but now that our son is turning two, I warned him about it, he still wouldn't change his behavior, will this have any long term affect on my son if he see his father touching my breast?
2007-10-31 14:19:01 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He behaved like this ever since we're together, I don't know if he could ever change, any ladies had this happened to them, how do you get your man to change his stubborn behavior?
2007-10-31 14:20:37 · update #1
Actually, I'm afriad my son is going to do this with his teacher and classmate when he goes to daycare
2007-10-31 14:34:16 · update #2
Stop making a big deal out of it and your son won't think there is anything wrong with it. He needs to understand that it is how married people behave. You don't want him growing up afraid of his own body or nudity do you?
It is a loving gesture from you husband, and a sexy one, be thankful he still wants to jump you every chance he gets. Of course if he does it in restaurants thats another store.......
Good Luck
2007-10-31 14:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by mn lady 6 · 1⤊ 8⤋
Your husband is obviously immature. Affection is one thing groping quite another. It will teach your son that this is okay behaviour but it's not. Your son will get the idea this is okay, touching women whenever they want. My soon to be ex certainly learnt that from his father.
The first time I met is Mom and Dad in the middle of the meal his father casually reaches over and squeezes his Mom's breast. At the dinner table for crying out loud with his grandchildren present. She slapped his hand away and was mad. They been together about 35 years at that point. Is this what you want? Disgusting.
The guy I'm leaving tried that when we first went out and wouldn't stop and I'd get so mad it was just rude as he thought this was normal behaviour in public. One day I finally grabbed his hand and bit it - hard. He finally got the message.
When you've asked your husband to stop and he doesn't he is being disrespectful of your feelings. If he's a real man he can wait until you are alone together, it's called self control.
2007-10-31 14:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by Choqs 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he doesn't stop you guys are going to get an embarrassing call from daycare or school and they are going to think you are bad parents. Everybody is going to be scared to be around him once the word gets out. Tell him to stop for your son's sake. They will make jokes of him being a sexual offender. Kids have a way of remembering the things that you don't want them too.
2007-10-31 14:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by moonchild 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No he won't. I think it's completely unnatural for children to grow up in a home where marital love isn't expressed with physical affection. My kids know I love their dad and can't keep my hands off him and they have never felt the need to touch their teacher's breast or any other part.
2007-10-31 14:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by dontdoubtit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really?? I'm on a ladder fixing a light and my husband gooses me and that is not sexy. It is downright dangerous.
He pokes my breasts when our adult children are around, when I'm in the kitchen with a knife in my hand, when I'm knitting. It startles me, embarrasses me and it is childish and rude behavior. We've talked about it. I would
love a hug, a pat on the shoulder, a sweet kiss. It is not ok. He does not own me or my body.
2016-02-28 00:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all the time my guy is fascinated with breast and it is hard to keep them at bay , at this age your child does not really know what is right or wrong in this behavior and your husband is showing you affection the way he feels you liked it in the past. the only thing to do is be cold tords him when he does this and tell him why , my guy never does this around the kids , but when they were not old enough to know the difference he did and i just kept repeating my self till it finally sunk in.
2007-10-31 14:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first husband was all hands. It is ok when the kids are not around. But, your son is two and will start to remember. It is good for a child to see his parents love each other and be affectionate to each other - but groping is a different thing. Good luck with this one. You husband needs to learn to put his son above himself and be a good role model. Have him read some of these answers!
2007-10-31 14:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kitt 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, I guess I need to be the one to break this to you. But it is you who has problems and not he. I mean a husband can't touch his wifes breast at home? Give me a break.
You are most likely very sexually inhibited. This may have resulted by very strict upbringing, being taught that sex is dirty, etc. I would bet that your parents most likely never even mentioned sex to you.
You need to lighten up, and start being wife, instead of lambasting your husband for touching your breast.
He is normal. You are not. Sorry. I would suggest you look into some counseling.
Oh, and by the way. Stop trying to use your child as an excuse for your behavior!
2007-10-31 14:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by madcat 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
A woman's body belongs to her husband and a husband's body belongs to his wife. Says in the Bible.
Your two year old doesn't discern 'private' areas yet. Your breast and your knee are only different by location to your child. Your over the top reaction will be what provokes your child to take notice what your hubby is doing.
2007-10-31 14:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by Xanadu 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
mmm put you foot down ...... or throw some cold water on him , if he wont quit ,
there a time and a place ,
however you sound like , this isn't the real issues at hand
perhaps you need to take about this to your doctor
and 2 year old dont bother about this ok .... it very normal behavior for men
2007-10-31 14:28:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEFORE HE GRABS YOUR BREAST BEAT HIM TO IT AND GRAB HIS???????actually do that to him as much as you can, it may not change his behavior then again may be it will, it may offend him as much as him crabbing your breast offends you.On the other hand I see nothing wrong with the fact that he still found you desirable
2007-10-31 14:46:49 · answer #11 · answered by Loretta M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋