so i just moved to california from canada and i'm in gr.10 i'm having a really hard time adjusting to the new enviornment and making new friends all over again. it may sound stupid but i really really miss my friends, i was really really close to them it felt like their my sisters or something. anyways so it's a really hard transition and my grades are suffering, especially math i used to be excellent at math and now i can't even get passed a D. i feel really bad i just want to forget about everything and move on but it's always in my mind. do i have depression? what should i do..mentally??
thank you!
2007-10-31 04:11:18 · 12 answers · asked by curious 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Depression is usually a feeling beyond the normal circumstances, and your feelings are very appropriate for the experience your are going through. Try and realize that all lives go through changes.
2007-10-31 04:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
about 5 years ago, I started to fall into a really depressive episode. At first I thought it was only because I had a bad break from a relationship but the feelings wouldn't go away even after I got a new girlfriend. It was wrecking my life until a point where it was seriously affecting my work and personal life.
She was very worried but at the same time couldn't understand why I was still sad and thought that I still couldn't let go of my previous relationship. Being the wonderful person that she is, she put aside her feelings and suggested I go for psychiatric evaluation. Many months later and even more anti-depressants, I was not coming close to being better at all.
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2016-05-16 03:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are having a hard time. Can you talk to your parents or a school counselor about this? It's really hard to move around. I was what they call a "Navy brat". My family moved constantly. I had a hard time with transition too. You sound very wise/mature to be recognizing that you are having difficulties. Talking about it can help you to sort out your feelings, and get some ideas from others on how to deal with these feelings. I kept a lot of my feelings inside. I know that was not a good idea now. Good luck and take care.
2007-10-31 04:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long ago did you move? It seems to me that what you are going through isn't clinical depression, but is just the normal 'hard times' many teenagers go through when they must move. To make your move more difficult, you didn't just move from one city to another, but from one country to another. I'm sorry you are having a difficult time, but welcome to the U.S!
Now ... why don't you talk to your math teacher, and tell him/her that you have just moved here from Canada, and ASK FOR SPECIAL HELP until you can get used to the differences in teaching style and in the course itself. Tell this teacher that you were good in math before you moved, and you still like math, but the 'upset' of moving has made it very difficult for you to learn ... you should get the help you need, and the teacher should also be a good friend who can help you make new friends at your new school. Then I suggest that you hold your head up, smile, and greet everyone with a hello or hi ... and you may find that telling them that you came from Canada, and that 'things are different' where you are now from where you lived there and asking for their help can lead to friendships and you feeling more comfortable, too.
IF you still feel 'sad' in 8 more weeks, and if you are still getting seriously low grades in math, THEN you should go to your parent or school counselor, and tell them that you need to talk to a therapist about your problems ... but YOU ARE NOT GOING INSANE, and you don't have 'clinical depression' ... but if you can't 'get out of this funk' then you could develop clinical depression, so you do NEED HELP.
2007-10-31 04:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you are feeling is completely normal.
we all don't want to lose contact with our friends.
you can stay in contact with them by sending emails & pictures of your new home & school.
smile when you see new people in school
join groups.
join clubs
you'll make new friends.
maybe the math is taught a bit differently.
speak with your teacher.
you are just going through a period of adjustment.
major adjustment..a new country & school.
look at it this way..you will have new adventures to explore in life.
life is about change.
nothing ever stays the same..as much as we want it to.
of course, i'm much older than you, but i do remember what it was like to be 15 years old.
you are not depressed..you are just adjusting to a new country & environment.
it's alot of change, & you will handle it.
i wish you all the best & you WILL make new friends.
2007-10-31 04:19:16 · answer #5 · answered by manhattanmaryanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't confuse sadness with depression:
depression is a suppression of feelings and an unwillingness to move on
sadness is an acceptance of your situation and a step towards healing
There's no use in crying over spilled milk... it hurts, but don't use it as an excuse to become an introvert
good luck
2007-10-31 04:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by Michka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you might have a mild depression which is normal under your circumstances It will pass with time but if it continues, talk to a school councilor or your parents for help.
2007-10-31 04:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Hirise bill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT is human nature to miss people you love,known and was emotionally attached to , it will take sometime to settle in a new place.However you will surely make new friends ,so do not loose hope. Look at the brighter side of things.and move on.
2007-10-31 04:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by dicovi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like depression. My advice is to go see a Psychiatrist, you may need talk therapy or drugs. I know getting treatment for Depression saved my life.
2007-10-31 04:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by Michael B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to mourn your past, accept that it's over and open yourself to your current situation.
Go to your library and find some books on Buddhism. Buddhism is a great way to learn how to accept the reality of your situation, which is one of the disciplines required to end suffering.
Find a way to jump into your new life with an open heart.
2007-10-31 04:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by Tikva 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋