I know I do! :-)
A young couple (maybe late 20's?) moved into the house right across the road from us...
The BF (YES - they're not married!) works pretty strange hours, and gets home just as my husband leaves for work...
Ive caught him staring at me a few times, and the other day we even bumped in to eachother at the shopping centre... I EVEN NOTICED HIM LOOKING BACK AT ME OVER HIS SHOULDER! Woo Hoo!
Oh man, ladies - why the heck am I so 'aroused' by this guy? I dont even know his name, and besides that - Im married with a daughter...
Hes not even that attractive!
But still, I find myself peeking through our blinds every time I hear him come home from work...
And I might be wrong - but our house is always the first thing he looks at when he gets out of his car every day...
Can anyone explain this? Has anyone been in the same situation?
2007-11-01 01:41:47 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way - Im not quite after a 'toy-boy' just yet - I'm only 20...
This guy is a couple of year older.
2007-11-01 01:55:39 · update #1
You are apparently bored with the routine in your life with your husband and this has added a little spice. You think he finds you attractive, and that gets your blood flowing. Crushes happen, they can even be a good thing every now and then. Just as long as you remember where your heart really is and that is with your husband. Let your husband benefit from your little fantasy about the neighbor. He may not know where the new found libido has come from, but I'm sure he won't complain. Then you will both be having a good time with it.
No I have never lusted after our male neighbors, but then again, the one guy is an over wight man in his late 50's and the other guy just isn't my type....but I have had a couple of short lived crushes on other men.
Have fun with it, but don't do anything that would risk your marriage.
2007-11-01 01:49:07 · answer #1 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wives Next Door
2016-10-28 19:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by awad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a wife, but I know what you are talking about.
A little over a year ago this woman (probably late 20's) moved into the hosue across the street from me and my wife. She's a good looking girl, not a supermodel, but just a good looking woman.
I look at her from time to time if she's getting out of her car or mowing the lawn. I don't take it that far by waiting for her to come home or peeking or staring at her. But I look when I can.
My wife thinks it's funny. She'll pick on me about "my girlfriend across the street"
It was said before by someone: It's lust, curiosity, you thinking in your head "what if..." Remeber to keep it in your head, don't make a fantasy a reality. It will not be be like it is in the movies. You will hurt everyone including youself if you act on anything. Would all that really be worth it?
2007-11-01 01:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sean C 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
this is trouble. i don't believe in cheating and you're focusing on this way too much. it sounds like desperate housewives to me. he may not be attractive, but its exciting and thinking about the prospect of an extramarital affair can be very tempting. believe me, from past experience, absolutely no good can come from cheating. even if u don't get caught, it's on your mind forever. if u value your family and relationship, leave this guy alone. besides, he has a girlfriend just as much as you have a husband and how would u feel if your husband had a thing for the younger girl across the street?
2007-11-01 01:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by Melanie K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go as far as this but I do quite fancy our neighbour. I'm married with a little boy and another on the way, and he's married with two children. I get on really well with the whole family and am often to be found having coffee with his wife. I'd NEVER even consider doing anything but there's nothing wrong with having a bit of a peek and a rude thought here and there! It's not hurting anyone!
And my neighbour isn't that attractive either!
2007-11-01 01:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by Xai 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can't really be this naive.
He obviously thinks you are attractive, and he's checking you out. It doesn't really matter what he looks like --- he's a person that is interested in you, and that makes you feel desirable. You now have a hunger to feel desirable, and you're feeding it by peeking through the blinds at him because you're afraid to do anything more than that. If this continues, you'll begin talking, and then you'll begin flirting, and then one thing will lead to another...
2007-11-01 02:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by mt75689 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time he is coming home in the morning. Open your blinds or curtains part way and put a light under the window shining back and up on you. Start undressing in front of the window for him to watch. As long as he watches continue and after you get naked start masturbating for him to watch. Then see what happens. Maybe he will give you a show from his window and you both can masturbate while you each watch the other. Then tell us how this works for you?
2007-11-01 01:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
LOL...I have a HOT fireman about 8 doors down. He was even on a calendar! He's adorable and flirty but I'm married...I tease my husband and he laughs. My husband knows I love him and would never hurt him. Besides, my husband is pretty hot too! Hotter than the fireman, actually!
It's just fun to think about, doesn't mean you'll start cheating!!
2007-11-01 01:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by Kim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As I'm reading your question, all I can think is "ewwwww"! We have neighbors on either side of us, both men, hence the "ewww" reaction! One of them would have been great in the "Grumpy Old Men" movies, and the other is an alcoholic with significant mental issues, and we suspect he's a perv. Nice neighbors!
But for you - you're married. Don't even go there.
2007-11-01 01:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by N L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are infatuated with this man and you need to get out of that state. You a married woman with a daughter that could not effort to loose it all. You need to tell yourself that this behaviour is wrong and you need to stop this immediately, otherwise you will put yourself into a terrible situation
2007-11-01 01:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋