I have a friend who's husband is bipolar and abandoned her when she was 6 months pregnant with their second child. He moved back home to mooch off his Mommy and she's been paying for him to divorce my friend. He took both of there vehicles and spent all their money. He's still living off his parents and doing horrible things like racking up (more) felonies ,soliciting minors and offering pot to girls on the internet yet his Mom is still paying all his bills, child support (he's never paid any) and providing transportation and cigarettes for him. He only wants to see their oldest child just for his mom to take care of him and NEVER wants to visit the new baby. No one is perfect but my friend really wanted their marriage to work, this guy just kept walking out on them , spending their money on pot and baseball/football cards and finally just left.I'd like to be able to tell her some way that this will stop but with an evil guy who has an evil mother what can I say? Any suggestions? Kandy
2007-10-31 08:41:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Btw, have a 2 loved ones who are bipolar and yes, it is an illness...that illness does NOT have to include being a pedophile, a felon, physically abusive etc...this person is also on meds. These people are evil because THEY are letting 2 small children suffer for the sake of hiding her sons behavior and being codependant. That is not an illness it IS evil.
2007-10-31 08:56:20 · update #1
pps..she no longer wants him back..he is harrasing her and stalking her and she's getting an order of protection.. She thought the marriage would work, the old "he'll change if I love him enough" :-( This is not me btw, it actually IS a friend:-)
2007-10-31 09:13:01 · update #2
What can YOU do? Nothing, that is there problems not yours, if any of the people you were talking about , your friend, the husband or the mom, wanted to change there situations than they would.
2007-10-31 08:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He isn't evil, he's sick! How can a Mother taking care of her sick Son be evil??? If she's paying his child support for him, then what is the problem? I would make him take both of the children and not just the one, but other than that, what does she want??? BEING BI POLAR IS AN ILLNESS!!! He can't help the things he does and your friend just needs to grow up and accept that her ex husband is sick. Her kids could grow up and get the disease, what is she going to do abandon them or be an evil Mother who helps them????
2007-10-31 08:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by wishiwereatthebeach 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can just be there for her as a friend . there is nothing you can do to change her sittuation . Just remember if she needs to talk then you need to listen . good luck .
2007-10-31 08:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is in for a rocky time. Just be there for her like you are, you obviously care about your friend and that itself will help.
2007-10-31 08:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are stupid people everywhere and your friend is one of them. She seriously needs to move on. Life to short to deal with this drama.
2007-10-31 08:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by javelin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why again does she want him? " no one is perfect" ????? he is a mentally ill criminal. reality check!!!!!!!
i am sure the mother is drowning in guilt that she raised such a defective person and that is why she helps him. and, she probably blames a lot of his attitudes and activities on this 'friend' of yours. again, reality check.
2007-10-31 09:05:56 · answer #6 · answered by jaded 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you really can't help someone who is not willing to accept the help sorry
2007-10-31 08:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋