- got this other girl pregnant which caused the breakup. The two daughters are only a few months apart). Even though he and I were no longer together and the other mother was not with him, she and I have done our best to form a friendship and remain in each others lives so our daughters could know each other. We don't discuss him in front of the kids or anything. We just get them together sometimes to play.
The adoption papers from when he signed over his rights to my daughter state no direct or indirect contact until she is 18 years of age- that goes for both sides.
He wanted to sign rights to his other daughter over as well, but the mother needs his child support to get by so it didn't happen.
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2007-11-01 03:49:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Now, he's saying because I take my daughter to play with the other daughter, I'm making indirect contact with him and he's trying to get a court order for me and this other mother to not let the girls see each other anymore. Can he do this?
2007-11-01 03:49:44 · update #1
His visits with the other girl are few and far between. He doesn't pay much attention to her & the only reason she and I keep in touch is because we want the girls to know each other. She and I discuss him privately, but not in front of the kids and neither she or I knows enough about what he's doing now to try to pull anything sneaky. We're doing it for the kids, and he's doing it to retaliate against her for not letting him sign over his rights. He's the one trying to hurt the children by playing his game with them.
2007-11-01 04:00:45 · update #2
>> Now, he's saying because I take my daughter to play with the other daughter, I'm making indirect contact with him and he's trying to get a court order for me and this other mother to not let the girls see each other anymore. Can he do this? <<
No.
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2007-11-01 04:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we would definately hope not. But no matter what, if it goes in front of a judge and you can both state your case. Just because he gave up his parental rights, does not mean that he took sibling rights from either child. And I would want an attorney who can make a strong legal case for that. As well, get the other mothers cooperation. And I would ask the attorney if you are able to tell your child that she is her half sister.
2007-11-01 10:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by Cayuseranch 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he has a leg to stand on. You aren't letting the girls play together when he's around so he still isn't in the picture. You might want a lawyer, though, just to protect your interests. Some men engage in lots of frivolous legal motions just to wear down the mother until she agrees to anything in order to get him off of her back.
2007-11-01 11:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Rebeckah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
would love to see the judges face on this one.............you and the other lady are being very focused about raising your girls and for that I say WELL DONE...........and IMO that is exactly how the judge will see it..........so long as the play dates are pre arranged and you know he will not be there then I can not see HOW on earth he would get away with this.......in that case does that mean that NO ONE he knows can have any contact with you or your daughter............
Let him take you to court over this and I am hopeful that the judge will see him for the idiot that he IS.
regards
2007-11-01 11:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by candy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless the other mother discusses it with him and uses it against him. That is not indirect contact unless he is present in the other girls life.
2007-11-01 10:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by bildymooner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I'm not sure (even though his point his stupid and unfair to the girls). If it came down to it, I would say that you and the other mother are best friends (even if you aren't) and he can't justify his pathetic role as a father to tell you who you can/can't be friends with. Also, him giving up parental rights has nothing to do with you girl getting to know her half-sister.
2007-11-01 10:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by Workcompguru31 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Could happen. I am sure a judge would not believe that you and the other mother never talk about him. This is a "toss-up" judgement and the coin could land on either side.
2007-11-01 10:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by sensible_man 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a real loser a**hole. It's possible, I'd get with the other woman, combine resources and get a good attorney.
2007-11-01 11:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His argument sounds reasonable.
2007-11-01 10:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes
I think so he can
2007-11-01 10:59:53 · answer #10 · answered by shyam s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋