My best friend and her boyfriend have been together for four years. I am very happily married and the other night we were all out and he kept trying to kiss me whemever my husband and best best friend were not around. He has always been friendly but this is too much. I don't know if I should tell her or just let it go. My husband knows and wants to kill him but I'm not sure what her reaction will be. He has cheated on her in the past and she always blames the other girl. I don't want her to be mad at me for something I could stop. I hate her bf.
2007-10-31 07:56:16 · 27 answers · asked by Nikki R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did tell him in front of everyone to stop touching me and he laughed and acted like it was no big deal that he was doing it. I don't have to be around him veery often just for holidays and birthdays. It was her birthday when he did this. I avoid him all the time because i hated him for cheating on her so many times before.
2007-10-31 08:24:09 · update #1
I think you should ask her, "If my husband hit on you, would you tell me?" and either tell or don't tell based on her answer.
2007-10-31 08:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by Don 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I would let it go for now, but tell HIM in no uncertain terms that you are not interested. Be very clear about that.
If he doesn't get it, have your husband deal with it.
You can't help your friend. If she already knows he's a cheater and chooses to stay with him, it's her decision. And if she's a type of person who always blames other people for the problems in HER relationship, there's no point at all in you bringing this up. Until she takes responsibility for her relationship and demands the same from her b/f, things will continue with them as before. Stay out of it.
2007-10-31 15:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Women blame the other women quite often instead of putting responsibility on their partner. You need to tell her then let her make up her own mind about what to do or maybe you need to confront him in front of her. She should know what type of character this guy has. Does she have low self esteem to stay with him and continually put up with him since this has happened in the past. You may have to catch him on video so you can have evidence or try not to be left alone with him. Hopefully you arent sending him any signals cause if you had knee'd him in the groin or slapped the he@@ out of him the first time he was trying to kiss you then he would have gotten a clear message but if you are pushin him away half-heartedly, being coy, snickering then he probably would think you like his advances. Tell that girl ASAP.
2007-10-31 15:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by Sugastack 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That is a real tough call. It is right and good that you told your husband and his reaction is understandable. I'm glad you are not letting him resort to violence.
As for your friend, no matter how you word it, she will end up making excuses for him and turning it around to be your fault. Better to leave it alone and keep your friend. Make sure you never find yourself alone with him again, or your husband alone with him, and just wait. If he is enough of a slug to make a pass at his woman's bf then sooner or later he will do something that makes her dump him. Then you will be rid of him and still have your bf.
Good Luck
2007-10-31 15:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by mn lady 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should really tell her. And do it with him sitting there . Just tell her you need to tell her something that is bothering you and that you don;t want to ruin your friend ship with her make sure your husband is sitting right there with you . She needs to know. She shouldn't get mad at you. It's not your fault. If she get's mad at you then she is not much of a friend..
2007-10-31 21:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by dollbaby2407 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make it clear to louse-boyfriend that such behavior with you is unacceptable and if he continues he'll be 'discussing' it with your husband.
I'd tell the girlfriend, but it's apparent she knows hes an azz and doesn't think she can do better. She has a right to know what he did, especially toward a friend of hers. If she blames you for that then she's not much of a friend and is so dependent on him that she won't believe anything anyone tells her (negative) about him.
2007-10-31 15:04:34 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is up to you...you must decide whether or not you want to be the "bearer of bad news". Personally, I would tell her, no matter how upset she gets, but by doing this you risk putting a strain on your friendship. Some women just can't accept that thier men are cheaters and will "kill the messenger" by getting mad at the person who told them rather than the man.
2007-10-31 15:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by missapparition 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
She needs to know what kind of a man she is married to. This is the time when you decide whether you are going to be a good friend or an aquantince.
2007-10-31 15:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by hawkeye316 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This isn't the whole story. Very unusual for a guy to hit on someone completely out of the blue, unless he's psycho. More likely, he will hit on someone that he thinks will probably respond.
I don't beleive a word you are saying. Most women would have immediately slapped him on the face if he pulled a stunt like that! Why didn't you?
2007-10-31 15:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
If you are a true friend you wont keep a secret like that from her. Her current bf may be stopping her from finding mr right. Thing is i probably would have told her that night. right after the first move he made. Would have made a seen but you would have gotten your point accross right then and there that he is a sleez bag.
2007-10-31 15:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by Gotta luv it! 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
How many times did you allow yourself to be alone with him where he could try and kiss you in one night?
And you didn't shout "Stop trying to kiss me, asshole" when he did it? And didn't deal with the problem right then and there?
Hmmm.
2007-10-31 15:22:31 · answer #11 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋