why ist it hard to forget somene who has hurt you so bad? am married my husband is wonderful. but i cant forget my ex , how bad he hurt me affects me in away that i cant be totally open to my husband, cus i dont want to get hurt again. what can i do?
2007-10-31 06:52:27 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you want your marriage to succeed you will need to find some way to get passed this issue... You might want to try going to see a professional, because they can give you techniques that you can use to work through your problem before it starts affecting your marriage. Take it from me...having issues that are going to cause you to be "closed off" to your husband will make the most loving husband upset. You don't want to lose him, so take the innitiative to change.
2007-10-31 06:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by missapparition 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound a lot like my wife. She had a similar thing happen to her and I don't think she's ever gotten totally over it. She did confront him a few years ago after he had contacted her, and it may have helped her get over a large part of her pain. But after keeping me away for so long, it got to be a habit for her and she's really only emotionally connected to her mother. We've been married for 18 years and I've always felt that she only married me to get back at him or just to be able to say to the world that she 'could' get married. Don't do that to your husband, or he may end up like me and be planning on leaving.
2007-10-31 08:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by lonelyschusband 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what u r going through but if u don't try to forget this issue than it will harm ur relationship with ur husband try talking to ur hubby about ur past but don't go too much in details about it but tell him that u got hurt bad and that now it's kind of hard for u to trust anyone and try to work things out in bab y steps...Good luck
2007-10-31 06:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by kajal c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not hard to forget someone who has hurt you. actually, it is very easy. in a blink of an eye....it is hard to forget someone who has hurt you bad if they didnt know what they were doing and if they hurt you because they were affraid that you didnt love them. how to solve this dilema? you give them another chance to do what is right and let them know FOR SURE this time how much you love them. if they make the same mistake again, there is no love there. you forget them in a blink of an eye. how? love is LOVE only when its a two way street. if it is not and you are the one that "loves" you are sick, patetic, stupid, low-selfestime person, who enjoys torturing yourself by rationalising that love can exists if it is not reciprocated. it cannot
2007-10-31 07:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by radharani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are in the same boat. i cannot forget my boyfriend of 7 years. He hurt me badly in the past but I am trying to forget it by doing lots of good things. And now my life is a lot happier because my husband is the best, always taking good care of me and love me so much...You need to talk to someone about your past so that you can get over with your x...Well, you pray to god to give you strength of forgeting your past life...Always think of the future and leave the past behind...You have a new life now with your new husband you can always think of happiness and share all your problems with your husband because I know he will help you...
2007-10-31 07:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by calipinay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can come up with an answer that works write a book and you will become a millionaire.There are a lot of broke hearts out there who will buy a book like that in a New York minute.
2007-10-31 07:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, you need to get some counseling your aren't being fair to your husband or your marriage, sometimes its hard to let go of things, its not that you have to forget or get over it, you just need to learn to move on, you deserve to be happy and so does your husband, do something now...
2007-10-31 07:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't live your life like your going to get hurt. Your married and you need to give your husband all of you.
2007-10-31 06:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by baylees 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your past ruin your future. It's hard to forget but try and let it go. Don't punish your husband for something that someone else did to you
2007-10-31 06:55:49 · answer #9 · answered by mommacat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to counceling before it ruins your marriage. With all the hurt we endure in life we should seek help so we do not have it happen again.
2007-10-31 06:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋