does anyone else hate thier mother?

Question

i really do hate my mom. i have tried talking to her b/c all she cares about is herself and her boyfriend she is NEVER home and when she is ALL she does is complain about the house. i clean up after myself but she tries to tell me that i dont. but I DO and i do a good job. its like no matter what i do i cant plesase her. i really hate her. i have told her that we need to fix our relationship if she wants one but she doesnt care and really doesnt seem willing to go to consoluing. she really only cares about herself.

Answer 1

well when my parents were being bitchy(excuse my langueage) but i got tired of them complaining about everything i did and i tried so hard to persaude them to see or hear what they sounded like. they used to blame my fiancee about stuff and say some jacked up crap. we just weren't getting along and they would call me all the time and just give me crap about stuff. I am 19 and on my own and live with my almost husband and would just think up stuff to tell me what she thought when it was none of her business. she would open my mail that was anything and yell at me cause it did get sent to her house till i switched it. but do what i did ignore her and give her the silent treatment for awhile and see how it works cause my mom and step dad couldn't handle it....i did it for almost a month(4 weeks) and now we hangout with her alot and even went to church to get close to her...they stopped being bs's and started helping us and their even help paying for my wedding now. good luck, pink obession

Answer 2

I'm so sorry hun. Personally I don't hate my Mom, but my best friend hates his, and with good reason. She's just a poor excuse for a human being, let alone a mother. She is a very selfish person who cares about noone but herself. She has no idea how to be mother and seems to have to urge to even try. She's done everything from completely blowing off her children's birthdays to taking back the presents that she got them (when she actually did remember) when she felt that she needed them more. For example she gave my friend a TV for his birthday one year (it was used but he was happy that she even remembered his 15th b-day) and when she moved again she decided that she wanted a TV in her bedroom now, so she broke into his dad's house when noone was home and took the TV. She left a note saying that since she bought it that it was really hers anyways. On my friend's little sister's birthdauy this year she told her that she would take her shopping. his little sis was really excited but when the time came she took her to the grocery store & then laughed hysterically about it!
She comes to my friend's father's house and beats on the door at all hours of the night attempting to get money from anyone who will open the door, including her own underage children.
I just think that it's a shame that a woman like her has 3 children & there are great women in the world who can't conceive. It's terribly unfair.
Again, I'm very sorry that your relationship with your mother is the way you describe it. I know it's hard, but try to remember that it's not your fault. Your mother is obviously a troubled individual. When you grow up and have children, I'm sure that you will be a much better parent to them.
Good luck!!!!

Answer 3

I ever felt that way, not because she had me at such an early age (she was 36 when i was born) but because i was like preventing her from doing what she want when she want. I was like a dead weight for her career and i resolved things by moving to my dad's at 18 years old. We had problems to talk calmy to each other for a year or two because she was still acting like i was under her authority and i couldn't handle it. But i grew up and she understood that she couldn't tell me anymore how to live my life. This the best thing i ever did because we have both our life now and we created a great mother/daughter relashionship, which was impossible before leaving her place. We are both very happy now and i love her more than ever. Good luck with yours, and think about putting some distance for a while. That could be helpful sometimes ;-)

Answer 4

Oh, boy. What a complicated question. I love my mom, but I'm nowhere near in the same situation as you.

If I was in your situation, and I can try to imagine, I can see why you feel like you hate her. It may seem like she only cares about herself and her boyfriend, but there possibly might be other things going on in her life you don't know about...maybe she's stressed about work, or something, and maybe she's always having rough days. She might be taking it out on you, which is the wrong thing to do.
You two ought to sit down and have a good talk. If your mom protests, or "needs to go somewhere," or if "it can wait," tell her it can't.
Deep down inside, she does love you and she does care about your well-being. Try to help her remember that.
Try to set up a night where it's just you two, one-on-one...kick the boyfriend out for a night. :)

Answer 5

oh, boy - can i relate to this one! i would like to know, though, how old you are, simply because there are (2) answers i can offer - if you are younger than 12, it's natural for this type of thing to happen and - surprise! it will only get worse. if you are over 12, it will only get worse - surprise! i don't think you really hate your mom, i think you just have issues getting along with her at this time of your life. you also probably want the extra attention she is giving her boyfriend(s). since you have tried telling her that there are relationship issues and she doesn't want to deal with them, try to develop relationships with others that can possibly "fill in" until both of you gets through this phase. a best friend, maybe a hobby, or a boyfriend of your own? just do your best to maintain what little understanding you have for each other, if any - remember, someday, your mom will die - my dad just did. and there was too much said/unsaid that can never be fixed - good luck!!

Answer 6

Wow. You hate the woman that gave you birth. That is serious stuff you know, because hate = evil. Every time, no exceptions. You know, your mom is a human being. She has problems just like you have problems. She does wrong things just like you do wrong things. And she perhaps has made some bad decisions. All of these things together and multiplied ten times aren't even enough excuse to make you hate her. I can' even believe that you could say you hate your mother in the same paragraph with complaining about house work. Yikes. Maybe if she beat you continuously or sexually abused you.. then it would be understandable. Anyway, I feel sorry for both of you. I would tell you how to get through to her if you cared, but you already said you hate her, so what is the point.

Answer 7

When I was growing up, my mom was the same way (still is). She only cared about pleasing her boyfriend(s) buying them cruises, cooking them dinner (has never cooked for me in my whole life and I am 26- I either ate at my grandparents or ate something that I could prepare for myself), or whatever for them. I had to clean the house and do the laundry for the both of us (obviously my mom and dad were divorced bc she had boyfriends throughout the years). I thought I hated her too but looking back I hated her actions. I still love her but she is no different. She never babysits my kids but my dad and his wife always do. If I ask her for anything she is always busy (unless I need money that she will give and then hold it over you). I feel sorry for her now because my grandparents had money and I realize she is just "spoiled." She never wanted for anything so she never learned the value of giving of herself only throwing money at things. Here is an example of how selfish she is. On my wedding day, the tiers on the cake had to be cleaned after the reception and my mom said that she wasn't going to clean them because she was "the mother of the bride", so guess who got stuck washing cake tiers in her wedding gown although I should have been long gone on my honey moon!!! I have just come to accept my mom for who she is and I don't expect too much from her. I am her only child so I am really all she has (although she still puts her boyfriend first- which I don't mind so much now bc I am grown). I hope one day you will learn to accept your mom for who she is because it is likely she will never change. Good luck!

Answer 8

While I was a young adult, my relationship was strained with my mother. Now as an adult with similar responsibilities to what my mother had I now appreciate why she was so demanding. I guess that isn't much of an answer, the fact is I don't hate my mother, or anybody else for that matter. It takes way too much energy to hate somebody, I find it easier to attempt to focus on other things.

Answer 9

There can be another reality to this...your mom might not like you either. Just because people share the same DNA, does not mean they automatically love the person. It's shitty, but it's fair. So I say to you get over the DNA, and just try and get along with this human being, just as you would a co-worker that you have to deal with in order to get a paycheck. And if things work themselves out, then great.....if not, remember the "paycheck" thing.

Answer 10

well maybe she is just going through a rough time... i dont hate my mom at all... i may say i do sometimes but nomatter what, she and all other moms in the world have done soo much for they're children... and yes i have to admit that some relationships are like yours... not that great. but you just have to try and bear through it cause she really has done alot for you either you know it or not she has... and when she is gone to heaven you will be sorry for hating her so and hate yourself for hating her.... just giver her a hug and a kiss every now and then... i do the same for my mom.