Dramatic Mother problems...need help?

Question

Long story, brace yourself. About 2 weeks ago, my husband had a dream that our friend, that was having a tough time, was in trouble and he was trying to help her. He said out loud " M it's okay, it's okay." Well I told my mom the next day and all she said was that it was sweet of him to worry about her because she of what she's going through and left it at that. Well tonight my husband went over to this friends house to say Happy Halooween and her entire family started laughing at him and saying "so you're dreaming about M huh?" and other things much worse. By the way, M wasn't there. My husband waited until everyone left our house and we had it out. He wanted to know y I was saying stuff like that and I told him that wasn't what was said. I called my sister because her, mom and M all work together. Turns out what my mom was telling people was that my husband said" take it off M, come one take it off". Big difference. This isn't the first time by the way. What should I do?

M knew nothing about what was going on. And I am putting my husband first as I always do. This wasn't something private or personal so I didn't think mentioning it would pose problems. I already left my mom a nasty little phone message pertaining to her mouth. But somehow I don't feel this enough. She feels like she can say whatever she wants no matter who it hurts. I have always ignored it but now I can't, I'm tired of being polite. She has messed with my marriage too many times for this to be forgiven!

Answer 1

Tell your mother that you are disappointed with her for acting so childish, and tell her that you will never confide in any of them again.

Answer 2

First of all your husband should come first. I'm sure this is not the first time your mom has mis-shared stories. Never tell your family things you don't want shared or things meant for you and your husband. You should let your mom know that her fabrication went too far and shows a lack of respect for your relationship.