Is he cheating or not?

Question

If a man is married with kids, and acts like he is happy but all of a sudden he is acting a little diffrent. His cell phone rings late at night and he dont answer, but later on he will get up and go make a call. Come to find out it is a woman who he met in a bar and they are good friends now. If they were good friends would u not think he would have told his wife about her, or he didnt tell her because he is fooling around with her? And he says that she is someone he can talk to about his personal problems, tell me what do you think?

Answer 1

He might not be having a sexual affair but if he's hiding things from you then I would still call it cheating.
Having any kind of emotional connection with another woman which is more so than with your wife is cheating in my book.

Answer 2

I would guess that his wife stopped having sex with him after the kids came along. Or just had maintenance sex, after the kids were asleep, you know, the OK, lets F for a minute, then I'm taking a shower and going to bed kind of sex that really turns a man on.

He probably met a woman who'll treat him like a male, by giving up sex of all different types, when he wants it and even when he doesn't, which is prolly never.

I know, I've almost been that man. Being ignored sexually for years takes its toll. He's probably getting the affection he needs, now, so yeah, like the first answerer, I say tell the wife to but out if she's not gonna put out. Instead of telling the wife to keep her eyes on him, how about "keep your hands on him"?

Hey, I'm just being brutally honest here, that's what's going on with this guy. He's getting strokingly good affection that he wasn't getting elsewhere (at home). Just because the wife became a mother and no longer needed the sex part of "sex", doesn't mean becoming a father gets rid of that for a husband.

Answer 3

If he isn't cheating than he would be able to talk to her with you in the room. The fact that he doesn't answer the phone makes me believe that she doesn't know about you. Maybe you should look at the calls sent and received on the phone or the bill and have a little talk with the other party. Just ask her if she wants a man who has a relationship with two women? Than ask yourself the same question.

Answer 4

No way.
If your phone goes and you don't pick it up but then go and make a private call, then no way those two are being just friends.
If he hasn't slept with her yet, then it's only a matter of time.
You can bet your money that he's having an emotional affair.
If she were a friend, then, there should be nothing that urgent that she'd have to phone him at night; Now, if it were really a friend, he wouldn't think twice about taking the call in front of you.
Noway, he's taking you for a ride!
Confront him and don't take his crap!

Answer 5

If he's not your husband - then don't say anything to anyone because it is not your business.

BUT, if it is your husband you are talking about, then it sounds like cheating to me.

There are two types of cheating: physical and emotional.

You can emotionally cheat without having sex. This usually is a precursor to actual sex. This entails long telephone conversations, social meetings, etc...

Once the emotional cheating gets too passionate, then the sex comes into play.

He sounds like met a girl in a bar that he was attracted to, has been cultivating a relationship with this girl and hopes to take it to the next level with this girl.

If this is your husband, you guys need to get into marriage counseling right away. Of course, it might be too late - he may have fallen off the deep end already.

Answer 6

Think he'd wish to talk about his personal problems with his wife, not some woman he met in a bar. If he isn't cheating, he is definitely on this way to doing so. Wife needs to get him to sit down and talk to her about his feelings if this is really why he is talking to this woman. Need to find out what is really going on here before he makes a stupid, dumb foolish mistake.

Answer 7

I have been personally cheated on and he is up to something. Your gut is always right. I would start looking at the phone bills and see how often he is calling her and for how long. He is being secretive That is never good.
You can call this chick and ask her what she is doing talking to your hubby and to be honest.
Your his wife his best friend he should never not tell you something. Hope this helped contact me if you have any more questions.

Answer 8

Sounds like a dirty dog to me girl. You're right, if they're such good friends why's he being so secretive? And if they're such good friends why hasn't he offered to introduce the two of you? I would confront him on it and tell him that he either needs to come clean or stop talking to this hoe-bag barfly or get to steppin. People don't meet members of the opposite sex at bars and become best friends with them. If he can't talk to his own wife about personal problems then odds are your relationship IS the personal problem and he's going to some other woman for comfort or a little something else if you catch my drift. And that shitt ain't cool. If he can't talk to hiw own wife about things, then there's a HUGE problem.

Answer 9

This is a definate sign of cheating. If she was only a FRIEND, he wouldnt hide her from you. However it is just one sign, and you need to remain cool like it doesn't bother you, and get more evidence. It will be very hard, because you have to do alot of tongue biting, but it's what you must do. Remember, a false accusation could ruin your relationship. Get the goods first and don't halfway do it so he's not able to worm his way out. I could really help you...email me if you want Dannah1129@yahoo,com

Answer 10

Honey, I hope you are not the wife! I would be willing to bet that it's not "personal problems" he's talking to her about, and if it is, why is he not talking these things over with his wife? She's the one he should be turning to, not someone he met in a bar! Besides, if they are such good friends, why hasn't he brought this "friend" home to meet the wife?

This fish stinks!