2007-10-31 17:30:23 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
and youre single, i mean
2007-10-31 17:30:43 · update #1
That depends on the location of the woman and the situation with the father of the child.
Some people are widowed and there are no problems there.
Some are single, never married , but have a child which invites the surprise father showing up to lay claim to the child.
Some are divorced to a jerk who want to make her life a living hell and yours by relationship.
Some live in places that are man's law.
Some live in places that are woman's law.
And some live in places that are state law.
The child's custody and welfare are decided by those laws and so to is you freedom.
If those laws don't get in your way then marrying a woman with a child is no problem, but dealing with the other man in her life may be.
In short, getting involved is not the problem but clearing up the paperwork before it becomes serious is. I would want custody of the child and freedom to move the family as need be before I would consider it a serious relationship. Any person not willing to give me these is not committed to a relationship, and only a fool would wait for that surprise knock on the door from the father.
Oh, and the child has to be happy about the situation, or it is a no go. There are three people in that relationship and all three must be satisfied with the outcome. If the child does not want me as his/her father then the relationship is not there.
I know people in this situation and all of these problems have occurred in those relationships so I would rather not follow in their footsteps if I can avoid it.
2007-11-01 02:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on where YOU are at in your life and the OTHER is at in their life. If both of you are relatively the same age, and both have established careers and homes, then beginning a relationship with someone who already has a child could definatly work. It also depends on if the other parent is still in the picture or not.
I'm female and 24, and have had two other girlfriends marry older men who already had children from previous relationships and it was worked well for them because each couple was at the same stage in their lives.
If one of you is in school, or both in school, or one is working and the other isn't, there may be too much of a conflict in where you are in your life and how you view your future.
Good luck!
2007-10-31 17:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not even consider dating someone who had kids until the day I became a single Mom looking for a man. Now I have one who has two older sons and he loves my kids.
2007-10-31 17:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lori 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did get involved with someone who has a child from his previous marriage and I later married him. The child & I get along great and he likes for me to do things with him and his mother & I get along good also.
2007-10-31 17:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by ginnrc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not single (divorced) and cannot answer form the perspective of a single person, but to the best of my ability, I believe I would
2007-10-31 18:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by Martha B will be suspended 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't rule it out just because a child is involved. But it would soooo depend on the kid and if they had full permanent custody.
2007-10-31 19:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by Maebnus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, unless they A) Didn't have anythingto do with thier child...B) Were a crappy father or C) Had way too much baby momma drama that it was always somekind of drama or fight going on then I would have to walk away
2007-10-31 17:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by living it 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Child is not a problem. Its mother is, so...i prefere single guys with no children.
2007-10-31 21:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hail, dude...
They're all I ever get involved with...
Single Moms are the only thing out there for a guy my age...
And Damn Laid Back is more than happy to oblige a few kids, because...
Kids are cool...
I used to be one, so I know...
And once ya' get 'em to bed...or over at Aunt Edna's...
It's all sweet lovin' after THAT, my friend...
Single Mom's?!?
Here's lookin' up your ole' address, girls...
Big Hugs & Kudos to you...there's a special place reserved in Heaven for you girls...and in Damn Laid Back's heart, as well...
Blame it on Rio all you want...but...
Single Mom's know how ta' "get it on!"
How do you think they became "Mom's" in the first place, Hmmm?!?
Nuf said about THAT...
2007-10-31 17:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a couple of times and both ended for completely different reasons that had nothing to do with their kids.
2007-10-31 17:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by *I'm the Best...I Deed It!* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋