Tonight was one of the worst nights of my life, i took a concerta from a friend, and a few hours later i was feeling massively depressed, and anxious, and just totally akward, my boyfriend left me on halloween to go to some girls house to get drunk, and when i showed up he got mad, im just soo stressed right now and i dont know what to do, like im still in shock from what he did tonight. what can i do to calm down? Like i seriously got so upset sitting by him at the girls house while he was completely ignoring me that i felt like throwing up, and just going insane, i kept asking to talk to him alone, becasue i just didnt know what to do with myself, and he kept ignoring me, it was the worst pain in a long time. is it normal to just go mentally insane? Im still in shock, and cant think. (i know it sound like im making a big deal out of nothing) But im so upset does anyone know what i can do to calm down? im sorry if this sounds like a dumb question but i need some help. is this normal?
2007-10-31 14:20:41 · 7 answers · asked by sky 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
whenever i have asked a question like this, i thought it was dumb too, but they really aren't :(
about an hour before i had a panic attack because some teenage trick or treaters looked inside my house and examined everything while my mum gave them candy... so, right now i'm a little freaked out, i dont know why... so i listened to some music and i got better...
do you have a favourite band?
i was listening to this http://www.myspace.com/theeveningreel
i suggest you listen to the first 2
i hope you get better... & i dont think that your boyfriend is really nice... YOU are the only one with the right to be angry... not him
2007-10-31 14:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by wallflower 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you are just exhausted and tired of having him constantly attached to you, I think it is normal. If you are having feelings of harming him, then it's not normal and your meds need to be adjusted. I have a 2 month old that sleeps perfectly while I am at work, and then when I'm home all he does is fuss constantly. I love him to death and I am happy to have him home, but I do not look at him lovingly and coo over him all night long. I would like some me time and some much needed sleep. I know a lot of moms that have felt this way, so it's not just you or me. That being said, your child is old enough to learn to self soothe. I don't blame you for going to him at night b/c that is what makes it easier, but you need to start drawing a line with little things during the day. Then when he is a bit more independent, move on to the night time issues. If you need to get something done and he wants to be held constantly and screams at you, let him scream, do what you need to do and then tend to him. Make sure to tell him why you are not able to pick him up. He won't understand yet but will learn to quickly. Good luck and try not to worry about it too much. It will get better in time, you just have to teach him how to be his own person too.
2016-05-26 05:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Repeat the same phrase for about 10 minutes. (a nice one)Don't let any other thought interfere. If you hear other noise just let it pass through your mind. Keep repeating the phrase. You will calm down.
After you do, don't take that call from your bf and don't make one to him. Your turn to ignore him, permanatly. No one is worth that sort of treatment. He got mad because he had other plans you were interfering in. Do yourself a favor. Don't let him smooth it over or sweet talk you or you will feel that pain again!!!
2007-10-31 14:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by savahna5 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's start off by saying your boyfriend acted like a dick, you were very confused, sad, and angry at what he did and you just don't know how to react. I'd say to wait until he's completely sober then talk to him and ask why he's done what he's done. If he's not sorry for abandoning you then dump his sorry @ss! If he apologizes, he still likes you.
And I wouldn't advise another concerta if it made you feel the ways you did.
2007-11-01 23:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by JUUUULIA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wounded and hurt, Sounds like it may not be the first time, If not it's piled up to your now explosive feelings, tell
your self you are more valuable then the way he treats you, and you are!!! Emontional abuse is not a reason to feel dumb, Sounds like it is time to take an inventory of why you
continue to date this fella, and move on with out him.
2007-10-31 14:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by jenny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Socialize with friends not as a couple for a while.
Try hard to avoid taking drugs to solve things.
Keep busy.
Get a job
Do your homework
Volunteer.
Stress is part of life.
2007-10-31 14:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by ditdit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No..you are being co-dependent to an alcoholic,emotionally abusive man. Get out and get help and find out more about co-depency and how it can devastate your life.
2007-10-31 14:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋