I have two friends who always hurt my feelings some way or the other. I don't talk to them much now a days. If I stay with someone else they call me a "chape"(which means that you stick to other people like glue) behind my back. It's difficult for me to patronize others cuz that's not my thing. I need some advice on how to deal with them.
2007-10-31 06:58:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My dad always says..."With friends like these, who needs enemies"...and I think this is really true in your case. It sounds like these people who you consider your "friends" are really nothing more than wieghts dragging you down. There is no reason for you to be thinking about them, worrying about them or how they are going to treat you, it's not healthy for YOU.
My suggestion would be for you to simply distance yourself from these people all together. Don't put yourself in a position to be put down or chastized by them...instead concentrate on making some new friends who share your beliefs and your ideals. It's going to be hard, but in the end it will be worth it!
2007-10-31 07:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by missapparition 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These people arent your friends...
Friends understand that things go on in your life besides being with them.
Be yourself, Dont worry about what pthers are saying about you, because they seem jealous about you growing and turning in new directions . You cant stay still waiting on them,
live life that way. Find a new circle of friends that like you for who you are.
Remember you are a treasure to this world and you should never be covered by someones creul words, and dirt they try to throw your way. Leave these people in your yesterdays and look forward to new tomorrows where new things and new friends are waiting to be found and made.
God is with you, and will protect you, and he will lead you where you need to go to find those right friends for you.
Today is the first day of the rest of your life, and new day to make yourself happy not someone else. Show the world what kind of person you really are, and don't go for what the world wants you to. They dont know you. Only you do.
2007-10-31 14:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by poetbjc64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL they are not really your Friends then, you should go and find othr friends that would treat you better,OR to deal with them make comments to hurt their feeling or ego, and don't tell them anything that gives them anmo against you, you should do what ever they do to you back to them even if it means being as cruel.But if they act shady do the same to them and find some better friend to hang around and let them 2 be together so they can get tired of each other.
2007-10-31 14:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by Guess who 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they are hurting you feelings
i mean i know thats easy for us lot to tell you to because its not a situation we answerers are going through but i am dealing with a different kind of problem where thats all people are tellin me to do 'talk to them' blah blah blah
i find it really hard to comfront people
but im jus gonna go for it and i think you should too! Good luckkx
2007-10-31 14:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by HoneyBee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't call them your friends. Just try to ignore them when they say anything about u. Once they will know that it isn't affecting u they would stop it. try to make new and good friends who are more understanding. One more thing - don't get upset about these things as one day they will realize that with their such deeds they have lost a good friend!!!
2007-11-01 01:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by thags 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they want to try looking at their own faults instead of putting you down, i know someone like that patronising. I would not call them friends, real friends care about you and dont, put you down in fact they stand up for you, they sound stuck up to me, and i would ignore them, just laugh at them, remember not to take it personally they are probably like it to others not just you,
What a couple of bitches
2007-10-31 15:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
completely ignore them and dont speak to them.. if they ask you what's up.. you just tell them that after all the crappy things they had to say about you.. you didnt think they'd like you around anymore so you found other friends.
it'll make them feel like crap and you'll seem like you couldnt care about them either way.
2007-10-31 14:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by *DiZzLe* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋