why is it so difficult to be honest with ourselves?

Answer 1

Because we want to be happy, and the truth isn't always what puts a smile on our faces.

Answer 2

True Self-ishness always leads to joy, because it
is motivated always by the desire to feel as good
as possible. It is only when we are Self-ish
enough to be, do and act in accordance with our
desires (not someone else’s) that it is possible
to stay balanced. Energetically speaking, a desire
is a rush of life force energy, a connection to
the divine inner self, which can never result in
actions that are harmful. It is only when true
desires are blocked that they become twisted and
ugly. This statement goes against the common
wisdom that human nature is greedy, violent and
primitive. Human nature is precisely the opposite:
we are born knowing ourselves as powerful,
eternal, spiritual beings. Petty, competitive,
churlish and violent behavior must be overcome
with suitable practice. Observe your family,
friends and coworkers. Almost all of them are good
people, trying to do the best they can. It would
simply not be possible to build a sophisticated
society if human nature was so base. All
successful societies are based upon cooperation,
not competition. Competition works not because it
is adversarial, but because it inspires teamwork.
Ask two angry guys to get something constructive
done, it is not going to happen. All success is
based upon cooperation. That is because we live in
an attraction based universe.

These natural impulses are supposed to be
dangerous because they stem from a primitive
survival instinct. But human being has a better
mind than animals. Just look around at the mess
the world is in! But that is a delusional
assertion, a denial of the basic nature of
consciousness itself. The natural impulses of
human nature stem from a connection to life force,
and it is resistance to this divine impulse which
causes the selfish behavior people object to.

If you observe people you will quickly see that
those persons who are most alive are full of
desire, and those who look lifeless have little or
no desire. Desire = life force. Shut off desire =
selfish behavior. It's ironic that selfish
behavior actually results from self-denial.

Human nature is not a primitive, biological
instinct based on survival of the fittest, it’s a
pure connection to source energy. It is divine.
It's only when that connection is closed off that
selfish behavior is demonstrated. Every one of
your desires is, in its non-resisted state, joyful
and balanced, because that is an inherent property
of consciousness itself. True selfishness is
allowance of desire, without resistance, and
results in the impulse to give freely to others.
But it is first necessary to allow that impulse
within yourself.

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Answer 3

It is not the admission that is the hard part. You obviously know the truth inside your self. It is what you do with this information that has the impact. Your real question should be what is the next step to take. This is the hard part. I hope you have some kind of support system, spirituality that you can utilize right now. I can see that you are feeling lost as to what to do. For my part I will pray that you find some strength and guidance.

Answer 4

It is difficult because our minds will not go and access the synaptic connections that it has made to something that is painful and uncomfortable, or something that threatens our self-image, which we try to preserve at all costs.

It all comes down to self-esteem. We try to build images of ourselves and affirm these images, yet if there is a truth in yourself which will threaten who you are, then in order to preserve your self-image (self-esteem), you will hide it from yourself.

The question is: what is more important to you: the truth or your self-esteem? If we were not so attached to feeling good, and we didn't fear feeling bad, then truth would be recognized easily.

The difficulty comes from valuing self-esteem over truth. If you value truth more, then you will be honest with yourself at all costs (brutally honest with yourself.) Yet, if you value self-esteem more (feeling good about yourself and the image that you've built of yourself, regardless if that image is accurate or not) then being honest with yourself becomes impossible.

Why do you value your self-esteem? Is it worth holding on to your self-esteem at all costs, even if it costs you to be dishonest with yourself?

Honesty is simple; dishonesty is complex and complicated by the virtue of trying to distort the simple honest truth in order to hide it from yourself or someone else.

Answer 5

I'm not sure what you mean. How can one lie to oneself? To perpetrate a lie requires the other party not know what you're thinking. How can one hide a lie from oneself.

I think it is not honesty with ourselves, but courage to do what we see as correct that we lack.

Answer 6

Because this world itself is Ruled by the illusory energy of God. Her name is Maya also known as Dhurgha which means very difficult to get out. It is her job to keep us in our illusion. If one wants to get free from her illusory clutches then one must fully surrender them self to the source of illusion which is God. Otherwise there is no way one will fully be able to get out of self deception dishonesty and illusion. Only God can overcome her energy and by our surrender to him he takes her veils off of our consciousness. The process is surrender to Him. also known as Krishna, Allah, Jehovah, Vishnu, Rama)

Answer 7

We try to see ourselves as perfect, even if we are not. As hard as it is to admit that, it is also equally hard to admit that we are at fault, even to ourselves.

Answer 8

It is easier to feel better about ones-self it one is always right.

Answer 9

because our prides wont let us.