If people you love are doing it and you don't touch the stuff? Driving me crazy lately..........I don't think I have a say at all, and I usually don't!! Can't just leave.....I have too much invested.....time and love!!!! I really don't know!!!
2007-10-31 15:04:01 · 14 answers · asked by Lori F 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry, it went in the wrong category.......but I will appreciate any good answers!!
2007-10-31 15:04:55 · update #1
Some drugs don't even phase me , like pot. I am talking crack! It bothers me!!
2007-10-31 15:14:26 · update #2
Ghost G.......are you another troll, go troll somewhere else , I am asking a serious question!!!
2007-10-31 15:16:39 · update #3
Some really good answers here!!! And I am feeling guilty because I asked this question!!
2007-11-01 06:38:35 · update #4
It's very difficult. My husband of nearly 30 years was strung out on heroin when I met him, so I went into the relationship with my eyes wide open. I was hoping, as most women do I guess, that he might change if he "loved me enough." But drugs are a jealous mistress. There were a few times he went into a downward spiral. I had to have stern talks with myself to keep myself from feeling guilty if anything bad happened to him during those times. It simply was NOT my fault, I could not have done anything about it.
The only thing I can offer him is my love, my support and a safe place to live. My reasoning is that even if he's using, at least I know where he is and can exercise some amount of control over the situation to the extent that it is going on in my house.
But know this: Only the addict himself has the power to mend his ways, and then only if he really wants to. All the begging, crying, screaming and swearing isn't going to change a thing.
It may take a life-altering event (as it did with my husband) to cause him to be off the drugs, this was not something done willingly, but done as a result of a medical condition that has now left him paralyzed and in a wheelchair. Perhaps that anecdote may be enough to slow your guy down.
Good luck to you.
2007-10-31 15:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Burekbeba 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The person who is hooked on drugs puts the drugs first. You can cry, throw fits, and threaten, but none of that will work. Sometimes leaving wont even work. Because drugs are that strong,and they want them that much. ITS SO-SO STUPID TO EVEN START DRUGS. THEY TAKE YOUR MONEY, YOUR FAMILY, YOUR REAL FRIENDS. YOU END UP WITH NOTHING. NOBODY TRUSTS YOU. AND IF YOU GOT A DRUG CONVICTION-NOBODY WANTS TO TRUST YOU TO GIVE YOU A JOB. IS IT WORTH IT?? HECK NO!!!! I have never been a drug user, but was married to one. And he lost it all too. Its expensive and ruins your life. And rehab doesnt help unless they really and truly want it to, and for longer then a 30 day "IN TREATMENT"" stay. At the very least a 90 day stay or longer.Living with a drug user is no fun.Especially when they start stealing to get the drugs...Get him ''IN HOUSE TREATMENT". Then go from there. If he wont get it, your problems will only get worse and worse...
2007-11-01 05:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by MG425 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only say you have in that is to tell him that he has to get into a treatment program or you will leave and then go if he does not.
While you have a lot of time and love invested, unless he gets help you are better off looking for someone else before he starts selling things to feed the drug habit or dies from it.
If he really cares for you, leaving may be the only way to save him if he sees that he has to make a choice, but you are taking the chance that he will choose the drugs instead so you will still be better off because if you do stay with him, there is the chance that he will start dealing drugs in order to feed his habit and you run the risk of having everything - your house, car, bank accounts and so on seized if he is caught.
The best thing you can do is leave and hope that he gets help.
2007-10-31 22:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that's a tough spot to be in. i've been there and it all comes down to self respect and what YOU want out of life. is this how you want to see yourself 10yrs from now? do you want to end up a user too? make youre choice now because it's a culture that will suck the life out of you the longer you're around it. believe me, i've seen to many people just like you get sucked in before they even knew what was happenning. and i'm very sad to say not many of them can recover from it. get out before it takes you in. i know you think you're strong enough to stay clean, but so did i. she's long gone and i have a drug problem.
2007-10-31 22:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by hookerln 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have lost lots of friends over drug addictions,overdoses and suicides and prison and suicide in prisons but that was heroin crack Buddy's only ended up broke and locked up over and over you need to get him to rehab it has to be impatient or the person will just sneak steal and lie and it will end your relationship,possibly freedom,assets,even maybe his life,good-luck,weed is little different i wouldn't sweat pot
2007-10-31 22:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by jd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People you love what does that mean exactly your boyfriend girlfriend husband and how long he/she been using and what are he/she taking. One thing you can do is tell him to get in a methadone program that will get him off the streets and keep him away from using street drugs.
2007-10-31 22:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no matter what u do u can't compete with the drugs, and eventually its going to kill the relationship. but u will have to learn for yourself, because no matter what your not wiling to leave this. if your not a druggie and he is, it will never work out, as u and he will be in conflict with each other every day. unless he would go to some e rehab its just not worth all the pain u will be setting yourself up for.
2007-10-31 22:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you allow it, your part of it, and that would be a tough one to tell the judge!! You'll go down the river with them, or even worse!!!!!!!!
2007-11-01 10:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by happywjc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on which drugs, how often and why. Personally, I have no problem with responsible drug use.
2007-10-31 22:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by some female 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have a good long talk with them when they are sober.Beg them if you have to, for them to seek help. I know it must be painful.
2007-10-31 22:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by Sugar 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋