me and my lad recently split after being together for 5 years! we decided last year to try for a baby! now we have split up and i still want his baby and still love him very much! what can i do? please help me?
2007-10-31 11:38:36 · 25 answers · asked by roosty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
depends on why you have split and if he still loves u otherwise move on and thank you lucky stars that your not having a baby or had a baby with him but if he still loves you give it time and talk good luck
2007-10-31 11:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by STEVEN W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, ask yourself why you both split up.
If it was over a reason that you could forgive and get over, if he cheated on you, then you could reconsider if you believe he generally has changed.
If you split maybe because you had grown apart or he was getting bored of you, then it probably isn't a good idea to get back together.
Whatever the reason, having a baby is an incredibly big decision, and if you and your guy do get back together, I suggest that you wait a long time until you try for a baby, because there maybe the risk of you both splitting again and this isn't good for the baby.
If you aren't going to get back together and you are simply heartbroken, then I'm afraid that 'time heals all wounds'. Obviously you are cut up after a 5 year relationship, but dwelling on the past and things that were obviously never meant to be is just going to distract you from your a future.
One day you'll meet a perfect guy and have a baby, but you'll have to take alot of time to get over this first and move on. it will be difficult but trust me, you won't be like this forever even though you think you will.
Good luck =]
2007-10-31 11:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are focusing on what you have lost, and the baby is one thing, on top of the loss of bf. BUT you truly haven't lost a baby; there was none, but surely can be with the right man/father-to-be. And even though you loved your bf dearly, he can be replaced. Sadly, this takes time, as you have many memories. Until you are a tad happier, you won't feel like making new memories with a new beau. But it will happen, slowly, yes, but truly, and then making a baby will be fun. Grieving won't go away just because we want it to, so you'll have to endure that process. Keep busy, write, talk, and get that emotional pain out. Then start rebuilding, and make your life worthy to bring a baby into it. The best revenge is success, so go for it. Slowly, but surely. Success
2007-10-31 11:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want "his" baby even thought you're splitting up? Are you nuts? You say "you still love him". Frankly my dear, your love is cheap and selfish. Who cares how much you love him, your baby needs more to live a happy life than "Oh, this guy I knew years ago once impregnated me".
You actually feel comfortable living with these three concepts:: "I love him" and "we're splitting up" and "I want his baby".
You hate children because you're not enough woman to wait for the right man to come along that won't be "splitting up" with you. Shame on you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-31 11:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5yrs is a long time but you really do need to be glad your not left holding the baby at least you can move on children are hard work especially if your on your own i have 4 2 was with my first and he left me and it was a struggle for me and my children so try not to think about it, everything happens for a reason.
2007-10-31 12:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by bumpa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
takes 2 to make a relationship..
now stop and think..would it be fair to bring a child into this world with the facts as stated/??? like your split up???
having a baby to try and get the man back is selfish and wrong...
a child is brought into the world as a blessing and for loving purposes..NOT TO KEEP A MAN OR MAKE HIM COME BACK!!
hugsss...suck it up and move on dear.. life goes on...
2007-10-31 11:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by bettym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you split up there's no reason to have his baby because he probably won't support it. Like a lot of dead beat Dads.
Find someone Else. you'd be better off.
2007-10-31 11:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get over the whole situation period...its over sister get used to it....and having his baby without being with him would be very hard on you im sure...i think you just still want to be with him
2007-10-31 11:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u 2 were 2gether 4 5 yrs there still have 2 b sumthin there. i bet he still loves u 2. just c if u can work out ur problems
2007-10-31 11:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by Risky_Bizness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pay attention to me intently. This guy is crap and here line is crap. "yet he says in line with possibility while its born and if he does opt for to verify it and opt for the toddler then he will in all possibility opt for me aswell.." in all possibility? What are you a playtoy?! What does that fact make your toddler in his eyes? think of roughly it. He dumped you (and your toddler) once you opt for him maximum and now he's letting all of it journey on seeing the toddler (and he will in line with possibility take you back?). *snorts* he's immature and irresponsible. what share cases is he going to do this even after the toddler is born? what share cases will he try this on your baby? enable HIM pass! Sue him for baby help after the toddler is born wether he "needs" the toddler or no longer. this is a million/2 his and he DOES have a accountability for that baby which you're donning. look hun i understand you're scared and which you in all possibility love him yet your pastime now could be to think of of that useful little baby interior you and whats maximum suitable for that new existence and not a gaggle of drama. If he desires to be stupid enable him pass and complication concerning the main severe element that should take place on your existence, your toddler. Please walk away and tell him that as quickly as the toddler is born you will call him. until then ignore approximately him and his mess. i understand this is stressful yet you're able to do it. He would be a spectacular father as quickly as he sees the toddler yet i does not take him back now, if I have been you, for all the money interior the international. desire I made experience... solid success hun.
2016-11-09 21:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋