I'm afraid of telling her, and to top it all off I told some of my best friends (well 3 of them) and only 1 was supportive! Ugh, help me find the courage to say it.
2007-10-31 10:20:54 · 87 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You're totally fine sweetie. You're mom will completely understand.
In fact, she might even be excited!
Edit: The note thing is a great idea. Maybe try an email.
2007-10-31 10:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by scooterbaga 1 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Three times?! I'm surprised she didn't know already! Mine knew within the second day of my first period. But that's a different story.
Friends won't listen. They'll probably only say it's gross when they have gotten their periods ages ago! I'm 13 and I find it embarrassing to talk about it in public with close friends. I've never told my friends. It's kind of a personal thing, between you and your mom. It's great one of your friends is supporting you!
She went through the same thing. Does that help? I bet she was freaking out when she told her mom. Find a nice, quiet time to talk. Then just say it out loud. I'm sure she'll be really excited and happy! I'm sure she'll be sad that her "little girl" is growing up, but she'll get over it. I'm sure she'll be willing to help you.
Yeah, if you ever have any bad cramps, just let it out. If there's other family around, just say you don't feel well. She'll get the picture. I'm sure she'll help as well.
Uh, warm water is really good for cramps. Don't drink too much sugar and caffeine. If you can actually get up, exercise really helps! So do hot water bags. Uh, if you just really plain feel sick, lay on the bed and read or listen to music. Don't be afraid to ask to take a day off school if it's that bad.
Congrats! Good luck! :-)
2007-10-31 10:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by Sonatina Gena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same position - me and my mum have no conenction and I found it completely embarrasing to tell her! She then went and told the whole family which didn't help but anyway! Just casually mention in passing conversation, "Mom, will you buy me some pads/sanatry towels the next time you go shopping?" She'll most likely ask you if you have started your periods and just casually say, "Yeah so if you could get me some it would be good." I don't understand why your friends are being supportive - stuff them. You're starting into the adult world by becoming a woman (the earliest stage!) and I wish you all the best :)
2007-10-31 11:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of things here. FIrst, your period does not need anyones support. It is a natural event in girls. Sometimes by 8 or 9 but usually about 11 or 12. Why would you be afraid to tell your Mother. She can help you and guide you about this and help you figure out all the things that may or may not need to be different now. After all, she has had a period for years unless she has outgrown it by now. It is normal to have one and without them we could not replicate out species. Tell Mom soon and she will help you better understand this. Don't know how old you are but since you have tried to discuss this with your friends already, I would assume about 13, so please talk to mom. She should be better than a friend. Good Luck!
2007-10-31 10:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry. I didn't really ever tell my friends but its kindof an assumed thing at our current age. (I'm 15) I'm not saying that we don't talk about it or anything like that, possibly too much actoually. But I'm getting off topic. I never "told" my mom eaither. I actoually just went in the bathroom when she was in there (she was like blowdrying her hair or something) and opened the cabinet where she kept that suff when I knew she was watching. She made some comment that made me know she knew and then just ignored it. (which was what I wanted) Or maybe next time youre at the store with her say "I need tampons" or whatever your choice is. It takes the form of a convorsation away and makes it less strange.
Good Luck!
2007-10-31 11:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I can assure you, what you are going through is normal. But if you're mom is your mom, then she has to understand! She has obviously been doing the same thing for a while now. It's not a bad thing. It's normal. All women go through it. I have had to, or else I couldn't be having this baby with my husband. Now, all you have to do is relax. If it makes you feel better, look up information on what's going on yourself, and get some ways to bring it up as well. I know you don't just want to blurt it out, but just wait until you're alone, or find a way to be alone with her in a comfortable way, (coffee shop, mall, etc) and just tell her. Tell her it's hard for you to talk about. Just be honest with how you feel, ok? It'll make things much easier if you do.
2007-10-31 10:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by DutchessRain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a talk with your mom. I wonder if you are using the right 'padding' and are using the proper 'hygiene' ... so TELL YOUR MOM, and also tell her that you were 'scared' to tell her about your periods ... you'll need to be scheduled for a 'female exam' and start getting regular pap smears and other things. If your mom is 'uptight' about your periods, then talk to your grandmother, or a female teacher at school who can at least point you in the proper direction for guidance.
And by the way ...
CONGRATULATIONS! You are a 'woman' now, and if I knew you, I'd take you out for an ice cream sundae and a good long talk. I hope you can find this in another woman whom you can trust to talk about these things. TALK is most important to you now, but you MUST talk with someone who is 'older and wiser' and not to your friends, who are as 'ignorant' as you are about what is now going on with your body. Good luck, sweetheart ...
2007-10-31 10:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was terrified also. once you are open about it, you will feel better. my mom felt the need to tell all my family members which pissed me off, but oh well i guess. I know it feels akward, but in a few years all your friends will be talking about it openly all the time- it is just a wierd time in your life at that age. when you tell anybody, act like you are proud of it and have it under control. lots of girls really are. the only ones who are going to be unsupportive are girls who havent gotten theirs yet- and soon enough they will. be proud to be a woman! be confident in everything you do, and open about what is going on in your life- even if some people arent always supportive. thats the best advice i can give you.
2007-10-31 10:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mom can help with this very confusng time in your life...so please tell her. And about the friends and only 1 being supprtive....have any of them gotten thier periods yet...that may be able to tell you why the were or weren't supportive. Don't hold it against them, they are going thru the same confusing time as you.
You have the courage in you...don't be afraid. Everything will be fine.
2007-10-31 10:28:49 · answer #9 · answered by Cindy V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be afraid to tell your mom, there is nothing to worry about. Its not like you are going to be punished for having it. Im sure she will understand, you have to remember she went through the same thing at some time in her life. Your mom will probably be the most supportive person about that subject!
2007-10-31 10:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Porsha♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't tell my mom about my period until about 6 months after the first time... The only reason why I told her was because I started getting horrible cramps.
Just tell your mom. She'll be supportive of you. It's really not a big deal.
2007-10-31 10:25:22 · answer #11 · answered by Skelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋