What would you do if ur mum was seing another guy...?!?

Question

My mum and dad are divorced.Recently my mom started to go on internet more often than usual, than she installed MSN and went to some dating sites.She met a guy from our city and i think she is now going out with him.3 days in a row she stays 3-4 more hours after work and says she is going in city...i am really suspicious about it and what is ur advice what should i do if she does date him, im boy, 16 years old.
I think i would not handle my self and that i have killing ambitions on every1 who even looks at my mother.God knows what will happen to that guy if i run into him.
Your opinions?

And yes to all, if some1 divorced than it means that they were very STUPID when going into marriage, which means they will made same mistake again.
Another thing, what if the guy is fu(kin psycho???How the hell she can trust him just from internet???
And just one more thing, yes i do want her to spend the rest of her life alone, she deserved it.

Oh yes, i dont need her take care of me, i just want her to avoid me as much as she can and that she NEVER ever brings the guy at my home.
If she wants him she can be with him, but at his place and i dont want to see him in my life.

Another thing:
You are all being objective cause ur not in that situation, all my friends agree with the thing that we should kick the hell out of guy.

@Gabrijela:
LOL, ja sam ostao ovde jer je to kevina kuca, a nisam hteo da se selim, ko god da je ostao ovde ostao bih sa njim, u principu ja mogu da izdrzim bez oboje, dovoljno mi je jednom mesechno da ih vidjam otprilike...lol

Answer 1

I understand exactly how u feel. The same thing happened to me, but just with my father. He works all day long, from 10 AM to, well, sometimes midnight. At a time, I was really concerned, he didn't come home until 4 in the morning, and always said he had to work. I was really really mad, and knew what was happening. Once I asked him dad would u ever cheat on mum and he said what a question let's talk about something normal. There was nothing I could do, suddenly he became a stranger, and I noticed that our father-daughter relationship disappeared.

I am not really that kind of daddy's girl, but I get FURIOUS if he even mentions a thing like that. He was never the kind of person who watched porn or cheated, he was always good with us, but I really started getting suspicious. Whoever she was, I wanted TO BEAT THE ****** HELL OUT OF HER, and I'm sure that if I met her...I wouldn't be able to control myself.

Iako sam citave 2 godine mladja od tebe, ajde da se nadjemo lepo na msn-u pa da ti lepo sve ispricam. Veruj mi ja bih je UBILA nebi znala gde joj je dupe a gde glava.

Answer 2

I'm a mother of a boy and when he was 15 his dad and i separated for two and a half years. I chose not to go out with anyone because of my son i did not want to make things any harder for him then it already was. I knew my husband and i were going to get back together.
I guess it all depends how long your parents have been divorced and if your dad is dating someone. Don't you think it's only fair if he is seeing someone that your mom should.
I really understand she is your mom and you don't see her as a single woman who is lonely. A woman needs to be told she is pretty and needed please try and understand that part of it.
Are you still hoping your dad and mom will get back together someday.?I'm not you so i don't know what your going through i can only tell you as a mother that what she is doing tells me that she is very lonely and needs a man to look at her the way your dad did a long time ago.

Answer 3

If you have two parents who love you and put you before their own needs then you are a lucky guy. You want to protect you mother I see that, but what if you were told that you could never date again? Ok, right now..no more dates, no more relationships..Come on..Your mother is still human and she is not having him in the house, or spending the night with him, or trying to have this mess up your life. She is trying to get to know someone without you getting involved and possibly messing up your life. I don't so much agree with the Internet dating, but it is hard to meet people when you have kids and you are older...Cut the lady some slack and be happy you have a mom that puts you first in her life.

Answer 4

Your mum is divorced.
Don't expect her to sit at home all day looking after you ... you are 16 years old.
It's about time your mum got a life and had some fun.
Tell me ..... if you meet a girl and your mum doesn't like her, are you going to give her up because of your mum .... No ... you are not.
Let your mum have some fun. You only have one life ... don't forget "You're a long time dead".
Also because you are 16, you just might want to go flatting in a couple of years, so, do you want your mum to sit at home all alone.
Get real ....... let her enjoy life ... let her go out and make new friends ... male or female.
The world needs more romance.

As to meeting people on the Internet. I have two cousins in their late 40's who have met their man, and married their man, and are extremely happy. There is nothing wrong with chatting on the Internet and meeting who you are chatting with.

I play guitar in a band over here in New Zealand with my partner (Tom of 13 years together), and we go touring. I always meet some woman that he has been chatting too and vice versa. There is nothing wrong with meeting friends on the Net.

I think that you should really think about your mum being alone as she gets older.

Answer 5

When she's ready, she'll tell you. She should be allowed to love again, and it's going to be really hard on you, but you might just find you like the guy; try and make the guy's life easier and give him a smooth transition. True, he will never be your proper Dad but you should still treat him with respect. Confront your Mum about it in a non-aggressive way, or just wait for her to tell you. But if you are going to confront her, just ask her politely.

Answer 6

Your mom is a big girl she can do what she want's. What do you want her to sitr around and be by herself for the rest of her life? It's not up to you who she dates and who she doesn't date . And if you have killing ambitions and think about hurting men because they look at you mother then you need help. It's only human for a male to look at a female and if they think your mom is pretty then they are going to look.

Answer 7

hah, my parents are divorced to and bolth have been seeing other people. I do feel the same way about them( maybe not as far as to kill them) but I really just get to know them. If you really really dont like him your mom will most likely take your side over anybody elses. You cant really just say you dont like him you have to have some real reasons because it is your moms life and shes probably going through some stress, I know my mom did. So if this guy is really bugging you tell your mom.

Edit: vivid, you have no idea what hes goin through, it puts alot of stress on us kids to to see our parents with some stranger. I know she does need her space but this is effecting his life to.

another edit: ya it is common for men to like his mother, but it is common for him to want to protect his mother, and you people have no idea what he goes through to.

Answer 8

You are not being realistic. No one wants to spend their day working, coming home, working, coming home, etc. You need to relate to people in order to be happy and so does your Mom. I do agree tho that internet meetings can have some consequences so she does need to be careful.

Answer 9

Well I think it would be best if you told your mother that you expect her to grow old alone to make you happy. Tell her that you have no consideration for her feelings and that she is no longer a woman, she is only your mother. Honesty is the best policy.

Answer 10

I can see how hard it is for you,and I wont say I know exactly what your going through,cause honestly I dont.

But you have to realize would you want your mother to stay a widow for the rest of her life?
alone,no-one there for her?
Its your decision and she is your mother,talk to her and let her know that it makes you feel uncomfortable about it.