Crossdressing in public?

Question

hi

i love crossdressing and do it as often as possible - but i need to do it in public and take 'the next step'. Any advice? i regularly wear lingerie under my everyday clothes - thongs and holdup stockings etc but i'd like to go further
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Answer 1

x. get advice from a good female friend so she can help you with style and make up, good luck. x

Answer 2

I agree with Wendy, you still need a little bit more femminization. Start by ditching the hold ups and get some real 100% nylons and a garter belt and wear them under your street clothes. They are totally more feminine than the stretchy hold ups, and will remind you that you are wearing them.

Then move into female casual clothes for your first wig crosdressing experience. Casual womens trousers, sweater, and high heel boots, with you lingerie on underneath.

When you can pull that off , you can try skirts and dresses. Do not overmakeup, it calls attention too much. I can usually spot a crossdresser from any distance, but I have a friend who is into it, so I notice more than most.

Answer 3

Dress sensibly use limited make-up and go out during the day as most people then are too busy to notice. Avoid flashy clothes and if you have to go out in the evening try and avoid places where young people gather about like outside bars or pubs. The main thing that gives crossdressers away is the walk. the advice given to Tony Curtis when he was making Some like it Hot was to put one foot right in front of the other which will give your hips a sort of swing like most ladies have anyway. I have never had a problem. Did have a lady laughing at me once but that may have been because my mistress who I was working for as a maid was telling me off in the front garden and had not noticed the lady sitting in a car parked right outside.

Answer 4

Initially, it is important to look at your needs and why you feel that you have to "take the next step". You should seek the support of friends and also ensure that you address the safety issues. Just remember there are many people out there who would find the idea somewhat offensive and would think nothing of lashing out either verbally or physically. There are some very ignorant people around so you should consider your safety. Many people do cross dress, and although I cannot see the attraction it causes me no harm and I would never infringe my opinion on anyone who feels the need to.

I have several acquaintances who do cross dress and these are heterosexual males. However, they only feel comfortable in gay venues where social acceptance is easily tolerated.

I hope you find the courage and you can move onto your next step of discovery. All the very best.

Answer 5

Crossdressing is legal in every state, it has to be for healthcare reasons as there are many, many men and women who cannot wear pants because of handicaps or temporary conditions that do not allow them to wear pants or for mobility reasons. Seriously, your question sounds more like an agenda than a question.

Answer 6

If you want the real feeling of dressing up, ditch the hold ups and wear some real nylons with a garter belt and pull them up tight. You will feel the tug of the garter straps with every step and bend and know what it is like to be really dressed in lingerie. Lingerie is not just bras and thongs, it is bustiers, corsets, garter slips, Cami's, garter belts, and all kinds of silky slippery things.

Answer 7

When you decide to do it, just be mindful of your suroundings..it took a long time before i went into public for the first time dress and that was at night, but once you do its a wonderful thing to do to be free. If you decide to take that step..look around and see what other women are wearing...try to blend in more not to stick out and be read like and open book test.....most of all take your time do it right

Answer 8

Just slowly add one item of clothing at a time for a while if you're nervous. You and others will get used to it. Make sure you try and look the part too, and not just some Guy in a skirt.

Answer 9

Crossdressers need to open up to going out and not wait for the rest of the world to catch up with them. My recommendation is, if you're going to change perceptions and the way people think, you need to grow some balls, get yourself a nice solid, blue denim skirt that's 2" above the knee and just get out there in public -- don't wait, do it TODAY !!!

I've worn denim skirts out in public for years and I have to tell you I've NEVER encountered any problems no matter where I go. I've even been on dates with women in a skirt and it was wonderful. The only comments I get are positive ones, because I dress subtle and wear a polo shirt on top as opposed to full on crossdressing which normalizes the entire wardrobe into something acceptable that a guy CAN wear in public.

In fact, I get so many compliments I've lost count how many times a lady has stepped up to me anywhere and has said "Damn your legs are sexy in a skirt !" -- and I...am an older male !!! Talk about an ego boost !

I've had so many conversations about people opening their minds to the idea of a wearing a skirt for health and comfort reasons that it's really starting to catch on and change people's perceptions of acceptable clothing for men in public and at work.

To be honest, I did have only one female ridicule me at work and then she herself got sent to the back of the bus in the social strata, because all of the rest of the people -- both men and women -- literally jumped on her case and then owned her with regard to her own personal biases. Surprisingly, one office lady told them all she had been dating crossdressers exclusively, because they are non-violent, thoughtful, open minded and still very, very much males who only love females, just with bigger hearts and that she could not find a better role model from the rest of the male population for her children.

Suddenly, the world for me changed in a split second.

I am definitely not gay, but I support those who are LGBT and think different. Especially, the school down in Florida which was featured on Huffpost.com yesterday where teachers were introducing their student population to different gender roles and identities. The reality of it is, those kids will grow up to be more open and understanding of not only LGBT PEOPLE, but more caring when it comes to the elderly, disabled and poor folks in society. Even actors like Kim Kardashian, Kanye, Ellen DeGeneress and many other famous actors and actresses both straight and gay agree -- with regards to Bruce Jenner's declaration about his own personal gender identity change.

The world needs change and it needs it overnight. Our society shouldn't wait for change -- crossdress need to change it NOW ! Waiting for the world to change around you is not an option anymore....

The world is changing...change with it or your kids will be left behind...

Answer 10

Try going to a tranny club first. This time of year is ideal because you can slip out under cover of darkness. Once there you'll meet other girls who will be only too pleased to lead you astray.

Answer 11

There´s an organisation called Transformation in the UK, with several sites, such as London, Birmingham, Manchester.

They have ladies who will help you choose clothes, dress etc. They also have a hotel, where you can dress with others with similar interests- this is safe and may be more comfortable at first.

Outside in public, I´d recommend looking for some companions who could watch for your safety. It´s important to dress how you feel comfortable, as you are doing it for you, and not to allow others around you to be comfortable. As others have said, it´s likely to be a better experience, early on in your attempts, if you dress somewhat for the location- but you come first here!

http://www.transformation.co.uk

Otherwise, consider meeting other transvestites, dress-up and go out together to social functions etc. Whatever your sexual orientation - most cross-dressers are straight - you will typically be welcome in bi or gay venues, even if they don´t specifically have cross-dressing nights etc.

Good luck! Rob