Did they happen to you as a child and do you blame your parents.......
2007-10-31 16:47:09 · 21 answers · asked by Melissa R 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
I think everyone has emotional baggage created from birth by the hand life deals us. As a child we're a victim with no power to fix things and these most powerful impressions stay even after the memories are gone. I do blame those in charge but now realize they were who and what they'd experienced.
Packed by others this baggage can't be completely checked but some of the cargo in them can.
I think new experiences create new attitudes ever so slowly
when we're enlighhtened about what and how to pack.
Blessings....Juju
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2007-11-01 03:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by Ju ju 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a senior, I am actually in my 20s and YES I have issues that are preventing me from Healing. AND YES they happened to me when I was a little child. AND No I dont blame my parents because they abdaoned me when I was 5 to people who blackmailed my family. It is NOT about moving on. It is about letting the pain OUT.
2007-10-31 23:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by snowbunny360 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A few years back I would have been in denial on your question. But today - well yes I know the truth and it's not pretty! Despite the odds (and thank God for a good education,) I did move on with my life. Yes it all happened during childhood and if my parents (very strict) were here today, I would let them know how badly they had failed me. But after too much money and 10 years of Therapy my life now has balance and I know who I am - and I'm working on liking myself too!
2007-11-01 08:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by CJ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger I had hang ups. I realize now that most parents do the best they know how at the time, even if it doesn't seem right later. Holding on to things keeps you from living life to it's fullest. I've learned the past is best left there and to move on, if you want a future worth living.
2007-11-01 00:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by luvspbr2 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yep everyone that knows me knows my Mother is a difficult lady. But After grieving to an extreme for 2 and 3 years over the loss of two dads and all my siblings I have moved forward considerably.
I realized my own children could be as hurt or angry with me as I have been with Mother. Faith heals.
2007-11-01 09:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes but working to let go. My motivation is my kids. I would never want to pass on negative behavior to them. I want to be a good example. I don't blame my parents because I am an adult and able to make my own decisions. I choose to be free. Example: My parents both smoked. I do NOT smoke. Reason: I chose not to.
2007-10-31 23:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Holy Believer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES...my father left my mother with 5 children under the age of 6 and we never heard from him again. when we finally caught up, i was 48 years old and all i wanted him to say was that he was sorry. he hasn't and apparently doesn't see why he should, so we are at a standstill here.
this has affected all my relationships with men. i am constantly trying to not let this interfere anymore, but i'm afraid i'll be dealing with this the rest of my life.
2007-11-02 01:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by vanessa c 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not really, not anymore. I had anger issues with my parents, but as I matured I realized that nothing they did really reflects on me. I am my own person, and the decisions I made in my life were mine to make; I don't blame them for anything about me.
2007-11-01 08:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by Lady G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, lots of things...and i was a child when they happened. no I don't blame my parents
1. I had a babysitter, whom i didn't like. She did stuff that weren't nice. I won't say she was abusive, but she was strict-maybe a little abusive. I won't mention them unless you want to email me and I could tell you.
2. I had a long distance relationship with a guy i dated when i lived in Gainesville,Fl, before moving and i told him something and he stopped writing. We lost contact and he's married now. I always thought we'd be married to each other, but we weren't. But that's ok. I love my husband and wouldn't be with anyone else.
2007-11-01 21:05:52 · answer #9 · answered by deb2rule 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm more like LadyG - had 'em; finally learned that the only person they were harming was myself and let go and let God...I'm not allowing anything to keep me from living life!
2007-11-01 08:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋