Do the [tarot] cards lie sometimes?

Question

I read my own cards about a month ago before my then boyfriend left for another state (to finish school-- will take a year). They basically said if we hang in there, we'll achieve everything we need to and be together and better in the end. Then I did a "should we break up?" spread [3 card spread]... the middle card came out upside down, meaning "no"... but just yesterday, after only 2 1/2 weeks of his being down there, he broke up with me cos he couldn't stand the fighting, jealousy or paranoia (on my part)... wtf happened?? Did I read the cards wrong???

Here's the spread:

1. Current Situation : Magician
2. Love : 6 wands
3. Sex : Empress
4. Hidden : Q Pentacles (R)
4a. Knight Swords (R)
5. Feelings for Him : 10 Wands
5a. Temperance (R)
6. His feelings for Me : Moon (R
6a. King Wands
7. Future : 7 Pentacles
7a. 10 Pentacles

(The a cards are clarification cards).


Now the "Should I end the relationship" spread produced these results:

1. If continued without change : Q Swords (R)
2. If Ended : Page Cups (R)
3. Continued with change : 10 Pentacles
4. His reaction : High Priestess (R)
5. Others reactions : 7 Swords
6. Who/what helps : 2 Wands (R)
7. What should be considered before ending : 2 Cups

I'm 24 y/o... haven't ever been "professionally" reading for anyone... just have bought numerous books and have 2 decks... have had all this for about 6 or 7 years now, maybe longer... rarely read, maybe try to read my own cards 2x a year... none of my friends are really in to tarot... one might have a deck and a book but that's it... it's nothing anyone I know messes around seriously with.

Answer 1

The cards work (based upon history of the cards) through calling your angels and guides to help you. The idea is, is also that your life is prewritten out for you. You do have the power to change your life, but the overall theme, the lessons that need to be given will always be the same. Who you bring into your life will either teach you something or support you along the way.
So, my question, did you learn something from the relationship? Did you learn what happens when one can be fighting, be jealous, etc.? If you did, then congrats, you acheived everything you need, and are better in the end. It is possible that the cards stated you should not breakup because for you to learn your lesson, he needed to break up with you. Do you think if you broke up with him, would you have learned the same lesson (if you ask yourself this question, you will be able to answer this)?
You also need to realize the cards are like a riddle.

Another thing, form what I have heard, is when shuffling and or drawing the cards, use your left hand, as it is controlled by the right side of your brain, which happens to be the psychic side of your brain. I have also heard that you will not get a good readings if you do readings on Sundays. Not sure why, but keep that in mind.

Answer 2

It's not recommended to read our own futures or our own cards due to having extreme biases ( This is why even close family and friends should be off limits as well . Biases bc we know everything about the life that we can't read it as though we don't know anything already. So it's extremely hard to get right all of the time. The most someone can accurately do with tarot and themselves is a "self reflection" but not really futuristic things.
The cards are not usually wrong, but the info can be interpreted incorrectly very easily.
Best to practice with strangers, with just a name-even online readings can be a good practice.

On your own it's good to shuffle the card and pick one for th eday, keep it out an dreflect on it and the meaning-and how that card influenced your day, and how your day (at the end of it ) can tell you more about the cards meaning-so that your own readings can get better, and have more meanings.

gl

Answer 3

Tarot Cards are not capable of lying. What you are experiencing is interpretive problems.
To read your own cards is inviting bias, as you already will lean toward what you WANT to hear.
It also sounds like you asked questions that you already knew the answers to, therefore getting an ambiguous answer.
You don't say how long you have been practicing reading.... or how old you are...so it's kinda hard to give an on the spot answer. I'd suggest you get a reading from someone you trust.
Keep in mind that answers from the cards are never to be taken literally, as we are responsible for our actions and outcomes.
If you need cards to help you keep tabs on someone, which really isn't possible, but the idea is just as wrong....sounds like you have personal value issues and need to look into becoming a stronger, more self assured person.
Take time to encourage your personal growth, and learn to trust yourself.

Answer 4

Hello Astrid

When you read for yourself, mistakes can be made & meanings misinterptited if you cannot remain objective.

So you may simply have misread what the cards were due to wanting a certain outcome.

Be very focused on your question, be open to the answer or guidance, meditate before shuffling & laying. Pretend that you are reading for another which can allow more honesty in.

Your question was an emotional one, so your mind was most probably not clear, the answer deeply mattered to you, so being objective would have been hard to do.

In Peace
Pam

Answer 5

The cards don't lie, but how you feel when you draw them can influence the outcome. They can pick up your emotions and not give you a true reading. You need to ask non-emotional, non-judgmental questions and keep your emotions out of it. Meditate before you do a reading and quiet your mind, still the mind "chatter", and ask questions like, "what will next week hold for me" or "what will be the outcome of this situation". Asking "should we break up" is emotional, it was the wrong question to ask. Ask more along the lines of "what would be the positive and negative aspects of us breaking up". Or "what do I need to understand better about this situation in order to make a better decision?" The cards can't tell you what to do, only YOU can do that. They can only tell you what you already know, they help you read yourself.

Answer 6

As far as I can see out of your spreads, you had PLENTY of indications of deception around you, both hesitance on his part and self delusion on yours. I also see cards that should have indicated expansion being constrained, like you are trying to "force" an outcome to your liking. In my opinion, asking the second question after doing the first WAS paranoia and is a perfect example of where you "went wrong". Self-deception is common when doing your own readings, particularly ones that are charged with emotion. A better question might have been simply "what do I need to know?" Cards do not lie, but we often lie to ourselves.

Answer 7

The cards are merely tools to help you. They can't 'lie'.

What it sounds like is a combination of you projecting your desires upon the reading, and a biased interpretation.
They cards can be influenced by your energy, and strong emotions ~ they told you what you *wanted* to hear.

Also, did you become more clingy to your boyfriend after the reading ~ were you overdoing the 'hang-in-there' bit?

Answer 8

I'm afraid it was the human element in the equation. Why, after it said that if you hang in there, everything will be all right, would you instigate fighting based on jealousy or paranoia? You didn't "hang in there", which changed the circumstances and altered the outlook.

Answer 9

A reader can be wrong, a question can be mis-spoken, or the cards can be misinterpreted....but the cards can't "lie."

Did you ask "SHOULD we" or "WILL we?" That would have a major impact on the answer you would receive from the cards as there is a big difference in those questions.

Answer 10

The cards don't lie - either they were misread, or something happened to change the original outcome.