Now I am dating somone seriously and she gives me a hard time. He even lives with her part of the time with our three young kids. I have joint custody and they also live here part of the time. We might consider living together in the future so I do not give her a hard time since I myy do the same one day. Why is it o.k. for her to date someone and live with him but she gives me a hard time for dating someone. Her boyfriend and my girlfriend are both teachers and I would think he is a decent guy. How can I get her to back off?
2007-10-31 07:30:13 · 14 answers · asked by paco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not OK for her to anything.
Key word Ex. as in - no more - Nada - history - done - finished.
Got it?
If you look you'll probably see lots of little things that she's doing to in some way imply that she still has a say about your life. You have to break free of that thinking. You are the boss of you, not her.
2007-10-31 07:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! In some states it is illegal for unmarried adults to be living in a household for children, as it may endanger the children, or subject them to let's call it risque (risky) behavior. The fact that U have joint custody, doesn't mean another person can move in to that household to set up shop & have the goods whenever they want to. Check the law, check the statutes, & the law books, but I believe U could be awarded full-time custody because of her live-in situation. That is, until she gets married & makes it all legal-like. I suggest U do the same before having her move in with U -- for the children's sake. Cheers & all the best to you!
2007-10-31 08:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by Andy K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you have to understand something with some people....I don't want but you can't have lol. that is the way it is sometimes. I remember when I was remarried and my exhusband got engaged with someone else I was a little mad and jealous cus I though well he wasn't happy with me I don't want him happy with someone else. If he is happy with her than why didn't I make him happy? lol I know its stupid but most likely true. Also she like I did might be worried that this you will pay less attention to the kids(like mine did) stop taking them as much or stop taking them altogether(like mine did) or not be able to help out financially like you would with just those children(like mine did)lol... Just be patient she will get over the fact of this women moving in but just please don't stop taking your children, don't go having more children and never stop showing your kids they come first.
2007-10-31 07:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't discuss your gf with her AT ALL unless it has to do with the kids. Don't play into her little game of making you feel guilty. As long as the kids are in good hands don't worry about it, tell her you will no longer be talking about your gf or her bf unless the kids are involved somehow...
2007-10-31 07:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by laura1977 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds controlling. Matter of fact i'm 99.9.9.9% sure that's what it is. Because my man's ex is like that. First she tried to control him by using their child, now she calls him up griping about me when the child is up to visit even though she's too snotty to even talk to me more than 5 minutes. hahaha get used to it, evil bi***es never change!
2007-10-31 09:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop being a hypocrite and grow up. You both have your own lives now with very respectable people.
2007-10-31 07:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone forget to tell you? Maybe you lawyer should of but in a divorce the man is always wrong is and will be forever
2007-10-31 07:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Um, this is after the divorce? Why do you care what she thinks? It's over. Move on.
2007-10-31 07:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her since the two of you are divorced ,what you do in your personal life is none of her business anymore and that is all there is to it . good luck .
2007-10-31 07:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because women are clingy and overly protective of their kids..
2007-10-31 07:34:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋