what do i do if i know about someone that's my age, 16, that is 5 months pregnant, and i'm the only one thatknows. she hasn't even told her ex, mom, dad, or anybody.
2007-11-01 01:39:37 · 19 answers · asked by Amnesty R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
She can go to a free clinic for care, she needs to do this for the health of the child as well as hers.
Her parents should be told. If they are decent people they will be upset but they will still lover her and be willing to help.
The ex needs to be told as does his parents, he is responsible for the child as well. He needs to be a part of this and by law has the right to be.
2007-11-01 01:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by desiree c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's going to have to tell all of the above. Sticking her head in the sand isn't going to make reality or the baby go away.
I guess the real question is how you came to know about it. Did she tell you voluntarily, or did you confront her about it? Has she said anything about her plans? Is she just afraid, or do you think there's an underlying mental problem there?
I will be blunt. She could have had an abortion a long time ago, if that was her plan, and surely she knows that in another month she won't be able to get one legally ANYWHERE. I hope she has a better plan that concealing her pregnancy, giving birth in secret, and throwing the baby in the dumpster afterward. If you get an inkling that she's thinking that way, you MUST tell someone. It's better that she tells her parents herself, though. I don't know if I'd trust her ex to advise her at this point. His first reaction is probably going to be "get rid of the baby and don't let anyone know", and it's just about too late for that.
She should be under a doctor's care. Pregnant women can develop medical conditions that need attention. This is too serious for self-medication or folk remedies. It's best if she tells her parents, but if she won't, she needs to see a doctor. A doctor cannot violate confidentiality laws, if she's worried about that.
2007-11-01 12:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by helene 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you can do is help her get on some prenatal vitamins. You can get these at your grocer or pharmacy. Then explain to her that she is putting her babies health at well as her health at risk. I know how scared she is to tell her parents that she is pregnant because I was 17 and in the same position as she is. But I did tell my mother and it was a relief just to let her know my situation and that I was no longer hiding it from her. That opened the door for me to get some help in the care of my unborn baby as well as help for myself.
Another thing you can do is both of you go to a free clinic and at least get her checked out. Do this for the sake of the baby. Also does the guy that she is pregnant by know of her circumstances? If not he need to be held accountable and know that because he had sex he has created a new life. Please don't let him get away and don't let your friend take on the responsibility by herself.
And lastly please stick by her. She needs you right now and you're probably the only person that she can TRULY HEAR. I hope that this advice helps. I know that she is the one pregnant but because know about it it is a lot of weight on your shoulders. So know that the people of Yahoo Answers care about you and that we're here to help you and your friend through this ordeal.
2007-11-01 10:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by smokyfeet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her mom and dad. I had a miscarriage at 16 because I did not go to the doctor. I had a infection that could have been cleared up easily if I had gone (it had no visible signs) but I was young and thought I was healthy. I lost the baby and believe me you don't want your friend to go through that.
If you absolutely wont go to her parents for her, and you cant convince her to tell them, you can always take her to a planned parenthood. They offer free counseling, and very cheep (if not free because she is so young) treatments and vitamins. They also will not call and tell her parents she is pregnant, so tell her if she wont go to them at the VERY least get to a doctor!
Good luck!
2007-11-01 08:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by Heather R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to tell somebody because she needs to get regular check-ups because there could be something wrong with her or the baby. Plus there is also the factor that she might need an emergency C-Section in a month or two or she could loose the baby. Tell her that she has to tell her her ex, and her parents or you will atleast tell her parents for her. I know you don't want to loose her as a friend but trust me she can die if she doesn't get checked on. Trust me it isn't fun to loose a friend.
2007-11-01 13:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can get her to talk to anyone at this point it would be great she can't hid it forever my best friend did that when we were 14 almost 15 she hid the baby for 6 months and she was so sick she almost lost the baby do to her health problems she should have been on bed rest and wasn't (her brother who knew ratted her out)
maybe call the school nurse or write her a note and tell her whats going on the nurse won't say it was you that said anything she will say she just noticed and wanted to know if she needed help and that way she can help your friend that would be my best guess on who to talk to she will get her to a Dr. get her the strength to tell her parents and then her ex...if the school nurse isn't possible try a younger teacher you may trust
good luck
be a good friend and help her its for the best so she can't be mad!
2007-11-01 08:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell her you aren't keeping secrets from her parents, and a true friend wouldn't even ask you to do that. Yes, her ex needs to know. Actually, he needs to know first, so you also tell her you're not keeping secrets from him. Tell her you'll be going to her house tonight, and you both will go talk to her ex and tell him, then you both will go tell her parents. If she doesn't do that, tell her she leaves you no choice but to tell the ex and her parents. Her ex and her parents have more right to know about the pregnancy than you do.
2007-11-01 11:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well trust me, any day now she won't be able to hide that belly. She needs to tell somebody, or at least go with you to a doctor because she's being selfish by not giving her baby the medical attention it needs.
2007-11-01 09:28:28 · answer #8 · answered by ☆ღWifey Wifeyღ☆ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going to have to tell someone sooner or later so why wait? If she wants to keep the baby she should go to the doctor and make sure everything is going well. And as for you, just keep supporting her.
2007-11-01 09:47:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should offer to help her tell someone or offer to take her to the doctors or a center for pregnant teens...but she should first tell the father...
she is probably feeling really alone right now so a best friend to support her and help her through everything would be really comforting
2007-11-01 09:13:13 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋