What can one do to be happy, even if they arent?

Question

im not really sad i just want a way to forget the stuff thats bugging me so i can just live my life

im not sad i just need to know how to get the "stuff" off my mind

Answer 1

You seem to be caught in a cycle of 'circular thinking'. This phenomenon is fairly common and there are ways to break it.

Just 'forgetting' about the things that bug you wont help. That behavior will only prolong your current feeling and probably make things worse in the long run. Although maintaining a positive attitude is extremely important to your mental health, you need to DO something about those things that are bugging you.

You have to take an active role in removing them, or at least minimizing them so that they at least seem more manageable. Try focusing on just one of these at a time and attempt to resolve it. Over time, as they become eliminated or reduced, you will start to feel better about your life and enjoy it more. You will also find that you have a new sense of power in your life and that has rewards that will last for a long time.

Answer 2

Well, the truth is that it will remain there no matter what you do. I, personally, tend to be an isolationist and simply seal off bad thoughts: this is usually accomplished by self-denial (which is, if used improperly a bad thing and can lead to arrogance) of these things. Try to keep your mind busy, that's the best way to forget. Try chess, works like a charm at keeping people happy.

Answer 3

Sometimes it is very hard to remember that the past is the past... you can not change it... if stuff is just bugging you and there is no resolution that will make it quit bugging you then why continue to let it bother you... put it away... or let go and let God... we can not control all things, somethings we just have to hand things over to a higher power instead of making ourselves miserable over them... I'm sorry you are so unhappy, do try tho to resolve or hand it over... You will be happy that you did!

Answer 4

We are impulsive people. Anything touching our hearts we become one with the bereaved persons. Honestly we are convincing the wrong people on our side. We need to go away from people that serve no purpose. Why border in sadness and happiness. The urgency is live normally. Distractions and interference would least affect us, when we segregate ourselves from them altogether.

Answer 5

I suggest going to a friend! That's what friends are for.
You could talk or watch a movie. Find something fun to do!
If you are by yourself, you need to watch a funny show or
comedian. I find when I at least try to watch them it usually
almost always makes me laugh.
Or check out Youtube. They have funny things on there.
Have some fun,even if you aren't sad!

Answer 6

Your life will be, to a very large degree, what you make of it. If you decide to be happy, positive, and productive, you will be. If you decide to let past memories bother you, they will. You may not be able to forget, but you can decide how important the "stuff" is.

Answer 7

Happiness is an agreeable feeling or condition arising
from good fortune or propitious happening of any kind.
It is the possession of those circumstances or that
state of being which is attended with enjoyment. It is
associated with good luck, good fortune, prosperity,
well-being, delight, health, safety, and love.

Happiness is generic, and is applied to almost every
kind of enjoyment except that of the animal appetites.
It ia a state of well-being characterized by emotions
ranging from contentment to intense joy. These include:
bliss, joy, joyous, carefree, jubilant, exultant,
cheerful, playful, amused, fun, glad, gay, gleeful,
jolly, jovial, delighted, euphoric, ecstatic, thrilled,
elated, enraptured, comfortable, harmonious, and
triumphant. Societies, religions, and individuals have
various views on the nature of happiness and how to
pursue it.

Only saint-like persons, who feel that they are no
longer interested in the external world, think that
happiness is within. For many persons, nothing can make
them happy. Our minds are as different as our finger
prints - no two are alike. Listening to loud music
makes one happy and makes another unhappy. Hence, there
can be no single definition for happiness. It is
probably impossible to objectively define happiness as
humans know and understand it, as internal experiences
are subjective by nature. Because of this, explaining
happiness as experienced by one individual is as
pointless as trying to define the color green such that
a completely color blind person could understand the
experience of seeing green.

As a state and a subject, it has been pursued and
commented on extensively throughout world history.

"Call no man happy till he is dead." - Aeschylus

"Happiness is a positive cash flow." - Fred Adler

"Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes
true happiness. It is not attained through
self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy
purpose." - Joseph Addison

"True happiness arises, in the first place, from the
enjoyment of one's self, and in the next, from the
friendship and conversation of a few select
companions." - Joseph Addison

Happiness is often associated with the presence of
favourable circumstances such as a supportive family
life, a loving marriage, and economic stability. Kali
Yuga, the age of darkness, is the time when these
favourables are difficult to find.

Unfavorable circumstances - such as abusive
relationships, accidents, loss of employment, and
conflicts - diminish the amount of happiness a person
experiences. In all nations, factors such as hunger,
disease, crime, corruption, and warfare can decrease
happiness. However, according to several ancient and
modern thinkers, happiness is influenced by the
attitude and perspective taken on such circumstances.

From the observation that fish must become happy by
swimming, and birds must become happy by flying.
Aristotle points to the unique abilities of man as the
route to happiness. Of all the animals only man can sit
and contemplate reality. Of all the animals only man
can develop social relations to the political level.
Thus the contemplative life of a monk or professor, or
the political life of a military commander or
politician will be the happiest according to their own
psyche.

The following is the self-reported positive affect
(i.e. positive emotion) during the day by 909 employed
women in USA:

Activities and their positive effect index:

Intimate relations 5.10
Socializing 4.59
Relaxing 4.42
Pray/Worship/Meditate 4.35
Eating 4.34
Exercising 4.31
Watching TV 4.19
Shopping 3.95
Preparing food 3.93
On the phone 3.92
Napping 3.87
Taking care of
my children 3.86
Computer/Email/
Internet 3.81
Housework 3.73
Working 3.62
Commuting 3.45

Interaction with partners:

w/ friends 4.36
w/ relatives 4.17
w/ spouse/Significant
other 4.11
w/ children 4.04
w/ clients/customers 3.79
w/ co-workers 3.76
w/ boss 3.52
alone 3.41

Further, happiness is not entirely psychological in
nature - it has got a biological basis too. The
neurotransmitter dopamine is involved in desire and
seems often related to pleasure. Pleasure can be
induced artificially with drugs. Use of drugs is not
some thing new, it has been used by many including
Sanyasis since millenia.

Answer 8

When I feel down I always try to think about stuff I like to think about or do something that I like to do. That always helps.

Also, when you do something that benefits you it would make you feel good like studying for a test and acing it.

Hope you feel better!

Answer 9

Instead of concentrating on yourself, every day pick a person who really needs help and do all you can for them. It will make you appreciate your life a whole lot more!

Answer 10

I find that when I'm upset about something...hanging out with my friends helps a lot...