You've been working at a place for the last two years and became very good friends with two people in your department. The work environment sucks and you all want to leave. You are so close that you even socialize outside of the workplace, and call each other on the phone. Then one leaves to go to greener pastures and two months afterwards, the other leaves...then you realize that she has started working at the same place as the other.
Without telling me anything they helped each other, and they're still being secretive about it. I feel betrayed. It's not that they helped each other, but that they kept it a secret from me. This tells me that we were not as close as I thought we were.
How would you deal with something like this? Would you confront them and tell them how you feel or would you quietly go about your life and forget about them?
2007-11-01 00:34:59 · 9 answers · asked by Serengetti 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Maybe you're overstating the situation, and maybe the secrecy was more about not having the plan derailed before it had time to come to fruition than about keeping you out of the loop. If your current environment stinks and you have allies elsewhere, why don't you likewise attempt to move to the "greener pasture". If that attempt is well received, you very much have the friendships you thought you had; if not, maybe they weren't as solid as you imagined. Whatever the case turns out to be, it's too soon to really be upset.
2007-11-01 01:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would definitely go on with my life as quietly as possible..i mean, so quiet that not even those so-called friends of yours can hear my breathing... what they did was mean. if they are really your friends, then it wont bother them a bit telling you abt the whole scenario. but to be secretive about this?? it just doesnt make any sense. next time they make contacts with u, ignore them, or act like you were not hurt or felt betrayed. but try to avoid going out with them again, unless AND until they noticed the change in you..then they might change how they treat you too.
2007-11-01 07:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them how you feel and if you don't get the response you feel you should then go about your life and forget about them. They are not true friends if they can go about hurting you like that.
I am sorry to say this but if they are playing games like that there are better people for you to spend your time with. Good luck
2007-11-01 07:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mary B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront them, but not in an angry way. Maybe there was only one job opening or something at the new work place. Now that they are both over there, maybe they can get you in too.
2007-11-01 07:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, forget them, they are too childish to be considered as friends in my book, it's just a point of principal, it isn't really that they didn't include you but they thought they had to keep it from you so as not to cause any tension...which may have not happened if they saw the person they were dealing with and knew you, really knew you.
well that's my 2 cents, hope i helped.
2007-11-01 07:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by v3gas4ce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget them they ovicaly never really liked you a real friends would never do that they proberly been planning for a while to ditch i would forget them
2007-11-01 07:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by Josh W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they did not tell maybe they forgot or did not wanna tell you
2007-11-01 07:39:15 · answer #7 · answered by Dawn L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd confront them forget them because there being ********
2007-11-01 07:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by Dalton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be frank. there should not be any secrecy if it is not warranted
2007-11-01 07:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by vep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋