She is a complete invalid and everything has to be done for her...including feeding, toileting, showing. My heart breaks for her. Any suggestions on improving the quality of her life would be appreciated.
2007-10-31 14:17:49 · 16 answers · asked by pete6356 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Many visits, photo graphs notes and cards.
2007-10-31 14:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do. I had an Aunt that was in a hospice. You need to give her creature comforts. She will need a television. Keeps her feeling like she has some contact with the rest of the world all day. Give her a subscription to your local newspaper. Also keeps her occupied. Put a computer in her room if she can use one or likes them. A lap top would be best. She could put it on the hospital table and use the Internet.
You could also bring her flowers every so often. A real good idea is to go to your local florists and ask them to donate the cut flowers that they have to get rid of because of their age. If they get to old to sell, they throw them away. They may not deliver them, but you could and give them out to all the patients. They may even become friends with your mom over this. That will comfort her to have friends.
The most important thing though, is to just visit as much as you can. And make sure the place is taking care or her. Don't be afraid to get in some body's face if you see problems. Good luck and God bless you both.
2007-10-31 21:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by Tony K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a TV with built in DVD and get her a nice selection of movies she likes. Great company and will help pass the time and keep her entertained.
Also...visit as often as possible; stay as long as possible; and make sure you check her for mood and ask questions about the nights from 11PM til 6AM when most abuses occur.
Having a roommate is better for her and the more visits she gets the better. Take her out if you can, or at least take her out for a walk or short drive. If they don't have a bring a pet to visit program, ask about starting one; elderly have remarkable results from petting a dog, cat or other animal; some people bring rabbits to visit and it helps them so much mentally emotionally and physically.
But most important: The nights, when no one is around; how is she being treated? Make sure she tells you and you feel comfortbale with her responses and she is not saying OK out of fear of reprisals.
My Mom was abused one night and she was never the same; she was only in for six weks to get medications/shots Medicare wouldn't pay for at home, otherwise she never would have been there, but that one night was so bad she never recovered from it emotionally.
Also check her meds and the dosages, make sure her meds are correct and ask to see her chart and talk to her doctor and caregivers as often as possible; every day would be good because the more involved you stay, the better treatment she will receive.
And when you can't visit, CALL her; every day, it means so much.
2007-10-31 21:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your Mom's condition ,Just make sure you see her as often as you can .Mabe take a favorite picture to her.Bring her flowers and always have a smile for her.Hold her hand and tell her how much she means to you.Talk about the good times of your lives that will bring a smile to her face.Enjoy each moment that you can and treasure it for the rest of your life.Take her down memory lane is the best time you two will have.She has been blessed to live the age she is as many people have never had a Mom they can remember.My prayers are with you to stop your heart from aching
2007-10-31 21:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by mamaw2305 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visit her as often as you can.
Bring music that she loves to listen to.
Read a book to her.
Bring a DVD movie you can both watch together.
If the nursing home allows bring in a pet when you go to visit.
On nice days take her outside in the wheelchair and take a small walk or just sit outside and enjoy the weather.
Very nice of you to try and improve her quality of life, she is blessed to have you for a daughter.
Good Luck!
2007-10-31 21:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by EMT-207 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, bring her home with you. The best quality of life is to be with her family and to show her love. Yes, I understand she's an ivalid and can't take care of herself. But, remember, she did the same for you when you weren't old enough to do any of that too. Also, there's visiting nurses and home health 24 hour care. There's always a way if you truly mean to take care of your mom.
2007-10-31 22:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by Neil 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does she have alzheimer's or a disease or condition that makes it that way? Because my great-grandmother is the same age and she didn't have anything wrong with her she just basically lost the will to live but we got her back up by bringing her around the things that she loves. for her it is children. when she was brought back around all her grandchildren and great grandchildren now she is eating and starting to walk again. sometimes my aunt often takes her to the park. it's a long process but that's really what it takes. try to keep things that u know she likes around her.
2007-10-31 21:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by complicated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
other than moving her in with you and hiring someone to stay with her all day. No. O'm sorry for you though and I'm sure it is tuff to see her this way I know it would be for me to see my mom like that. God I pray I never have too or wound up like htat myself.
2007-10-31 21:20:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah bring her home where she is comfortable and
hire a 24 hours nurse.
2007-10-31 21:38:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, please keep going to visit her. She knows you are there and it's what she looks forward to most. Show her and tell her how much you love her. Talk to her about the past, when she was raising you - and what a good job she did.
2007-10-31 21:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by muffin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋