I asked my sil if she had anything to ask me. She told me no. I know that she does. Why? Because at one point she wanted to talk to me. I didn't. When I first met her I spoke to her and she looked at me and rolled her eyes and said hmmp(Like good riddance). After this I felt as if she didn't like me. So I stayed my distance from her. Now she wants to talk to me. She does not understand why I never say too much to her. She has to know why. I know she has issues against me but won't come out with them. How can I get her to be more open and honest with me on how she feels about me?
2007-10-31 05:05:34 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it's a good sign that your sister wants to talk. The best thing I think you could do for your sister is to be a good listener. You may not have all the answers to her problems, but by just listening to them and praying for her will help her with the burdens she is carrying. God bless you!!!
2007-10-31 05:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be direct - don't be wishy washy and beat around the bush. Ask her straight up how she feels about you.
The other route you could take is to start being "friends" with her. Invite her out to lunch and YOU PAY for it as a start. Then just meet for coffee and each of you pay for your own. Go shopping together, etc...
The thing is: are you compatible as "friends"??? If you don't have the same interests and compatible personalities - just leave her alone. Do the "holiday niceness" and move on with your life. Who cares what she thinks of you if you can never really be friends....
2007-10-31 12:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Dina K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with being open & honest with yourself! Never have an expectation for anyone that you wouldn't have for yourself first! If she was to tell you that she thought the exact same things about your first meeting that you did, how would you react??? Defensive, like no - that was YOU not me! Or can you handle looking at yourself through someone elses eyes & giving an honest apology for your behavior & try to start fresh? THINK before you act & point fingers!
2007-10-31 12:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you cannot change your sil, or for that matter, anybody else in the world, you have to change yourself.You should treat her with more respect, affection,openness and honesty.In due course of time your efforts will yield the desired fruits and peace and happiness will rule your family.
2007-10-31 12:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her very calmly and kindly that you'd like to sit down and get to know her better for the benefit of your family. Be nice, open and honest with her, too. Hopefully she will return the gesture.
Good luck.
2007-10-31 12:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by Growler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to earn her trust by showing her how you really are around life and that stuff. show her the real you...well if she is older then you, you need to like show her a great time around but if she is younger then you then still show her a great time around!
2007-10-31 12:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋