and blow up if you give them your opinion and it doesn't match what they have in their own minds? I mean, why ask if you don't want to hear it?
Sort of like a lot of the questions asked here.
2007-10-31 10:29:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Because a lot of people are insecure and have low self esteem. They have borrowed belief systems and hold on to them for dear life, even though these systems fail them and don't reflect who they really are. They are afraid to be real. And you trigger the truth inside them. If I disagree with you when I ask your opinion, if it really irks me, I know that you have hit a nerve and I need to take a look at that. If I am secure, nothing you say will phase me. Most people only want you to mirror back to them their own bull****. It's why so many of us are so messed up. We live half-lives. It's very sad. But I also think there are a lot of very young people here who haven't quite cracked the egg shell yet.
2007-10-31 10:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by obsidiswan 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I ask an opinion on here to get others feed back. I don't get flustered and I certainly don't 'blow up' I am really interested in what other people have to say.
Sometimes, Yes, I may have made up my own mind but I think (probably mistakenly) that other people may find my question interesting.
We 'ask' because sometimes it's a bit of light relief other times it's serious. Whatever the reason it's communication and , for some, who may be lonely, they want to hear it.
2007-10-31 10:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
People don't really want the advice we give here or anywhere. They usually have their own answer, but just want to see if anyone agrees and regardless, they are going to do exactly as they please. I enjoy giving advice and I always tell them beforehand that they are probably not going to like what they hear, then I let them have my sincere opinion. Then I sit back and watch them screw it up, just like I knew they would. It's a hoot and I don't take it personal.lol
2007-10-31 12:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dianne m 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the majority of the time they really don't want YOUR opinion, they are thinking this gives them the opportunity to voice their own opinion.
Instead of asking for your opinion perhaps they should say, Would you like to know what I think about this and that?
Of course that will always give you the opportunity to say no.
2007-10-31 11:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by Grace 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OH, but there is such an easy way to handle this...we all know that anyone who needs to ask us about this or that already has a very firm fix on what they want to hear, otherwise, they wouldn't ask..they are simply asking for confirment. So, the standard reply is, "gee, let me think...what do YOU think about this?" They will then answer their own question and think you are a genius in giving them such tremendous insight...yes, very easy! peace and love, Goldwing
2007-10-31 13:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To quote Yul Bryner from the King and I , it's a puzzlement.
If you don't really want my opinion don't ask, because I'll give it to you, whether you and I agree or not.
People like congruity and for some reason nowadays don't know how to handle someone who isn't exactly like them, thinks like them or acts like them. Incongruity frustrates and makes them flustered.
2007-10-31 14:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they aren't wanting your opinion, they're wanting you to say what they'd like to hear. They want someone who agrees with their opinion. That happened to me when I first started on here and I actually tried to help someone. They didn't want to hear it, they just wanted others who would agree with what they were saying. I still give my opinion, but I'm just more careful when I do so.
2007-10-31 10:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by luvspbr2 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Because they have "expectations" that are not being fulfilled.
Here's another one of my famous examples:
Before we knew mom was coming down with Alzheimer's (1997) she decided that she needed new tires for her Cadillac. We told her that she didn't, but she just got mad! So, she went to the tire place and they told her that her tires are fine. She continued to another tire store and they also told her that she had good tires. This continued awhile until finally, she found someone that would agree with her and ripped her off for 4 new tires that she didn't need. But she was finally happy, because she found someone that validated her.
2007-10-31 11:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by Granny 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Because they dont really want to hear what you think. They want you to make them feel they are right by agreeing with them. I saw a shirt once that said "You have a right to your opinion as long as its mine."
2007-10-31 11:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I had a nasty teacher in high school--she always said -- everyone is entitled to their own opinion as long as it is based on fact.
well---hoo wah on that one. People as I have noticed want to hear their opinion and if you don't agree then poo on you. They really don't know better.
2007-10-31 10:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by lilabner 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋