I have a husband and two children. My husband is a great father and is always by my side while my kids are beautiful but just a little demaninding. A colleague at work has given me the oppotrunity to risk it all and leave them for a life alone. I know I shouldn't do it but God is it tempting. Someone set me straight.
2007-10-31 09:12:41 · 54 answers · asked by SPMZ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why would you ever want to leave your children???? shame on you!
you should stop talking to this co-worker, he is the devil and he is tempting you with forbidden fruit - you need to open your eyes and see this and look at your husband, children and life and honestly stop to think if you are ready, able and willing to live without all of that...you don't seem to be thinking rationally
2007-10-31 09:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by beast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder how many other 'colleagues' this person has already done this to.
Some of them make a habit of doing it you know.
I think you should treat this with the contempt it deserves. You have said how wonderful your hubby and children are. Why dont you try and rekindle something from what you think you have lost there?
Maybe you could go away for a weekend to a nice country hotel, and try and put some of the romance back into your life.
As the children are growing up I think people may tend to 'lose' some of the reasons why they fell in love in the first place. But there were reasons. All you have to do is find them again.
Just think of the fun you could both have finding each other again. Leave this joker alone and (if you have to) do what you think you may have done with him, with the man you really love. The man you KNOW. Your husband.
Believe me. The 'other one' might be tempting. But like many others before you, that will go and leave a big hole in your life as you know it, and one holy wholly nightmare behind...
Trust me!
2007-10-31 09:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why don't you lust after your husband then? The other guy only wants you for a couple hours. Oh sure he tells you all kinds of stuff because he knows you are an idiot and are buying what he says. But all will change when he gets what he's after from you. The life time will only last about a day or two, then it's over. Then you won't be able to go back to your husband unless he's an idiot to. Typical low down unsatisfied women. Got the best and want the rest.
2007-10-31 09:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. This man is the love of my life, my soulmate and my best friend, but I can't ruin my childrens lives or my husbands'. I know how tempting it can be, we've given in to it a few times but we both know that it can never be. We are just friends now and my heart breaks into a thousand pieces every time I see him. My children are my priority and always will be. He is getting a new job so that we don't see each other any more. It is the only sensible thing to do.
I hope things work out. It does get easier
K xxx
2007-10-31 09:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by kta 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see that you are falling for the 80/20 rule. You have a great husband and kids. You think something missing or wrong with your marriage. There is a dude who says he can offer some booty to you and you can be free. You think about it and it sounds tempting but you will end up losing a marriage and ruin your entire family over something you are getting in your marriage. It is like having 80 dollars in your hand and this co-worker is offering 20 dollars. Silly you makes a trade for it. As tempting as it may be it is not worth it.
2007-10-31 09:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-01-29 18:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to risk it for a fling..especially for someone that knows you're married with kids yet doesn't care.
How do you think this person is going to treat you? Also, do you think that person would totally trust you anyway knowing that you had a family and didn't care?
I think you need to look the other way and busy yourself elsewhere at work.
Regret is an awful thing..why risk it?
I think you need to loook deep inside of yourself and see what you are missing, which is part of your problem.
Is your husband loving enough for you? Do you get the time by yourself to be "you".
Search yourself before searching out other men.
2007-10-31 09:20:47 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First go find a mirror!
Now slap yourself a few times!
Wake-up.
You got marriaged and had children,
if there is nothing wrong with your relationship with your husband, then why are you even thinking about it.
Go into your childrens bedrooms tonight and take a long hard look.
Can you leave them behind?
Yes they are demanding but ALL kids are, you should have thought about that before having them in the first place.
The guy at work is only trying to get what he knows he cant have.
Wake and smell the coffee.
your at work to work, not to be given a way out of your current life.
Sorry if that sounds harsh, but I think it is what you need.
2007-10-31 09:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by DAVID B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easy answer is "Don't do it"
You don't know this man from Adam really and it's the thrill of the unknown that's tempting you
Stay where you are and enjoy what you have ... this other guy could just be after a quick roll in the hay and when he's satisfied (and used you) he'll be off looking for another conquest.
2007-10-31 09:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think, anyone who'd tell you to leave your spouse and kids is crap.
You are a mother that works outside the home, and thinks your KIDS are a little demanding? Honey, the kids deserve 110% of your time. The job does not. Jobs are more demanding than kids. With kids you can tell them no. Try saying no to your boss. So what happens if you leave your family for him, only to have him find some other honey to woo? And you'll be paying child support. That's quite demanding. Anyway, if he brings it up again, say no thank you, we are coworkers and nothing more.
2007-10-31 09:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave your children too? You are truly a piece of work and don't deserve a husband who's a great father that sticks by your side, nor do you deserve to have children. In fact go with the other guy, sounds like your family would be better off without you.
2007-10-31 09:17:00 · answer #11 · answered by jay k 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋