I hve been with the person for over 71/2 yrs . and married to this person for over 3 1/2 yrs. this person is specail to me and I have bent over backwards to do what I could to make this person Happy and Today after all I hhave put up with { this person walking out 8 Times } and we are trying to work everything out but now Todsy this person wants me to tie- up another 4 yrs. son theycan go to school, this sounds good but here is the problem they want me to stay in this small Town were it is hard enough to make the bills meet at the end of thee month and now wants me to stay another 4 yrs. so she can go to school again.
2007-10-31 10:00:28 · 19 answers · asked by little Bear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what is wrong with you? did you drop out when you were like 5 years old? and what is your question? maybe you should be the one getting an education...because you seem a little SPECAIL
2007-10-31 10:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by stopbeingretarded 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Can she go to school somewhere else?
You have been with this person for 7 1/2 years - and it doesn't sound like she treats you the best - and if you are willing to stay with this person perhaps you and she need to come to a compromise - you want to leave to better your/her life, right? She wants to go to school to better your/her life, so compromise and go somewhere that there are better job opportunities and a school she can attend.
Otherwise, it is difficult - you would need to decide how much you want to stay with this person or if you could handle a long distance relationship situation (which it doesn't sound like the relationship can, if she has already walked out 8 times.)
2007-10-31 17:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by IJToomer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question to you is are you happy in your relationship? If so, you will make the sacrifice and stay another 4 years. Or, you both can talk it out and make a compromise. Can she/he go to school in another town? State? If you're barely making it now, what's left for tuition? If no loans or grants are involved, that might be the excuse to get the heck out of dodge. If you're anything other than happy, it might be time to seek counseling or end the relationship. Life is too short. Hope everything works out for you.
2007-10-31 17:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by bugggs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're getting used hon...married or not. you've done all you can for this person and for you relationship it's time to start living for you....this is not self center just survival. *shrug* you know what you have to do in your heart of hearts that's why your here asking the question.....you just don't want to face you wasted almost 8 yrs of life on a someone who never really gave a crap do begin with. We've all been there...trust me.
Good luck.
2007-10-31 17:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by Hey U, Yeah U..Get over here 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am happy that you have a very special person in your life, but you sound very unhappy. You need to really do some soul searching before you commit to another four years with this person. If you love someone, you will do whatever to make them happy, but it should work both ways. Does this person really make you happy? Just something to ponder before you make your decision.
2007-10-31 17:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't like to be mean, but I think instead of them going back to school you should go back to school... way back to like 3rd grade. I swear I don't like being mean! But really. Seriously.
Mabbe yu tu can go bak to skool togeder and den yu wont haff to bee mad!
Also if someone walked out my *** 8 times I would not bend over backward just to give them another spot to eff me in.
2007-10-31 17:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by Gena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt have to put up with someone who is constantly leaving you. I think you should do what YOU wanna do and live where you would like to live. Chances are there is someone better for you out there.
2007-10-31 17:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your son is too small you can leave the town without his ok
you are doing the best to the family
2007-10-31 17:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a school that she is hellbent on going to? Sit down and talk to her about maybe enrolling in another university in a bigger city.
2007-10-31 17:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I apologize but, I do not understand, exactly, what your question is. I have re-red it a few times but, I'm uncertain as to what the actual question means. Please rephrase the question so that it is more clearly understood. Again, I apologize. Ruth
2007-10-31 17:09:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ruth 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋