If your spouse purposely avoids telling you before marriage that he/she has Asthama would you consider it a matter so serious that you would consider seperation?
2007-10-31 11:24:36 · 22 answers · asked by Justanian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If by "asthma" you actually meant "AIDS" then my answer is a resounding yes. But if by "asthma" you meant "asthma" then I think this retarded.
2007-10-31 11:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by Gena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Athasma or Asthma?
Well, it depend on the type of the medical problem.
If it's a life threatening problem, I would think that he may have hidden other stuff and would question his agenda.
If he's a contagious desease, I might even take his A** to court.
If it's just asthma, like in being allergic to dust, I don't think it's a big deal.
It would depend on the nature of the medical problem.
If he can't have children for example, well, knowing that I do want children and would have talked about it when we were dating, then, I probably would rethink the relationship.
Anything that would dramatically change him from the person he led me to believe he is, and that could alter our future, or mine, yeah, I'd give serious thought to.
Good luck.
And don't feel guilty. He should be the one to be.
2007-10-31 18:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. But I don't believe Asthma falls into this catergory. It can range from serious to mild so it depends how serious his asthma is... A lot of people live their whole lives with asthma and manage it without any serious problems. There is a wide range of medications that help control it and staying healthy and exercising, especially swimming. I have asthma and only use my puffer about once, sometimes twice a year!!!
If its not a serious case of asthma then I don't think he has breached your trust at all! It'd be likened to forgetting to mention you get back pain from time to time.
2007-10-31 19:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the asthma is debilitating, then it's a breach
of trust. You 'contracted' for a healthy spouse.
But now you're in a marriage. Is that breach
enough for you to break the bond?
That's a question only you can answer.
2007-10-31 18:48:32 · answer #4 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends she has asthma its not the end of the world but, That's why before you get married its a time to get to no one another and talk about medical issues fears or dislikes to see if you and this person can marry. But if you truly love this person with all your heart than the part of them having Astana shouldn't matter that much. The part that has hurt you is that she never told you about her medical condition before.
You were open and honest with her i hope for your sake.
best of luck
2007-10-31 18:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was a serious condition that would effect his life expectancy or effect yours then it would be a breach of trust. Asthma when under control is really not something you even really think about too much.
You are way overreacting!
2007-10-31 18:46:54 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?? Asthma is not something you can catch, what`s the problem??
You want to divorce b/c of this? Your question is appaling, accept them for who they are. What if you have a child that has autism? Are you gonna call the baby machine defective?
May as well divorce now, and save her the trouble later.
2007-10-31 18:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good grief dont you think their are more things to worry about in a marriage, if your marriage cant sustain that minor glitch boy are you in for a rough ride, I have to say this is the silliest question I have heard in a long time, really in the grander scale of things to worry about is this what you would consider giving up a marriage for
2007-10-31 19:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by nfldwct123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.... good question because I could see it going both ways. I suggest whether your already married or about to get married to go see a counslour. I am not saying its a big deal but sometimes just talking to someone even one time can get you the answers you need. I would hope though that by the time you marry someone you would know them inside and out!
2007-10-31 18:33:06 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all how come he didn't tell you?? ask him his reasons maybe he was shy (though i don't see why asthma is not something to be hiding) I don't think that should be a reason for separation.
Get sometime to talk about it, maybe he has his reasons...
2007-10-31 18:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asthma is really no big deal. I wold be upset because they didn't trust me enough to tell me but, married me? I think in reality they kind of made you distrust them and they need to work on getting it back....But, no I would not leave I made a vow for better or worse...Hope that is your only worse....
2007-10-31 18:33:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋