i just need to let this out..?

Question

ok so in my life nothing ever goes my way, every girl i had ac rush on never liked me back, i guess im just not a likeable likeable guy. ye i have friends who are girls, we hang out and stuff, i made the mistake of telling one of them i liked her, didn't work out, we're still good friends, but ever since then i have had mixed feelings for her, one day i'd like her the next i wouldnt, one day i'd care about how much attention she gives me, the next i wouldnt and so on. im a jealous type, i get jealous over the stupidest things and im also a quiet person, not shy just quiet, i say things when i need to say things. AND I HATE IT... everytime my friends and i hang out, im always so quiet and they always ask why im so quiet, i want to say stuff but i have nothing TO say, i just listen, so well tehres no real question to this but any help on what i can do to improve on these matters thx..

btw im 17 and in gr12..

im always sad.. depressed... angry.. rarely happy

Answer 1

Hi there, I know you said you're in grade 12! Some other goofs thought you like a 12-year old girl!! Did that just make you smile? I hope so. I'm wondering if you might have chronic depression. I do. Before I got on a medication for depression, I never laughed real laughs. I felt like I was in a big black hole. I was just going through the motions. Within 10 days of getting on the meds, my world was sunny and bright again. Does this stuff sound familiar to you? If so, you really owe it to yourself to talk to a doctor. Tell him/her EVERYTHING you wrote in your question and more. That would help him decide which med would be best for you. I'm telling you it would change your life!

There's nothing wrong with being a quiet person. When your friends ask you why you're so quiet, just say, "I'm just listening to all you guys." That's all you have to say. And when you DO have something worthwhile to say, it'll seem all that much more important. And remember, when you feel jealous over something stupid, remind yourself that it's stupid and just get over it!! You're young. You have your whole life in front of you to fall in love (you will!) and have kids. I bet you're GREAT with kids!! You sound pretty sexy to me! Very mysterious. Girls love that. When the right girl comes along , you two will just click, and it'll be great. In the meantime, think about getting on an anti-depressant. No one would even have to know.
I'm glad I was here today, the day you let it all out. I hope you got some answers that helped you. I wish you the best of luck. Find your passion, and try to get a job doing what you love to do. I'm curious what you are interested in. E-mail me anytime. I'd love to get to know you better. Btw, I'm not hitting on you! I've been happily married for 30 years. I'm on oxygen for pulmonary fibrosis, and meds for depression, anxiety/panic attacks, and chronic pain. This website is a blessing. I get to meet great people like yourself, and I love advising and helping others. It's like my volunteer work from home. Now forget about that 12 year old girl!! (I hope that brought a smile to your face.) Hope to talk to you soon.
Take care of yourself. Sincerely, Lynn

Answer 2

Stop worrying for goodness' sake. You are only 17 and you have plenty of time to meet the 'special someone' you will want to spend the rest of your life with. We've all been through times like you. When I was younger, some of the boys I liked didn't want to go out with me and the ones I wasn't keen on did. Caused me a lot of heartache and tears when I couldn't get the boy I wanted, till I met my husband. Then I knew my feelings for the other boys were no more than just teenage crushes. It happens all the time so it's not your fault. It's life. You don't have to find anything to say - just ask questions of the other person. Ask them what sort of day they've had for starters then tell them what your day's been like (only don't go on for hours about it). People like talking about themselves. Keep it light and just chill out and stop trying so hard to be liked. To be quiet is to have an air of mystery, so you are an intriguing person. One thing to remember is that girls hate it if a boy comes on too strong, turns them off immediately. Good luck and a happy future - and stop adding 2 and 2 together and making 5. It's only our thoughts which harm us OK?

Answer 3

I think your additional comments tell you why things like this happen to you. I mean, if you are always sad, depressed, quiet, angry, etc. why would anyone want to date you, much less be interested in you. I think you should focus on the good things about yourself and less on the bad. I also think it wouldn't hurt to involve yourself.....in interests/causes you like. Speak up more...force yourself at first if you have to. I think this is often a problem for kids your age b/c they don't know what to say or don't want to sound stupid. But if you don't try you will never move forward. If you have something to say, say it. If you have nothing to say, think of something, then say it. As far as this girl goes, you need to stop being jealous and start being proactive. The thing that will make her want you (as well as any other girl) is personality, humor, and confidence. If all you are bringing to the table is depression, there isn't much that a girl is going to find attractive in that. Find things that interest you or that you are good at, so you can show off your abilities and your confidence. Who cares if she doesn't go for you in the end. You need to like yourself before anyone else will like you!! Once you truly like yourself, you will find that others like you more and you will also find that you no longer need to be jealous of others......good luck!!

Answer 4

Just wait, it keeps getting worse.... I felt exactly the way you did at 17 only now I'm 50, have NO friends, sit at home and watch TV.
Try and find a way to be content with yourself and not care what others think about you. As you get older they will all leave you anyway. You are probably just a whole lot smarter than everyone you know anyway. It's OK to be quiet, you absorb more knowledge that way....

Answer 5

Well.. I think soo many teenagers will face your same problem.. It's the time when personallity develops to the whole level..
Try to socialise and talk to your friends.. It does'nt have to be anything in particular.. But really try to talk.. Tell small stuffs that happened in your class or in your home.. Let the conversation go on.. If you are quite, people will think you are shy.. It will be hard first times but showly you gonna get the hang of it.. And will be easier, trust me..! :)
I don't think she have the same feelings for you.. You should try being friends with her.. and move on with your life.. You will find someone who really loves you back.. Dont have to feel jealous then.. You are just in a confusing stage in your life right now.. But this time will eventually pass.. Try hanging out with your friends, and talk to them about anything.. let them know you are not shy.. Hope this helps.. :)

Answer 6

Sounds like you just haven't found yourself yet. Especially if you are rushing into relationships. Find out what you want first. I think you will find that you liked your g.f. because she was just that a friend...so their you go, start at that, but then add to that, what else do you want out of a person in a relationship...bla bla..Don't rush things.
You are jelous because you are somewhat insecure with yourself. You fear that girlfriends will "find someone better", but this is because you need to love yourself before you can be in love.So CHANGE yourself until you are happy, or change what you don't like about yourself.
Just listening to friends is not a bad thing, perhaps if you find yourself with lack of interest, you need some friends whom are more on your level. Or even start a conversation on something that U want to talk about and again, if they are not interested, you prob just need a wider variety of friends.
Stop thinking so negativly, Negative thoughts only breed negative results!
find yourself.

Answer 7

~WELCOME 2 THE CLUB!~

Ive been quiet my whole life. That got me from 7-11 cashier to supervisor for customer support positions in Internet companies.

What you need to do is get off of the "beat myself up" market and just be yourself. You'll be amazed by the things that will be coming your way..nothing but good if you keep your mind focused! Folks around you will always think your hiding something but that's just the type of person you are....a listener. When feel its time to take action you do. Besides that you just kick back and listen, no prob.

Answer 8

You know something? If you feel this way about yourself, that's what other people will see as well. You are the one that's in control here. You need to start thinking as positively as you possibly can on a daily basis. No, life doesn't have to be all roses and stuff (yuck..nobody is like that)...you'll have your good days and your bad days...but your life is just now beginning! Embrace it and live it to the fullest.

You'll find love when it's time. You're very, very young. I am twice your age...I'm wise beyond my years...or I'm 34 with gray hair! Either way...I know what I'm talking about...cheer up!

Answer 9

WOW u need a reality check dude, coz your gotta change that attitude of having chip on shoulder and take ownership of ya feelings.
Maybe girls like ya but are hesitant to become involved coz of what your telling us occurs.
Chill out ,relax, get some self esteem & show it ,then you will see a big change in ya life..
In other word confidence in oneself makes all the difference personally and to others.
Far too long to explain it here Good Luck ♥

Answer 10

Forget the 12 year old. Don't put so much pressure on yourself. What you are feeling, millions of guys 17 have been Thur it, it's part of maturing. Truly dude, there are many girls out there looking for a nice guy like you, be patient.