Is it normal for a married man with a family to get together with his male friend everyday after work for drinks. Not at a bar..at each other's houses.
2007-10-31 16:24:20 · 17 answers · asked by Another baby boy! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He's 35 & this is the only friend he spends this much time with. And usually they hang out at our house. They used to work together but not anymore. He also drops by whenever he pleases which is even worse. I don't think there's any "gayness" involved & his friend is going through a divorce.
2007-10-31 16:35:23 · update #1
Now don't get upset ! Under the circumstances,that ur husband's friend is a close associate from the past,and that he is going thru a divorce, it is perfectly normal for them to meet each other,after work,share a drink if that relaxes them and discuss whats happening. Its all the more good that he comes to ur house. Atleast that way, u cl'd keep an eye on whats happening. 2ndly, I wld suggest, u also participate with them and try to share his sorrows,if thats what is troubling him. Ur hubby may be a good listener/adviser & may be giving him true friends support. Be positive about the whole thing; but do keep ur eyes and ears OPEN !!
Wish U Good Luck.
2007-11-01 02:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by T. Chandra Shekhar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This really is a bit much. I think they both want to have some drinks after work, & instead of doing the bar scene, they choose to go to one another's home for their own "happy hour". You could be glad he's not bar hopping, which could lead to some added problems, & which also wold cost a lot more money too than buying & splitting a 6 or 12 pk.Question,do they really need to have this drink on a daily working day basis. As that seems like just what it is. Do either of them have a drinking problem? Would there be any problem w/each one going to their own homes having a beer or two at their own homes instead of this having to be this togetherness that has started. Do they get together to discuss their work? Is there really a reason for it in the first place? I just don't see why they can't come home & be able to unwind there as well. Have you brought this up to your husband? See maybe if you could end this "togetherness" by maybe just a few questionsl It sure sounds like something more reasonable culd. be worked out.
2007-10-31 23:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not Normal.
He has only one friend. He spend time only at home. This means that you can bring a difference.
Any one in the family. ( Remember don't get angry )
1. Prepair a coffee with some chips and a sweet with less sugar, example: sweet noodles with fried cashew nuts.
Serve it hot with a smile saying that today you are having another interest which the man also likes.
With this same idea two days leaving one day will bring a good result.
2007-11-01 03:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman, and when my husband and I divorced, I went over to my girlfriend's house every day. Going home to an empty house with no one to talk to--just emptiness--was unbearable. We had some drinks, talked about our day, our children, etc., etc. Thank goodness, her husband and children were understanding. I often shared the evening meal with them. This woman and her family are still my dearest friends even though I am now remarried and live hundreds of miles from them.
2007-10-31 23:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Poots 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends??? Is he young,& still hanging out with his friends out of habit ? Did this just start overnight? It sounds like 5 days a week is a bit excessive.Is it only with this one friend? I'd start asking him if he prefers to be there instead of home with his family, or say nothing & start planning a few things a week with you & the kids,& ask him if he'll join you.That may bring up the issue at hand a little more subtly....LOL
2007-10-31 23:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it really is normal Expecially if one friend is having a hard row to hoe. Men love thier families but they need time with other men to twist off and unwind from the daily grim.
2007-11-01 20:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by redvedica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No- that is odd.
I could see hitting happy hour a couple times a week, but 5 days out of 7 is excessive!
2007-10-31 23:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by looneybin90 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like some serious 'bonding' is going on. It does seem excessive but that's all we have to say at this time not having anything else to go on. Caked together underwear might give a clue.
2007-10-31 23:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by Plano 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
5 days is probably a little excessive, but he probably has a reason for doing it.
Regards,
Brandon
2007-10-31 23:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by El BrandO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems a little strange that it is so consistent maybe they are attracted to each other Hmmmmm Gaydar Gaydar,,LOL â¥
2007-10-31 23:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋