I'm a worried that I might be pregnant.
If I am though then my family would want me to have it but put it up for adoption.
Unfortunately my boyfriend would want me to abort it
and that I refuse to do.
Either way I'd have to get rid of it.
But I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and I want to have his baby.
What can I do???
2007-11-01 03:20:43 · 10 answers · asked by Dollie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm a worried that I might be pregnant.
If I am though then my family would want me to have it but put it up for adoption.
Unfortunately my boyfriend would want me to abort it.
and that I refuse to do because I had to do it when I was younger for reasons I wouldn't like to say.
My boyfriend's ex fiance got pregnant and she had to abort it because they couldn't afford it.
He can't afford it now but I know I can.
Either way I'd have to get rid of it.
I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and I want to have his baby.
What can I do???
2007-11-01 03:40:48 · update #1
1st find out for sure if you are really pregnant then make your own decision disreguarding what everyone else thinks. Do whats right for you.
2007-11-01 03:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by Megan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do? Or what should you do? I think you should do what you think is best for you. Having a baby at anytime is stressful and not easy. It would be great to have support from family and the father, but sometimes that just does not happen. I dont know how old you are so, its hard to give advice, but I think you should wait until you know you are pregnant for sure. You may be worried for nothing. If you are you need to speak with your parents and the father. Really listen to their opinion. If you still feel that keeping it is the right choice, then have it. Your boyfriend only has an opinion, he cant make the choice. It took two to tango, so if he is to late to change the past. I am if you have it, once the baby is here your family will accept the baby. How can you not love a baby?
2007-11-01 10:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen is your decision, a baby is the beautiful thing in the world i tell u because mines has a month and 2 weeks, having him in my hand is so beautiful, let me tell u a guy is replaceable but a baby isn't, even if u abort it he could still leave u, the baby grows n calls u mommy, baby boys defends there mommy's, protects there mommy's, console there mommy's, baby girls talk to there mommy about girls personal stuff, a baby is a gods gift, if your 18 yrs old is all your decision is your body if your 17 well anyway by the time your baby's ready you be 18.don't let no one tell u oh if u have a baby u get fat and ugly. that is not true because i had c section and girl I'm skinny and my body is going back on shape.
2007-11-01 10:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by SLIM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation. I dont not believe abortion is the answer in any situation. If you boyfriend dosent want the baby and isnt ready for that kind of responsibility, you cant make him. Also if he wasnt ready, he could have prevented it.
If you want to raise your baby and be a good mother to it, dont let anyone change your mind. If not, just remember that that baby deserves a good life and there are people out there that cannot have children that would give it a loving home.
2007-11-01 10:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by ashleyod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make your own decision. This is a huge choice that is going to effect the rest of your life, your parent's lives, your boyfriend's life and that babies life. I have personally seen the result of both abortion and adoption. Adoption is alot harder to deal with for other siblings especially because they are always wondering if a stanger could be their brother or sister. And parents regret their decision later in life when they realize they could have taken care of that baby but choose not too. Abortion is a horrible decision because it is not that precious childs fault that you two had sex and created a life that obviously you both are too immature to deal with. A baby is a gift not a burden. Keep it and you won't regret it in 20 years.
2007-11-01 10:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Am's 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a decision right away take some time to relax and think. If you want the baby have it because you don't want to live with the what ifs. Oh and take a pregnancy test first then a few days to relax only time will help you make this decision
2007-11-01 10:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by juv 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you are an adult then it is time to make up your own mind and I am sorry but you think you are pregnant? Get a test and find out for sure. I don't understand why you'd tell anyone you think you are pregnant except you boyfriend without having gone and bought a test and taken it.
2007-11-01 10:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ultimately this is your decision and yours only. It is your body and your baby and not your family's and even though it is also your boyfriend's baby too he does not have the final say in it, only you do. If he doesn't understand why you want to keep the baby then he is not worth it and he is a self centered jerk. Do what you truly believe is the best choice for you. Best of luck :)
2007-11-01 11:13:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are old enough, which I hope you are...Tell them you are doing what you want to do. Your family will come around. Your boyfriend is not your true love if he would want you to abort a child that you and him made together. Think about it. Good Luck.
2007-11-01 10:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by Megan B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, my advice first and foremost, take a pregnancy test! You say you may be pregnant, you could be worrying over nothing. And on a side note, your boyfriend doesn't sound like a particularly nice man. Please consider if he deserves you and your love.
2007-11-01 10:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by My Dose Makes Angels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋