I'm in high school, and both my friend and I have decent grades (over 4.0). He shoves everything academically he beats me at in my face. Everything he loses at, he tries hard to avoid it in conversation with me. I try to not talk about school/grades at all with him; I just think it's pretty lame talking about just that all the time.
I kind of view myself as a chill person, and I'm seeing him as a guy desperate to get good grades and subtly assert dominance over others (so yeah, he usually beats me on scores by a little bit).
Normally I wouldn't care about this but in stressful times (life gives you crap sometimes), it REALLY gets on my nerves. If he wants to be better than me...sure, go ahead, no problem. But brag about every single thing, now that's really annoying.
This guy just can't be talked to in that buddy-to-buddy compromise type of way.
How do I deal with a guy like this?
2007-10-31 18:30:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell him if he wants to be a pompous @$$ to move to France, its the norm there, but that he's getting really boring.
2007-10-31 19:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I have a 'friend' who acts the same way. I put up with it for years because I figure none of us is perfect and for the most part we can't help our personalities. But really, the competitive, 'I'm always better than you' attitude has worn thin. These people are highly narcissistic and need to be the star of the show all the time. A true, two-way, equal relationship is not possible with them. I've disengaged from my 'friend'. I still see her but only occasionally and I'm polite but let her know I'm not impressed with her bragging. I have other, less irritating friends.
2007-10-31 18:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by Delphi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I seem to be in the same predicament; though I have two of them. Both of them are in my classes and constantly digress towards academics. Funny, that one of my friends was taught German by me, yet he thikns he's omnipotent in everything. He lacks sense. The other one is impulsive, and no longer has any intellect or sanity left in him. He just searches up vocabulary words and then constantly spouts those couple of words per day, using them in the wrong context. I simply ignore them-- I know on the inside that I can hold my own, and plus I have a higher average anyway.
2013-10-18 16:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I just went through the same thing with a friend of mine.
She was always talking about how pretty she was and how smart she was and how many guys she could get. She would often tell me she could get more guys than me any given day.
I finally got sick of it. A friend doesn't make you feel less than.
Also, realize that your friend has a problem with self-esstem he has to point out other people's inperfections to make him look better. If someone has it going on they don't need to tell the world it just shows.
2007-10-31 18:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you are tired of talking about grades. Tell him that you do not intend to compete with him, so if he wants to remain your friend stop bringing school into every single conversation. It is time he got a life outside of school!!!
2007-10-31 18:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I m chesca. I am also in the same case as you are now. I think you just have to deal with him if you think he really is your friend. I mean just understand for now, I guess. But if you can't take it anymore just confront him and tell him your side. I think if ou talk to him nicely he would understad.:)
2007-10-31 18:46:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he is bragging about something tell him to shut the hell up.
2007-10-31 18:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by joe hardy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋