Heres my story: Earlier this year I became pregnant after trying for 2 years. The doctors office didnt want me to come in until 10 weeks. At 9.5 weeks, I began bleeding, ended up in the ER getting a D&C and it turned out to be a partial molar pregnancy. So it wasnt even a normal pregnancy to begin with. I had to wait 6 months before I could start trying and then I got pregnant the first month trying! This time, the doctor obviously has been keeping a close eye on me. So far, my hcg levels were going up exactly how they should, and I had a few u/s that ruled out another molar and ectopic, and at the 3rd u/s (7 weeks) we got to see AND hear the baby's heartbeat and it was at 138 bpm. I am now at 8 weeks, 5 days and I was starting to stop thinking about miscarriage but now its coming close to the time when I lost the first pregnancy so Im starting to think about it again, even though they were both very different pregnancies. Im not really sick but very tired. What are my chances?
2007-10-31 05:38:58 · 16 answers · asked by ProudWifeAndMommy23 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm sorry for your loss. I had a miscarrage in January and I was 9 weeks pregnant then. I got pregnant in March again and I was constantly worried. You have no control over what is going to happen, you just have to do the best you can. Even at my stage of pregnancy I am still having nightmares about losing this baby. Everything has gone perfect so far with this pregnancy. And my babies heartbeat is always around 138 as well :o)
Good luck!
2007-10-31 05:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's very normal to have this anxiety after a miscarriage. You pretty much have to do your best to let that fear go. If you were to miscarry again, there truly is nothing you could do to stop it, nor would there have been anything you could have done to prevent it.
Being very tired is very normal at this stage.
Many, many women have gone on to carry healthy babies to term after having a previous miscarriage.
It won't help you to worry...so do your best to try to relax and let it go. You can't control what could happen, and everything is on track so far. A molar pregnancy is very rare. I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through that.
The best advice my OB ever gave me regarding miscarriage is that no matter what, it's out of your control, so there is no use wasting your energy worrying about it. Take a deep breath, relax, and enjoy your pregnancy. You're only a month away from having your risk of miscarriage drop dramatically.
We're never in the clear from miscarriage, but worrying about it won't stop it if it's going to happen.
All the best, and good luck to you.
2007-10-31 05:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
With the molar pregnancy your body did what it was suppose to and abort the pregnancy. I had a molar pregnancy, but mine was a complete molar. I ended up going to 14 weeks when they did the first u/s and found it was a molar. I ended up with a D&C. I would not worry about m/c if you are not having any bleeding and everything is okay then you should be fine. Try not to worry I know that is easier said then done.
2007-10-31 05:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by tylersmommy2007 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was told by my midwife that after you can hear the heart beat your chances drop to about 3%. One thing that might make you feel better is to rent a doppler, I love having one. I just check for a second every morning that my LO is still there and turn it off. It works best after 10wks. If at any time after 10wks you are worried you should be able to give your doctor a call to see if you can come in to hear the heart beat by doppler also. Chances are a nurse can see you for this and it only takes a few minutes.
I got mine at bellybeats.com for $25/month and will be send mine back this week since my LO is kicking every day now.
It sounds like you have a good pregnancy this time, congrats and good luck.
2007-10-31 05:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't worry sweetheart, i m going through the same thing. i had a previous miscarriage while carrying twince. ri now i m almost 13 wks pregnant. but like my dr explained to me, once u see a good heartbeat, the chances of miscarriage r very low, it goes down to only 3%. and don't forget we have a miscarriage if the baby is not forming properly, it was nobody's fault and there is nothing u or i or the dr could have done about it.
it sounds to me, ur pregnancy is going good so far and it will come to the whole term and u will deliver a healthy baby.
stop worrying and enjoy ur preganancy.
eat healthy. and good luck.
2007-10-31 05:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by jennifer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my sister went through something similar she is now 5 months pregnant. she had a miscarriage June of this year and she did not even have her period again before she started to feel pregnant again. She did not think it was possible that she could even be pregnant. She took 5 test and a blood test before she believed it. She is doing well really really tired and sometimes feel like her stomach is full of butterflies, but nothing happens. I think you will be fine just take good care of yourself and your baby will be fine. They say after a miscarriage you are more likely to get pregnant right away. Don't know why but it is like nature it giving you a second chance. You will be fine and so will your baby.
2007-10-31 05:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by sarah m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep a positive attitude, its an old saying that every pregnancy is different. Don't even think about miscarriage, take everyday at a time. I think its either 14 or 16 weeks when your chances drop of a miscarriage, so I think once you reach 16 weeks you will be out of the woods. Keep a positive attitude!!!!!
2007-10-31 05:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Miss 6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I think what you should do is talk to your doctor about how you are feeling so he can keep a close eye on you and assure you nothing is wrong. I would also try to stop worrying yourself because it is stressing you out and it is not good for the baby just relax and pray and i'm sure everything will turn out fine.
2007-10-31 05:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by mexican_angel4u2003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one can tell you your personal odds, but the longer you carry the pregnancy, the lower the likelihood of losing it. The first trimester have the highest odds of miscarriage. The odds change pretty dramatically after 12 weeks. So hang in there and try not to obsess (I know, easier said than done).
Good luck.
allie m.
2007-10-31 05:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by allie m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stress will be the worst thing for you. A couple we are friends with lost there baby at 21wks, and now they are around 25 wks with another one. I know it is hard not to worry but I almost lost my daughter(doctor told me I would lose it) very early. They said it was due to the huge amount of stress at that time of my life. Good luck with everything, take it easy & treat yourself to some comfort & self indulgence
2007-10-31 05:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Worm is back 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋