Well as we all know Myspace... tells all. My husband had a comment from a girl on his page stating "Babi it was nice seeing you last night". My husband never mention going out to a local bar with one of his friends and then the next morning the comment. I just had an awful feeling in my stomach when I read the comment. When I comfronted him, he told me that he went with one of his friends and did want to say anything because he knew that I would get upset. Now.... that made me irate.
Why wouldn't he tell me... I feel like he is hiding something... Should I feel this way or am I exaggerating?
2007-10-31 16:02:44 · 19 answers · asked by vivi's mommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
** cheating my not just be sex....???**
2007-10-31 16:08:36 · update #1
Imma tell you like my mama told me. If you look for something, you'll surely find it . And if you have to ask then you already know.
2007-10-31 16:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by iluvchandler_bing 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but it does sounds like he's cheating. Pretty bold to be getting girls comments on his page that you can access! I would do some more investigating & try to catch him in the act..by that I mean, when he's out at a bar with someone. The fact that she wrote "Baby" basically takes it to the next level from just a friend, or just a co-worker. I hope I'm very wrong & I wish you the BEST of luck!
2007-10-31 16:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by Another baby boy! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hides things from you because he thinks that you are going to get mad? Not a good sign. What else does he hide from you that you have just never found out about? Why did you not know where he was? I would look into this further. Don't you have to be on the friends list to leave a message or a bulletin? Why is she calling your husband baby? I would say that he is cheating or leading up to it.
2007-10-31 18:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your husband is cheating. He went to a bar with a woman without telling you and that constitutes cheating in my book--whether or not he had sex with her. I suspect that he probably hides much more from you.
You have every right to be upset and suspicious. There is no room in a marriage for lies or secrets. Such things hurt trust and trust is vital for a good relationship.
If you two hope to save your marriage, your husband must be honest with you, and you two need marriage counseling quickly. You should also pick up the book, "Emotional Infidelity: How to Affair Proof Your Marriage," by Gary Neuman.
Good luck,
B.
2007-11-02 20:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has something to hide. Why would he not tell you he was going out? you said you had an awful feeling in your stomach. Thats instinct, and the women's 6th sense called intuition. You are not exaggerating at all. I would probably have kicked his A** !!! For lying to you for one, and then about the comment this chick left him. Why would you believe him when you have solid proof he saw her, and you were lied to? Trust your gut is all I can tell you. Good luck, and no woman deserves a liar for a husband.
2007-10-31 16:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't accuse him.
Catch him.
"IF" .. he is cheating .. and you are letting him know what you are "suspecting" .. he will hide it more.
Don't act mad. Act happy, and normal. He will be more "off-guard". He needs to be "off-guard".
He may be innocent. Or not innocent. However, you don't know .. you weren't there. So .. just let it lay .. quietly .. don't accuse him. Accusing him will just make it worse ,, any way that it goes .. it will make it worse. So be wise.
You will find ways to discover his innocence .. or his guilt. Just take your time. Listen .. and watch .. quietly.
Don't let him know what you are thinking. Don't even ask how the girl got his myspace addy.
This will not be easy to act indifferent .. but if you want to know the truth .. you need to see it with your own eyes. Be sure that you want to catch him .. if he is doing anything.
The choices you put into your life, determines your life.
2007-10-31 16:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say this if you dont tell me what happend me and you are going to separate because i red the note and that just sickens me how a women right a letter saying were having a good time.
p.s . when he is going somewere follow him because you dont know when he could be doing something else that's inappropriate
2007-10-31 16:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by m3 @nd my s3lf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read your question........now you know why he didn't tell you. You freaked out over a stupid MySpace comment.....he knew you would so he didn't tell you. It was probably nothing. Relax a little. Ask him if it would be ok if you went with him the next time.
2007-10-31 16:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He is really cheating. Get counseling. Don't compromise or settle for his behavior. He is not going to be honest, and if he is are you prepared to deal with the consequences? Be real with yourself first. Don't wait for the holidays, birthdays or anniversaries to past, deal with it now.
2007-10-31 16:15:21 · answer #9 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not exaggerating.
Its called a womens intuition
Go with it. Next time he says hes 'going out with his friends' follow him. If hes cheating....go home..pack your bags to las vegas! lol
2007-10-31 17:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋