I guess I don't really have a question. I'm just so frustrated and getting so depressed. My husband and I have been TTC for 6 months now and to no avail. I know you're supposed to give it at least a year, but it seems so unfair that there are all these "unplanned" pregnancies and then we're all trying so hard to conceive and we're waiting so long.
I know it's not anybodies fault, but it gets so hard sometimes. Everybody tells me to stop thinking about and relax and it will happen naturally, but how in the heck do you stop thinking about it???
Any success stories or words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated. Baby dust!
2007-10-31 12:15:35 · 13 answers · asked by christiekpoe 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
sorry that you're having a hard time... i know how tough it is... the thing that's helped me the most is (& i don't know if you're religious or not) to just ask god to take over and if you're meant to get pregnant to hurry it along and if you're not meant to right now to help take your mind off of it... even if you don't pray normally just give it a try... it's really helped me with my frustration...
it's such a pain in the butt because your friends are right about relaxing ... if you're nervous or uptight your body will instinctually quit ovulating because it's getting signals that the outside environment is too dangerous to bring a newborn into right now... it sucks but it's our body's way of protecting the baby...
good luck and tons of baby dust to you!!!
2007-10-31 12:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by danii 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are feeling, I had been TTC for 4 years. I had gone through the depression, the just plain pissed off at the world , the wondering.
How I dealt...
Every month when I would get my AF I would give myself one night of self pity. I would get a bottle of wine and have a nice dinner and cry or get drunk or what ever BUT I only got one night then the next day I thought only of the good things in my life and build the strength to do it all over again.
NOW and as of 3 days ago I got my BFP. After 4 years of trying and 7 months on clomid. I am pregnant.
If I could wait it out you can too. It is hard but will help you learn a lot about yourself and your husband. Enjoy the time you guys have and I know easier said than done but try what I did, it worked well for me.
********baby dust ***********
2007-10-31 19:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by Madisons' Mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is very frustrating. i know, i've been TTC for over a year. i have experienced lots of different emotions, sadness, grief, anger, jealousy...
first, it is okay to have these feelings. sometimes we have to acknowledge that it is okay to be pissed about this. but we can't get stuck there b/c if we want a baby we have to keep trying.
i'm not going to tell you to relax it'll just happen when it happens b/c honestly that's ********. while stress can delay ovulation, it is very unlikely that it is going to cause infertility.
what i would say is do what you can to time sex with ovulation. if you have irregular periods, a history of STD's or infertility in your family then see a doc now. seeing a doctor doesn't mean you have to start fertility treatments. it just means tht you are checking to make sure that all is okay.
most of the women that i know that have been trying for years and years usually don't realize that a visit to the doctor may be the right solution.
there are so many success storied out there. i remind myself of that.
2007-10-31 20:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by Roc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same boat as you. My husband and I have been ttc for 12 months now. Every month I get my period and cry for the whole day. Its really taking a toll on my life and I never thought it would be this hard. Its a bit different for me as I already have one child but I really want another so he has someone to play with. We have done all the charts and this month I thought we did everything perfectly but I have taken 2 tests already and both negative. I know I cant give much ecouragement but at least know that you are not the only one going through this. That knowledge helps me out. Goodluck to you and keep hopeful.
2007-10-31 19:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by mel_24 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell me about it!! My hubby and I have been TTC for over 7 years now and have gone through lots of testing, several different medications, 2 surgeries, tons of frustration and just adopted a baby girl 4 months ago. Adoption was the best thing that ever happened to us!!! We are still TTC, but the frustration isn't nearly as bad now that we have a beautiful little adopted daughter. Hang in there!
2007-10-31 19:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by Amy B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too, know how you feel, as I get older I get more and more nervous, I have been trying a long time. I have no children and the thought of never having one is ...awful. The way I learned to cope with it is to do something to work towards having a child. I work on the nursery, I try to eat properly and exercise so I will be healthy and in good shape to have a child. I take multi vitamins, and occasionally buy a baby item and put it in the nursery. Assuming you have been to a doctor and have ruled out possible fertility problems, focus on the goal, your child, work toward that goal. Don't force yourself to have sex. Give yourself a break from it and save sex for the week you are ovulating. I don't know why people who don't want children have them so easily, but I do know people who struggle to have them are wonderful parents. So work toward your goal of being a mom, I know you will be one of the "wonderful" ones!
2007-10-31 19:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by Wannabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Just keep trying. Relax, try not to let it strain you. Make sure your taking a good multivitamin, or better yet, take prenatal vitamins, to help your body get ready for a baby. Eat lots of leafy greens. Have hubby take zinc, and if he isnt a boxer guy, have him switch. Try to enjoy this time, I know its hard but, think of it this way, you have a better chance of conceiving and keeping a pregnancy when you are not stressed out.
2007-10-31 19:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by Liz W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi I have been through the same feeling as you have. Finally i got a positive result and im 5 weeks. The thing i should say is yes try to relax and try not to think about it. I concived the month i didnt think about it ( i know it sounds daft). There are a few things you could try which i did. Once you have had sex elevate your pelvis it helps the sperm travel and dont sit up as gravity will pull it down. Dont go to the toilet straight after this is just removing the sperm before it has chance. try this web site it helped me
http://boards.babycentre.co.uk/n/pfx/forum.aspx?webtag=bcUKTrying6Mons&_requestid=1667589
good luck
2007-10-31 19:34:48 · answer #8 · answered by wudsbird1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can sort of understand how you feel. I thought I would get pregnant this time right away like I did with my daughter. It took 3 months and I was frustrated so I can only imagine how you must feel. Despite what a lot of people say about your cycle (I wasn't really tracking mine too well), my husband and I baby danced right after I finished AF. That's how I got pregnant. Baby dust!
2007-10-31 19:23:56 · answer #9 · answered by Precious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel i have been ttc for 18 months since i miscarried and it is hard at time i know but i try not to think about it to much even though im in the tww period and it is driving me crazy at the moment. I get the try not to think and it will happen but as of yet it has not for me i think if people have nothing good to say for god sake stop saying it will happen and don't worry it really gets my back up
2007-10-31 19:43:32 · answer #10 · answered by fiona 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋