He tries desperately to hide it from me, but I don't really care. I understand that it’s just a fantasy. How can I confront him without embarrassing him?
2007-11-01 00:56:13 · 22 answers · asked by Erica 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just tell him and tell him that you masturbate and fantasize too and it's normal, nearly everyone does it and there is no need to hide it. Then drop the subject.
2007-11-01 00:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by some female 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Part of your husband's pleasure is hiding his diversion from you. If he finds out that you don't mind, it will spoil his fun. Men are stranger creatures. He thinks he's fooling you; so let him play his game and you can enjoy knowing he's fooling himself. The day will come when you can tell him that you've been on to him all of the time, and you'll both have a good laugh. Have a great day!
BTW: It's not always a good idea to become involved in someone else's fantasy. You may open a can of worms for yourself. Be wise and let the man have his private time.
2007-11-01 01:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are okay watching it yourself, then you can either bring some out and watch it with him. Or you can be more subtle and while you two are sitting there alone (if he has movies stashed somewhere) say "Let's watch a movie." When he asks what do you want to watch then just say, "How about one of those movies you have stashed (wherever)." If it is computer porn then just talk to him about it and tell him that you are okay with it. It is just refreshing to see a woman who actually knows that porn isn't a threat if it is treated properly.
2007-11-01 02:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by No one 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him just like you just told us. My wife went through the same thing. One day I came home from work to find a one year subscription to Playboy on the counter. She then purchased or encouraged me to explore other other venues, especially ones that stimulated our own sexual appetite. we have had a lot of fun experimenting with some of the things we have seen watching porn either together or individually.
She once made the statement that the only time that she would resent porn is when I begin paying more attention to it than to her.
Tell him it will be a great sexual experience and then go do it together.
2007-11-01 01:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by cyrusbblackthorne 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell him how much you like to watch men mastubate in your fantasies and ask him if you can watch him the next time he does it. Ask him what kind or porn turn him on the most when he is masturbating with it. Tell him you would like to watch porn with him and do what the girls do in the porn that he watches. Tell him you look at porn all the time and masturbate to it as well.
2007-11-01 01:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to you local video store, rent a porn, take it home, put it in, and surprise the heck out of him. I dont think looking at porn is a big deal either, but a lot of women do. Unless you have told him it's no big deal, he is just going to assume it would bother you. A risky movie can be kinda fun.
2007-11-01 01:29:28 · answer #6 · answered by beentheredonethat 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Buy some DVDs and watch them with him. He is probably doing this behind your back because he is afraid of hurting you. If you watch it with him, it will make him happy and spruce things up in the bedroom. Enjoy:)
2007-11-01 01:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by dresh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go and buy a movie and watch it together..Who knows might spice up the night!!! Good Luck
2007-11-01 03:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a lot of good suggestions above this answer (except for elvlayarvvi's and amber c's), so I hope you'll listen to them. My question is, why do you need to confront him or discuss it at all? His hiding it is not a big deal and does not harm you in any way. Sometimes, it's fun to know somebody's secret when he doesn't know you know it, don't you agree?
2007-11-01 01:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Must be a lousy marriage if you cannot communicate with him about something as simple as this. He hides things from you and you don't even feel comfortable talking to him. Go to counselling or get a divorce.
2007-11-01 01:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by amber c 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Why do you need to confront him? If it's something that doesn't bother you and there is no problem now, then just leave it as it is and move on.
2007-11-01 01:00:43 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋