I have told him that i do want him back and work things out and he says the same.I told him though that soon he needs to make a decision or i will file for divorce. I am just wondering how much longer should i wait.
2007-10-31 17:42:41 · 9 answers · asked by kittens 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After one month you ask how much longer should you wait,well hell one month is nothing try waiting 2 1/2 years thinking everyday he would be coming home. Your husband will come back when he gets sick of screwing the woman he left you for.If you don't know about the other woman yet you will when he comes back to you. She will make damn sure you find out they always do. If you do know about her she will put up a fight she will not let him go easy and he will fall for it a few times before he sees through her. If you really love him then give him more time right now he is just so screwed up in the head.
2007-10-31 18:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a month is not a very long separation to try to figure things out. Have you guys been trying to work together or are you already dating others? Maybe you two could figure out separately what you each truly want, where you want to go, what you value in life, and how you want to go about achieving these things and see if there is any match at all.
If you two have different life goals you may want to go ahead with the divorce before one or the other of you gives up your own dreams because they are not supported. Nothing has probably changed yet, not enough time and it will get right back to where you separated again if you are not careful.
2007-10-31 18:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. It is not clear as how long you were together, before separation by one month.
2. If your association was considerable enough, you will have known his interest for you and also his mental makeup.
3. Analyze the reasons for your separation. Are they silly or serious. Is he fit enough to continue in your married life. Why I am asking this is , if he is worthy enough, you should not simply loose him as matter of delay in settling things by him.
4. So decide yourself his trustworthiness. If you feel doubtful, you may as well apply for divorce. You do want him come back. If you already had a long married life with him, you may not be able to get another, of your choice, as this depends upon your present age also.
5. So you decide a good plan of action. Give him about three months time, if you can accommodate him back.
If you are doubtful and not in a position to decide about his worth, leave to fate, and give him two months time and meanwhile file for divorce.
6. Even to file for divorce you must give reason of your husband leaving you away for a considerable period. O.K. Take advice from a Lawyer, and ensure minimum needs of noticing and other formalities. If you were expecting a divorce, also, keep yourself ready with all reasons in favor of your case.
2007-10-31 18:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by kbk_murthi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he says it and does something the opposite of that..stop wasting your time ...he wants to know you are in the wings hanging on the last thread of hope..show him you arent..stop telling him you want him to come back go file papers on him let that reality hit him ...when he grows up and is ready to discuss your problems in a mature way..then you go for counseling in a few weeks or months if it seems he is in the marriage to make it work then you reconsider letting him come home if you feel it is.....if he doesnt care that you file better that you know now than in a year
2007-10-31 17:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by bailie28 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you waiting for? if he doesn't know 100% he wants to come back, you're just wasting time. start the process of divorce, get your life back. don't let him play games with you.
2007-10-31 17:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by John R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats totally up to you.. i might give him another couple weeks ro so but that would be it he should know what he wants by now or then. i wouldnt wait forever because you dont want to put your life on hold because hes living the single life. i hope you can work it out if thats what you both want.. good luck
2007-10-31 17:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont know how far you guys live from each other give a time frame and then if he doesn't live up to that then divorce him.
2007-10-31 17:48:04 · answer #7 · answered by misscapula 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only you can know. There's no timetable for these kinds of things. Good luck!
2007-10-31 18:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by betternher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off...he only says that cus he wants some. then when he gets it he goes back to trying to relive his "pimp" days...but he only gets the fat cougars now so dont worry. if you need to be serviced holla at ya boy....badabing
2007-10-31 17:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by luvcali 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋