im very shy around any guys , i feel intimadated and insecure and if anyone is intrested i tend to run away ie- because i dont think im good enough or i think their playing a joke liking me
i have quite a few friends , however people who dont quite know me think im a snob and i reckon im better than every1 else when really its quite the opposite because of my own insecurities and paronoia
how would you reckon i become more confident and self loving , why am i like this?
2007-10-31 07:53:15 · 9 answers · asked by xoxfrozenkissesxox 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think this is a normal (introverted) response, when I was a teenager, I was shy around girls especially ones I thought pretty and I was interested in. An extroverted girl in the 10th grade helped me snap out of it. She wasn't shy or intimidated at all.
2007-10-31 08:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by MR. T. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure but your parents probably feel like this is a good thing. Nothing wrong with being shy, if thats who you are then thats who you are, You are probably a person who does not just jump into something first without thinking about it and thats a good thing, I would say you very seldom get into trouble with anybody and thats a good thing, just let life come to you and the more you see of life the more confident you will become and it sounds like you will make a great counselor or something like that someday. Good luck, and remember, God loves you just the way you are.
2007-11-02 17:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by victor 7707 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of people who use self-talk to handle what is going on inside their minds. When self-talk is not monitored cautiously it can lead to drastic effects not only on one’s personality but also affects its mentality and psychology. Self-talk is a type of conversation which we conduct with ourselves. In literature we call it soliloquy. Brain’s reticular activating system never forgets what we repeat again and again. Ironically this system can not recognize what is beneficial to the individual and what is not. Think you can, think you can't; either way, you'll be right- a saying goes like this. Therefore when ever we ‘talk’ with ourselves, we should be cautious, very cautious in fact. There are a lot of audio programs which can help and there are a lot of online books. If I recall there is a book ‘self-talk solutions’ which is every effective in this scenario.
2007-10-31 15:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by b_banth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do something that forces you to be around and talk to lots of strangers, such as get a customer service job, join an organization, etc, with a group of people you don't know. I was very shy, then I went to college and didn't know anybody and it got better. Then I went to work in a job that forces me to talk all day. In the end, I got over it. It comes in time, but it takes pushing yourself to do it, even if it's a nightmare.
2007-10-31 15:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by Brent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why someone would pretend to like you as a joke. Doesn't seem funny to me. There is no reason to have low self esteem because everyone is good at something and everyone is important. You probably get flirted with a lot. I think so from your picture.
2007-10-31 15:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by wisemancumth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First step, is accept yourself and what your personality is. I used to be shy as well but then I had somewhat of an epiphany and was let loose of my shyness chains that held me back. Just be friendly and mostly us guys are who are unsure of approaching a female.
So I say just put yourself more out there and start thinking more freely. Speak your mind when you want, if a dude give you a "hey" look just say hi to him if he don't got the balls to do it himself first. Break the ice so to speak.
2007-10-31 15:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by Darky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I found that a martial art can help with self esteem. If nothing else you will be interacting very closely (physically) with a lot of guys all the time.
2007-10-31 15:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, read success stories articles about that, set goals in ur life, fight for them, be strong and follow ur deepest inner wishes, ur dreams, free ur mind. imagine what would be a perfect life for u(a physically possible life of course), then think about what u'll need to reach that point and do it! because odds are nobody will do it for u.
once u do that u'll be more confident. otherwise u'll be endup sad and poor like most ppl in the world. its up to u now.
best wishes.
2007-10-31 15:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work out.
2007-10-31 15:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by i'mbeingseriuos 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋