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please help me someone. im so so scared of dying. im 22 years old and i think its wreckin my life.

i have tried not to think about it, and i have tried my prayers and talkin to god etc, but nothin makes me feel any better. im so scared of leaving my family behind, knowin that its the end of my life. i look at other people and think, why arent u scared of dying... or are u?...

i cant sleep thinkin about it, and everyday at some point it crosses my mind. if i get a pain or an ache in y body then i think its the worst thing ever, and i get scared.

i have a smear test next week, and im scared of what ever results come back, because everywere i look there is somethin about cervical cancer. plus so many people around my town seem to be dying.

please, i dont want to go to a councillor, i want to try and do this on my own..
i was just wondering if anyone has or is experiencing this?

only serious answers please.. i really appreciate any advise given.

Answer 1

Hello,

I think everybody is afraid of dying, so you're not unusual. What is unusual is that you are worried about it at such a young age. Usually to younger people, death is something that (a) happens to old people, and (b) is unthinkably far away in the distance.

Usually the minds of young people are filled with fun things, what they've done, what they're going to do tomorrow, how their friends have been, when they're next going to get their hair done, how their boyfriends are.

You don't say that you've talked to your friends or to your parents about this, and I wonder if you have a 'best friend' like most girls do? Perhaps talking to just somebody ordinary, (not to a councillor), would be just as good.

At 22, you are really very young to have a cervical cancer, it is almost if not quite unheard-of at that age. I don't think you need to worry about this particular thing.

It sounds as if you have been exposed to the trauma of other poeple dying in your town, perhaps some of them have been young too?

You say you have a family, so perhaps you could talk to them about it?

Hope this is of some help. Belliger (retired UK GP)

Answer 2

Death is the only sure thing in life. Instead of focusing on death and dying or being ill concentrate on living life to the fullest. Enjoy watching the sunrise and nice weather. Get outdoors with your family or friends.

Everybody gets scared of getting seriously ill but there are doctors that can help us get better. I always told someone that I cared about very much, "think of the people that aren't as fortunate as you. You have the benefit of two eyes, two arms, two legs and a mind. Use them."

Worrying about everything will get you nowhere. Challenge yourself to be more positive and you will make your life a whole heck of alot better.

Answer 3

You are 22 and worring about tommorow you can only live in today not the future or the past but the present.Since you dont want to go to a counsillor and want to try and do it on your own then why are you asking.there is no advice that acn be given since you are addimant that you want to do it by yourself.Phobia of dying never heard of that b4

Answer 4

This may sound strange to you but i actually look forward to dying. I've waited all my life to have my questions answered. Do i just die and nothing else after that or is there more.
Hey don't be afraid of it, nothing scary about it, its just another part of life which every single person and creature will do. and chances are you won't even need to worry about this for another 60 year or so!!! Start enjoying life and stop thinking about how its going to end.

Answer 5

Why are you afraid of dying? It isn't really hard. You just die. You have to find some other things to occupy your mind. Do you work? If not, go find a job that you like. You will drive yourself nuts thinking like this all the time. You only live once. Don't waste it being paranoid over nothing.

Answer 6

Just remember that god has a time for each person to go home to him, live your life to the fullest enjoy the gift of life that god has blessed you with. Don't worry about dying when you are very much alive. You are here for a purpose, thank god for blessing you with the gift of life. There is no greater gift than that.Its a gift enjoy it , don't make your self miserable thinking about it when you can be enjoying the beautiful things that life has to offer you.

Answer 7

okay, calm down....

What you have is a Phobia...it is an unrealistic fear of something happening that probably will not happen any time soon....

as for the cervical cancer, it is treated fairly easy, even in advanced cases...you need to do some research on "fear of cancer", I myself suffer from it...but lets be logical....you are young, you are healthy, you need to work toward destroying these irrational fears before they destroy you....

is there ANYONE you can talk to professionally? Even at your church they should have someone....you need to look for a counselor, it will HELP to talk to someone, whatever you say is confidential....

medication can help if it becomes necessary....

quit reading tragic things, that only makes it worse...

good luck, and now that you see there is a problem, work each day to over come it.

Answer 8

SERIOUSLY- you need councelling. You shouldn't loose sleep every time you get a cramp.

When you see your doctor next week, tell them about your anxiety. They can reffer you to a psych professional. A good psychotherapist will agree to treat you with out using medications, if that's what you're worried about. Avoiding counceling only makes you more likely to "self medicate" with adictive or dangerous behaviors. (alcoholism, cutting, etc.)

GET HELP NOW! IT CAN GET BETTER!

Answer 9

death is the ultimate goal of every single person on the planet. and not one of us knows when that will occur. ask yourself this..."does my worrying about death change anything?" I think the answer is obvious, don't you? why waste all that energy worrying about something that cannot be changed in any way? You rob yourself of life and experiencing every precious moment of it by worrying about something you cannot predict or change.