Is it cheating, if i am married but I went to lunch with a lady that I am very interested in?
2007-10-31 09:08:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not technically, but you are really playing with fire here. Sometimes you can't help your feelings for other people when you're married... but you have made a commitment to your wife and you should keep your promises. You do love her, right? It's ok to look, but to act upon your fantasies/desires is wrong. You didn't cheat, but you did do something wrong if you have feelings for this lady. Try to stay away from her... or else you're going to find yourself in a bad situation.
2007-10-31 09:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by Cochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that it is absolutely cheating. If you are interested in this lady then you should keep your distance from her as to not be tempted to do something you will regret. You should keep your distance from her so these feelings you have for her will subside. Your wife would certainly see it as you cheating. If you went to lunch with a coworker of the opposite sex that you see as a platonic friend and just a coworker that is completely different. However, going to lunch with someone that you are "very interested" in is way out of line and truly disrespectful to your spouse. How would you feel to know that your wife was sharing her time and emotions with another man behind your back. Imagine your wife sitting across from another man eating lunch, laughing and flirting with him while you are at work and suspecting nothing. You would not appreciate it I am sure. If you put yourself in your wife's place and try to look at this situation from her point of view you may be able to answer your own question. Just by the fact that you asked this question is proof that it is weighing heavy on your mind already. Good luck and DO THE RIGHT THING!
2007-10-31 10:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by whatshername 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your definition of cheating? What is your wife's definition of cheating? On the other hand, don't you think it's not really about which word to use to describe it?
Try asking this question in a different way:
Is it something you can tell your wife? OR
If you found out your wife did the same, would you be ok with it? OR
If your wife found out you did it, would she be ok with it?
If it's something you feel is acceptable to both you and your wife, there's no problem with it. If not - it's a wrong thing to do regardless of what you call it.
2007-10-31 09:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you're interested in someone suggest you are not happy in your current relationship or it is lacking something. Perhaps you should examine that more closely and figure out what "it" is. Then you should talk to your wife about it. If you're interested in someone else, you should probably keep a distance from that person unless you are willing to ruin your marriage. Once you cross that line, there is no going back, trust is broken.
2007-10-31 09:32:07 · answer #4 · answered by b1rd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell your wife you went to lunch with this person?
It may not be cheating yet, but it's getting there. Cheating doesn't have to be physical. Why would you want to open yourself up to temptation?
2007-10-31 09:23:29 · answer #5 · answered by 1selkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to this. You should not be interested in other woman. Since you are interested in her and went to lunch for that reason it is close enough.
2007-10-31 09:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless she is what you ate at lunch. You are putting yourself in a position to potentially cheat though, so be careful. Try to remove yourself from temptation instead of going into it head-long. So long as there was no sexual contact though in my mind you didn't cheat.
2007-10-31 09:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything u do behind the back of your spouse is cheating, plus the fact that u admit being interested in her. this is exactly the way affairs begin with a thought. u can tell a man's true desire by who he associates with and what is in his thoughts.
2007-10-31 10:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is not entirely a friend situation and your intent is of interest, you are placing yourself on the road to cheating. Break contact immediately and refocus.
2007-10-31 09:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's anything you wouldn't do with your spouse present, or something that you feel the need to hide from her...then yes.
If you have to ask on here if it's cheating it probably is.
2007-10-31 09:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋