im loosing my man because he has a widow mom what do i do , im miserable ?

Question

well me and my man we've been going out for 2 years and living together , and we are madly in love. but one day his mom decided that she didn't want to stay alone in the winter so my man decided to go live with her all winter long , he told me that he would come her every evening to be with me and then after a certain hour he would leave me to go sleep at moms. i told him that i was not satisfied with his decision and he told me im not leaving my mom alone, and i told him its ok to leave your fiancee all alone at night, but not your mom. i told him he was a momma's boy and he told me that he was not, that i was just jelouse about her and that i had no heart. but its not true i have parents to but i would not put my family aside to go back to my parents just becasue they wont sleep alone . he comes from a family of 13 and hes the only one good in here eyes , and she likes to manipulate him very much . im starting to hate her pls tell me what i should do wait until shes dies

Answer 1

Unless there is some overwhelming medical reason why he should be spending every night with his mother, I think he has made his choice about who he wants to be with, by literally voting with his feet. I don't want to sound harsh, but nagging him to be with you and trying to persuade him is just going to make him want to get away from you more and run to her. After 2 years I would want him to be putting me first too unless she was very ill or something. I feel very sorry for you, but the fact he is choosing her over you says you are always going to come off second best to his family, or anyone else he feels need him, and if you just let him do this to you, you make it acceptable. I know its hard but I would be walking away and rebuilding my life with someone who wanted to be with me more than they wanted to be with their mother, or anyone else for that matter- you deserve to be treated better than that. Good Luck

Answer 2

I think your right. She's having a hard time right now with her husband being gone. But he should not be spending the night there. In order for him to understand you, tell him that you would really like to be there for his mom too. Make a deal that 3 times a week, you both will go over there and make dinner and spend time with her...then go home together. Tell him that he is a grown man now and cannot be spending the night at mom's house anymore. See how that works. I hope it does, how frustrating for you.

Answer 3

Sounds to me he's a big time mama's boy and that will never change. If you want to keep him, then why not ask the question, Why can't mom move in with us or one of the other kids? All of the kids could help by taking turns staying with her if necessary. If he says this won't work then you will realize he is telling you goodbye so cut your loses and find someone more mature. Good luck!!

Answer 4

Embrace the modern marvel of the spell check. Use it religiously and he will be putty in your hands.

Good luck.

Answer 5

PIPE IS RIGHT. aND i WOULD ALMOST WONDER IF HE IS PULLING YOUR LEG. SHE WAS ALONE BEFORE BUT SUDDENLY DECIDED SHE NEEDS HER SON TO SLEEP IN HER HOUSE? DOUBT IT.
YOU BETTER CHECK HIS STORY, HE MAY BE SLEEPING WITH ANOTHER WOMAN, BUT NOT MOMMY.
MEN CAN BE THAT SCANDALOUS. I KNOW YOU LOVE HIM BUT MAYBE BE A LITTLE CAREFUL. THIS STORY DOESN'T JIVE

Answer 6

how old is she.. if she is not going to die soon.. then i would let her have him...if he is a momas boy he will not change

Answer 7

Go find a MAN!!!!!

Answer 8

you know the facts.

should you wait.... wait only if you want to....

would i,, he!! no!!!

Answer 9

move on , she more in tune with him not you ..........

let him do what he doing