...I break up and then I contact again...why is this happening...like I have two personalities :)
2007-10-31 04:27:30 · 12 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Clearly there are problems you have with him, we're going to call that hating him. Also, there are things you like about him, since you once did want to date him and are still contacting him sometimes, we'll call that loving him.
The problem is we think we either love someone, or we hate them. When we get to the point of breaking up with someone we figure we must hate them (or at least not love them anymore). But it isn't true. Most of the time we're still feeling deeply about them, but we've discovered problems that overall make the relationship unworkable.
Sit and think about how much you love him, and think about the problems that drove you out of the relationship. Think about why you feel the way you do about loving and not loving him. Allow yourself to experience both types of feeling towards him, and you'll get a better perspective on the whole thing. It still takes time to get completely clear, of course, but so long as you attempt to deny one side of your feelings you'll always feel out of control (or like you have two personalities).
Knowing that you care for someone that you don't want to be with will help you to better understand yourself and your own needs.
Good luck.
2007-10-31 04:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by Rajeev 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do that. If you break up with a guy then it's over. Don't toy with a poor guys heart.
2007-10-31 04:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by Dani Marie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a comfort zone. Get out and meet someone new!
2007-10-31 04:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by . 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just try to remember that indecision is WORSE than no decision. Then decide on that.
2007-10-31 04:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Irish 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe your still searching for that perfect Mr. Right, when in reality, there is no such thing as a perfect Mr. Right!
2007-10-31 04:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just ambivalent. Make up you mind and stick to it. I really think you want out.
2007-10-31 04:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by JOHN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you have a high tolerance for other peoples "mistakes".
2007-10-31 04:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by redd headd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i is just because you're deeply in love with your man.. it is normal when you think you found the right one!
2007-10-31 04:33:22 · answer #8 · answered by mela 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love sux. You will get over it as it gets old.
2007-10-31 04:29:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i used to do that.was i acting weird?
2007-10-31 04:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by banzaiii 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋