After some prodding on my part, my wife finally admitted she misses certain aspects of a black guy she was dating for 8 years....mostly physical stuff. That is fine..what is in the past is in the past.
We love each other, we are soul mates. I have no doubt she would ever leave me for him, or any other.
OK...
Her ex boyfriend, moved to Philadelphia right after we got married.
She was offered a job within her company a few weeks ago(basically take the job or be out of a job)...so she accepted it.
She has to go for training for 2 weeks...in...yep - Philadelphia.
I work nights, and since I am in charge of our phone bill - i've seen calls from that area to our house, on the nights I work.
Should i be worried?
How can i not think about "them" for two weeks???
Should i express my concerns to her, or just assume we will be ok after - no matter what.
IF she plans on seeing him..should I deny her that - if i am confident its just a "fling" while she is away??
Thanks
2007-10-31 17:39:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes. trust is such a huge part of marriage. and it sounds like it's not going to get better anytime soon from the signs. time to lay it all out on the table before she goes to the training. if you can't gain back that trust, you can bet your marriage is heading for the rocky roads ...
2007-10-31 17:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by John R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is going to see him, you can bet something else is going to happen. It's as simle as that. She shouldn't even be talking to him in the first place! If she is, FLEE! If she's not and there is a reasonable excuse for the calls (not him) then tell her of your concerns and have faith. But I wouldn't allow her to move or train in PA in the first place. Grow some stones, man! I'm a woman and I know how we think and how we act. Some of us are pretty damn stupid. Find yourself another job and move the both of you so far away from this guy so quick it makes her head spin. Your marriage depends on it.
2007-11-01 00:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by MWestbrook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be up front and ask her who is calling her from Philly or you can call the number yourself or even do a reverse search. If the number comes up as nothing related to her company or the impending training, I would be for asking a few questions.
2007-11-01 00:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She misses another man and you are fine with that? Yes you should be worried. You are fine with your wife having a fling? That is a little strange.
2007-11-01 00:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to ease your mind you might just want to ask her about it. if shes got nothing to hide then she shouldn't get mad.. sometimes us women like just a tad of jealousy shown.. nothing that brings problems or nothing like that. just knowing you care enough to ask and she might just reassure you that everythings fine and not to worry.. good luck
2007-11-01 00:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, try to be honest how you feel. And ask her to be honest to you because you deserved to know the truth.
2007-11-01 00:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by terliuke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE YOU SHOULD BE WORRIED - TRUST ME- DON'T PLAY GAMES WITH YOURSELF. Trust your instincts -if you suspect something usually it is true. TAKE ACTION
2007-11-01 00:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋