I have been working for the same employer for about a year and a half now. Since I began working here, all he has done is made me feel small and unworthy. He insults my hair, my clothes, the fact that I don't wear make up. He even makes jokes about the the province where I grew up. I am absolutely fed up with all of his insults and how he thinks he is better than everyone else. Do you think this is verbal or emotional abuse? because sometimes it sure feels like it......
2007-10-31 08:03:27 · 10 answers · asked by Karen Walker 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Law & Legal
It is ABSOLUTELY not proper for him to make any disparaging comments about your physical appearance or your home. That is the definition of a "hostile workplace environment". I would speak to your HR person/people & take the next appropriate action.
2007-10-31 08:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Report him to HR & leave. It doesn't matter if he gets scolded or not, work is stressful enough without having to put up with that garbage. It will drain your spirit day after day. Just leave, and do it soon. Unless you 2 are the only people in the office, it doesn't sound like anyone else came to your defense either. Bad workplace. Get out.
BTW, let this serve as a lesson on your next job or life in general. We teach people how to treat us. Tolerating bad behaviour *guarantees* you'll get more of it. You don't have to be nasty, but you must learn to set boundaries with people around you. There's no need to wait until the situation is intolerable (it's probably too late by then) to do something about it.
2007-10-31 15:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound canadian (I am) and, yes, this is a form of harassment. It may even be sexual harassment. If the business is unionized, speak to your union rep. If it's not, report it to HR. If there's no HR, consult a lawyer.
You boss is a narcissist. These types have no empathy and will say or do anything to humiliate others in an effort to beef up their self-esteem. Don't fight him alone, use the union, HR or a lawyer. You're better off not working for him and if that means you need to switch jobs, then do it.
-- Andy
2007-10-31 15:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by almcneilcan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is verbal and emotional abuse. Most people would find a new job.
2007-10-31 15:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by countryguyhfc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this is abuse, but from your question I believe youare in Canada where you cannot sue an employer for " creating a hostile work situation" like you can in the states.
2007-10-31 15:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That might even be considered sexual harrassment. You should speak to him about it and asked that he stop and if he doesn't, you need to go to your Human Resources Dept. You shouldn't have to work in a hostile environment.
2007-10-31 15:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think so too. noone should be able to talk to anyone just any old kinda way
if youre not comfortable around him, and you feel like your day gets THAT MUCH SH.IT.TI.ER when he comes around you might want to look for a job elsewhere...
2007-10-31 15:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by TooTall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. Consult your HR Director or Legal department, if he does not back off after you ask him to.
2007-10-31 15:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by Flibbert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its both...you need to tell him like it is w/o being scared or nuttin cuz if he got da nerve to treat u like dat girl!......or jus find a new job before you quit, den if u get dat one...quit rite in his face
2007-10-31 15:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by the mrs:) 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No.
2007-11-01 12:15:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋